Ghosting

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ToastAndTea

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With the world increasingly moving towards an online community, much of our relational activity is done through social media and online. For those who don't know, ghosting is when you have a relationship with someone over the internet (or any form of communication over an extended period of time) and they basically cut you off without ever telling you why. It can be pretty damaging and psychologically harmful for people to suddenly experience this rejection without even realizing what it is they did (or why they did it). Is there anyone else who has been a victim of this? How did it make you feel? What would you say to people who have experienced this and what are some tips do get over it?
 

Adstar

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Yeah i have experienced this three times.. It cuts ones heart each time.. One time it really did some damage it caused me to take actions to prevent myself and others online getting two close.. The only thing that helps is Time... I still get upset if i start to think about these people and how close we where.. So i try to avoid walking down those particular memory lanes..

It's like mourning the death of a loved one.. It hurts, but life goes on and time lessens the impact..
 
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best advice i can give you is stop falling in love with your computer screen it will never love you back.
 

Mezame83

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I still don't understand the why because i could never do it to someone but I've experienced this. It made me feel a whole array of emotions; confused, rejected, angry, depressed. It definitely hurts but we can always be certain that God is faithful. Another friend of mine told me recently about soul ties...
Pray for them and trust God knows what's best for theirs and your life. Letting go and letting God is often the hardest part but if you say your His, then you have to trust that there's a reason these things happen. Every Christian goes through things, it helps to mould our character but if we hold onto the past we can hinder what God has in store for us.

Col 3:1-2
1. If ye then be risen with Christ, seek those things which are above, where Christ sitteth on the right hand of God.
2. Set your affection on things above, not on things on the earth.

Phil 4:6-8
6. Be careful for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God.
7. And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.
8. Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.

Matt 11:28-30
28. Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.
29. Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls.
30. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.

Something that helped me is deliberately spending less time online and more time with God in prayer and His word.

God bless.
 
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I still don't understand the why because i could never do it to someone but I've experienced this. It made me feel a whole array of emotions; confused, rejected, angry, depressed. It definitely hurts but we can always be certain that God is faithful. Another friend of mine told me recently about soul ties...
Pray for them and trust God knows what's best for theirs and your life. Letting go and letting God is often the hardest part but if you say your His, then you have to trust that there's a reason these things happen. Every Christian goes through things, it helps to mould our character but if we hold onto the past we can hinder what God has in store for us.

Col 3:1-2
1. If ye then be risen with Christ, seek those things which are above, where Christ sitteth on the right hand of God.
2. Set your affection on things above, not on things on the earth.

Phil 4:6-8
6. Be careful for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God.
7. And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.
8. Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.

Matt 11:28-30
28. Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.
29. Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls.
30. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.

Something that helped me is deliberately spending less time online and more time with God in prayer and His word.

God bless.
So brilliant!
 
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With the world increasingly moving towards an online community, much of our relational activity is done through social media and online. For those who don't know, ghosting is when you have a relationship with someone over the internet (or any form of communication over an extended period of time) and they basically cut you off without ever telling you why. It can be pretty damaging and psychologically harmful for people to suddenly experience this rejection without even realizing what it is they did (or why they did it). Is there anyone else who has been a victim of this? How did it make you feel? What would you say to people who have experienced this and what are some tips do get over it?
Hey! It's nice there's actually a word for this. I didn't know that.

I was cut off by a serial-ghoster once - I actually think a psycho-path type. If I didn't know Jesus, I think I would have killed myself. As it was, I thought about it a lot. Since then, I have been much more interested in psychology than I was.

I've also done this to a few people, but they deserved it. Usually for dishonesty or unkindness. So I think to them the reason would be quite clear. I guess they could also have thought I died. Either way, it was for the best.

If you've been a victim of this, it's because you've accepted a deeper relationship with someone without knowing more about them. You've gone too far knowing too little. Find someone else, but get to know them better, sooner. And if you don't get to know them, don't accept a deeper relationship.