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Dec 17, 2018
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Hi guys, as you probably know by the title, I have been struggling with a porn addiction for some time. It started when I was 12. After watching it I vowed never to do it again, as it was somewhat traumatizing. About a year later I looked it up again, this time I actually enjoyed it. Every time I from then on when I tried to stop, I would get so overcome with guilt and instead of turning to Christ in the time of need, I turned back to porn, to get that momentary high and forget about the reality that is Christ. This would continue for hours and hours sometimes days, stopping only to eat or do homework(which at 13 there really isn't that much). this continued for about a year, and at 14 was the first time I masturbated. By then the guilt of watching porn had subsided and I was... okay with it. However after masturbating the first time at 14, I was over come with guilt, and a bit traumatized again. I didn't even think of sex until a month later when I saw a commercial . Then, like a switch, I had to have that release I felt a month before. Since then it has been a huge problem in my life. The longest I've gone was a week without masturbating(a few weeks ago) and I have to say I don't think I have felt that good in a long time. I was nicer, happier, and more willing to be productive with things like schoolwork. A few days ago, I fell back into the trap again and I don't know if I can get out. I hate the porn industry, and I hate how it advertises women like they're chunks of meat. Call me sexist, but as a man, I have the duty, and responsibility to protect and honor women. I Strongly feel this way and it enrages me to see guys take advantage of girls, and to see how the media presents women as nothing more than a pretty face with a big chest. But when I see those images, the switch flips and I am in my bathroom again... Ignoring everything God has been telling me my whole life. I reached out in Christian Chat hear because I am done "hoping" this will magically stop. I am addicted to masturbating and I need help. I have prayed to God over and over again but there is no change in my mind. I feel broken and helpless and I don't know what to do. I have never told anyone about this, so be nice with your criticisms please. I'm not an open person in real life and I don't know what I'm doing. I need help. As I write this X-rated images are floating through my head...please
 

blue_ladybug

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Erase any porn from your phone, computer, etc. Get some professional help. Don't ask us for advice, some of us are horrible at giving it. LOL

Hand it all to God and let Him take control of it. :)
 

Lafftur

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Hi guys, as you probably know by the title, I have been struggling with a porn addiction for some time. It started when I was 12. After watching it I vowed never to do it again, as it was somewhat traumatizing. About a year later I looked it up again, this time I actually enjoyed it. Every time I from then on when I tried to stop, I would get so overcome with guilt and instead of turning to Christ in the time of need, I turned back to porn, to get that momentary high and forget about the reality that is Christ. This would continue for hours and hours sometimes days, stopping only to eat or do homework(which at 13 there really isn't that much). this continued for about a year, and at 14 was the first time I masturbated. By then the guilt of watching porn had subsided and I was... okay with it. However after masturbating the first time at 14, I was over come with guilt, and a bit traumatized again. I didn't even think of sex until a month later when I saw a commercial . Then, like a switch, I had to have that release I felt a month before. Since then it has been a huge problem in my life. The longest I've gone was a week without masturbating(a few weeks ago) and I have to say I don't think I have felt that good in a long time. I was nicer, happier, and more willing to be productive with things like schoolwork. A few days ago, I fell back into the trap again and I don't know if I can get out. I hate the porn industry, and I hate how it advertises women like they're chunks of meat. Call me sexist, but as a man, I have the duty, and responsibility to protect and honor women. I Strongly feel this way and it enrages me to see guys take advantage of girls, and to see how the media presents women as nothing more than a pretty face with a big chest. But when I see those images, the switch flips and I am in my bathroom again... Ignoring everything God has been telling me my whole life. I reached out in Christian Chat hear because I am done "hoping" this will magically stop. I am addicted to masturbating and I need help. I have prayed to God over and over again but there is no change in my mind. I feel broken and helpless and I don't know what to do. I have never told anyone about this, so be nice with your criticisms please. I'm not an open person in real life and I don't know what I'm doing. I need help. As I write this X-rated images are floating through my head...please
Thank you! Thank you for your post! I was just wondering today if men that are addicted to masturbation are in pain. Your post was a God send to me!

Thank you for your openness and honesty! There are two sources of help I recommend for you:

1 - video "Yo Mama" with Mark Gungor; and

2 - Book "Every Man's Battle" by Steven Arterburn and Fred Stoeker
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tourist

