I don't know what to do

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SundayMorning88

SundayMorning88

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One of my bosses her birthday is tomorrow. One of my co-workers who plans luncheons for the bosses birthdays said we would all donate 20 bucks and we would all get pizza and cupcakes. a few of my co-workers and I decided to only put in $6. We talked about it and that was it all we did was talk. Then last week I gave her $20 thinking that everyone else was going to not knowing it would just be me and the co-worker. Today everyone told me they were only going to do $6 and plan their own thing because this coworker with the $20 the last party she planned she basically kept the money for herself. I'm incredibly angry that only me and one other 1 other co-worker gave her money. everyone is telling me to talk to her and ask for my money back but the problem is I'm worried she spent it and I don't want her to cause problems for me because she's been at the company for 7 years and she's very ghetto and assertive not to mention very demanding. Please help me I don't know what to do I only make $10 an hour that 20 bucks is a lot of money.
 
wisebeardman

wisebeardman

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two choices, make a scene and take that money back. or forget about it.
 
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Ugly

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Pretty much what he said. Some people simply cannot be handled well and will act out.

But i'm confused, you said a number of you agreed to only put in 6, then you put in 20. Now you're surprised no one else put in 20? You said it was 'only talk'. Well, what else did you need? Everyone talked about it, agreed to it, and did it what more is needed for you to have done the same? And why do you need to do what others do? If 20 is a lot for you then why not simply say you can't afford it and give less, regardless of what others do?
The way you have this worded puts everything on you, not anyone else.
 
SundayMorning88

SundayMorning88

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Ugly said:
Pretty much what he said. Some people simply cannot be handled well and will act out.

But i'm confused, you said a number of you agreed to only put in 6, then you put in 20. Now you're surprised no one else put in 20? You said it was 'only talk'. Well, what else did you need? Everyone talked about it, agreed to it, and did it what more is needed for you to have done the same? And why do you need to do what others do? If 20 is a lot for you then why not simply say you can't afford it and give less, regardless of what others do?
The way you have this worded puts everything on you, not anyone else.
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You know one of my co-workers said put in $20 then about 6 of them said we're all going to do $6 so I gave 20 thinking all of them were going to give $20. Turns out it was only me and one other co-worker. So I gave 20 to my coworker and 5 to other.
 
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Simao

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If she was a good person, she'd give you the money back. I would ask if I were you but if you think she's going to react negatively, then it'd be best to just move on and learn from your mistakes. Apart from that; Why give money to people if you know they have a bad attitude?
 
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SundayMorning88 said:
You know one of my co-workers said put in $20 then about 6 of them said we're all going to do $6 so I gave 20 thinking all of them were going to give $20. Turns out it was only me and one other co-worker. So I gave 20 to my coworker and 5 to other.
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One said $20
Six said $6
You gave $20 thinking everyone else was as well, despite being told different?
And so it worked out exactly as one would expect if you gave $20.
You literally reinforced my previous response.
 
blue_ladybug

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SundayMorning88 said:
You know one of my co-workers said put in $20 then about 6 of them said we're all going to do $6 so I gave 20 thinking all of them were going to give $20. Turns out it was only me and one other co-worker. So I gave 20 to my coworker and 5 to other.
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So if ONE of them said do $20, and SIX of them said only do $6, then WHY on earth would you do $20 when you KNEW SEVERAL of them were only going to do SIX dollars apiece? I mean, y'all DID talk about it and reach the conclusion that you were only going to do $6.. :eek::unsure: You basically screwed yourself out of that $20.

You gave $5 EXTRA to someone else, in addition to the $20? WHY??
 
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Sweetmorningdew78

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This is how I understood the situation...
SundayMorning88 said:
You know one of my co-workers said put in $20 then about 6 of them said we're all going to do $6 so I gave 20 thinking all of them were going to give $20. Turns out it was only me and one other co-worker. So I gave 20 to my coworker and 5 to other.
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This is how I understood the situation you talked to give 20$ but the other co-workers said they will only give 6$ but sis SundayMorning give 20$ because maybe SunudayMorninh thought that if she will give 20$ the others will follow instead of giving only 6$ but it turned out only her and the other co-worker who suggested to put 20$ gave 20$ each. So sis SunudaYMorninh wants to take the 20$ back and she wants to give 6$ instead but I know Maybe she is hesitating to do that...


For me if she really fella that she needs to just give 6$ like the others then maybe sis Sunday go to your co-worker who suggested to give 20$ and talk to her...tell her maybe let's also give 6$ like the others... but the question is...who is keeping the money? the one who suggested the 20$ contribution? if she is then approach her and tell her politely about it...like this sis the other co-workers gave 6$ each only and it seems like it is only you and me contributed 20$ can I take back my 20 and give 6$ instead? wait for her answer the co-worker will take it negatively or positively she might give it back to you...Because if I am the one who suggested for 20$ and the rest didn't cooperate...I will return to you the 20$ and I will ask for 6$ instead. But I will still give 20$ because the idea was from me to give 20$ it is up to them if they will give 20$ voluntarily or 6$...but here is another thing 20$ is a lot for me it is 1k+ pesos and I can feed myself for a week in that money...I understand but to make the situation easier for everyone i will just let it go besides the most important is the happiness your boss will going to feel on her special day 😊 and you know what to do next time.



My advice is just approach her politely if she is the one who is keeping the money 😊
 
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John4Christ

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My sister, our heavenly Father knew your intention of giving the money. See it as seed and not a loss.
God is able to give you much more than that. Please, forget about it. Thinking about it or trying to get
it might lead to something else. You are blessed!
 
EmilyFoster

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Hello, there. It’s good of you to share with us about your situation with your co-worker, and I’m so glad to hear that it’s been resolved. I was in a similar situation earlier where I chose to speak openly about the contribution. Too many outreaches and the contributions had come to a very high amount. I politely explained that I needed funds for something very important and others gracefully agreed. Sending prayers and hugs your way!
 
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