Dealing with a long term break up

[ArtsieSteph]

I will not give details of what happened so that I can protect the identity and such of my ex-boyfriend

But I have to say, this sucks and I don’t like it. I’m dealing with a lot of emotional repression as well as I think even a little anger. Not at my ex-boyfriend but at the situation that happened. The fact that we’re not together anymore.

I so far have gone through the stages of being depressed and not wanting to go anywhere, as well as certain feelings of neutrality.

I find myself going on the Internet more as far as talking to people, maybe in a way to sort of make up for the lost social interaction and warmth of that person. But I’m worried that I’m being too attention seeking of people and not enough to God.

Do any of you guys know anyways to do tha? Those of you who have been through a long-term relationship and head it fall through?

 

[LightBright]

Well I've experienced similar situations and what helped me was the promise that all things work together for our good. Of course I didn't just shoot into joy the next day maybe just sulk for a bit grieving isn't wrong if you need to you should. Finally, I think talking to God and being honest is important, even if what you want is wrong or how you feel is wrong tell Him and ask him for help. So many times I would try to hide myself from God or put on a mask but I've found that being honest is much more effective and intimate. I've also been helped through it, hope this helps God bless.

 

[maxwel]

I suspect everyone around here has been through something like this.
You'll feel bad for a while, and then you'll get over it.
It will pass.

And there's nothing wrong with you because you feel bad, that's normal.

I recommend you find some mature chrstian girls around here to chat with in private.
Having some other girls to talk to will probably help.

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[Subhumanoidal]

I'll give the same advice i gave your ex-bf when he posted about this.
Healing takes time. Grieving is healthy and required. There is no magic formula to get past things, especially something like a long relationship ending.
Find a balance between giving yourself time to think and deal with everything and also spend time trying to avoid it so you don't dwell on it in excess.
These situations suck, but they do heal. Just give it some time and vent it out when you feel the need.

 

[ArtsieSteph]

I really struggled for a long time on whether to even post a thread because I didn’t wanna cause any kind of drama for myself or for him, but I am glad to be able to talk a little bit so that I can kind of deal with it to.

 

[EmilyFoster]

I’m so sorry to hear about your breakup, ArtsieSteph. I can certainly understand that you are hurting very much right now, and it's good of you to reach out here. I’m praying, asking God to surround you with His love, care and comfort. May He provide the encouragement, guidance and peace that only He can bring into this situation at this difficult time. Also, it might be helpful to get in touch with a counselor. I know that Focus on the Family can provide a free phone consultation with a licensed counselor if you call this number 855-382-5433. Hang in there!