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Hi guys, as you probably know by the title, I have been struggling with a porn addiction for some time. It started when I was 12. After watching it I vowed never to do it again, as it was somewhat traumatizing. About a year later I looked it up again, this time I actually enjoyed it. Every time I from then on when I tried to stop, I would get so overcome with guilt and instead of turning to Christ in the time of need, I turned back to porn, to get that momentary high and forget about the reality that is Christ. This would continue for hours and hours sometimes days, stopping only to eat or do homework(which at 13 there really isn't that much). this continued for about a year, and at 14 was the first time I masturbated. By then the guilt of watching porn had subsided and I was... okay with it. However after masturbating the first time at 14, I was over come with guilt, and a bit traumatized again. I didn't even think of sex until a month later when I saw a commercial . Then, like a switch, I had to have that release I felt a month before. Since then it has been a huge problem in my life. The longest I've gone was a week without masturbating(a few weeks ago) and I have to say I don't think I have felt that good in a long time. I was nicer, happier, and more willing to be productive with things like schoolwork. A few days ago, I fell back into the trap again and I don't know if I can get out. I hate the porn industry, and I hate how it advertises women like they're chunks of meat. Call me sexist, but as a man, I have the duty, and responsibility to protect and honor women. I Strongly feel this way and it enrages me to see guys take advantage of girls, and to see how the media presents women as nothing more than a pretty face with a big chest. But when I see those images, the switch flips and I am in my bathroom again... Ignoring everything God has been telling me my whole life. I reached out in Christian Chat hear because I am done "hoping" this will magically stop. I am addicted to masturbating and I need help. I have prayed to God over and over again but there is no change in my mind. I feel broken and helpless and I don't know what to do. I have never told anyone about this, so be nice with your criticisms please. I'm not an open person in real life and I don't know what I'm doing. I need help. As I write this X-rated images are floating through my head...please
Most guys have done what you have at one time or another so please know that you are not alone with this. Also know that God understands the human condition quite well and understands about your addiction. With God's help you will be able to overcome this but it will not be easy so be prepared to fight. God will be with you on this.

I am a drug addict and nicotine is my drug of choice and I have been struggling with this for years. I have prayed for God to deliver me from this evil habit but He didn't answer my prayer because He knew I was lying about wanting to stop. Lately, I have felt conviction on this and I intend to try once again to put an end to this habit once and for all. A lot of the members have been very supportive of me and I am sure that they will appreciate the struggle you are going through also and will pray for you as they have for me. As I have said, most of us have gone through this too so welcome to the brotherhood of man.

I will say a prayer for God to deliver you from this addiction. Perhaps He will deliver me from my addiction as I believe I am now serious about quitting.

The struggle is real.
 

Subhumanoidal

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I didn't attempt to read your post because, well, wall of text. Paragraphs are your friend.
The key here is "addiction". Just like drug or alcohol addiction won't go away by itself, or by reading a book, neither will porn addiction.
Things like web sites may have resources, but its going to take more than just visiting them. You'll need to be more proactive to get past this. Counseling should not be ruled out.

That said here's another link to help you with motivation. This site has lots of articles about the effects of porn on your brain, relationships. It shares real stories of people and the damaging effects porn had on their life.
It also gives behind the scenes info on the racism, rampant drugs use, blackmail, coercion, forced acts, the physical damage to performers and more.
It talks about the link between porn and sex trafficking.
It shares interviews with current and former employees in porn, both actors/actresses and directors and other behind the scene figures.
It will definitely make you think twice as these stories float through your head while firing up the PC.

But, again, it's just a resource and not a solution. Treat this like an addiction, because it is.
 
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Focusing on GOD and reading the scriptures will surely calm your mind and take your mind off that thing.

Keep calm and focus on GOD and its creations.

Happy Holidays..!!!
 
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I didn't attempt to read your post because, well, wall of text. Paragraphs are your friend.
The key here is "addiction". Just like drug or alcohol addiction won't go away by itself, or by reading a book, neither will porn addiction.
Things like web sites may have resources, but its going to take more than just visiting them. You'll need to be more proactive to get past this. Counseling should not be ruled out.

That said here's another link to help you with motivation. This site has lots of articles about the effects of porn on your brain, relationships. It shares real stories of people and the damaging effects porn had on their life.
It also gives behind the scenes info on the racism, rampant drugs use, blackmail, coercion, forced acts, the physical damage to performers and more.
It talks about the link between porn and sex trafficking.
It shares interviews with current and former employees in porn, both actors/actresses and directors and other behind the scene figures.
It will definitely make you think twice as these stories float through your head while firing up the PC.

But, again, it's just a resource and not a solution. Treat this like an addiction, because it is.
Umm... I have to admit that I saw that you had replied to this post on my newsfeed so I was interested to know what you'd said. (I hope you won't mind that. I didn't mean it like stalking or something.) The link and it's information looked like it would be very good... and that it would be a good resource to have to be able to share in related conversations. But I am not finding the link?
 

Lafftur

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Most guys have done what you have at one time or another so please know that you are not alone with this. Also know that God understands the human condition quite well and understands about your addiction. With God's help you will be able to overcome this but it will not be easy so be prepared to fight. God will be with you on this.

I am a drug addict and nicotine is my drug of choice and I have been struggling with this for years. I have prayed for God to deliver me from this evil habit but He didn't answer my prayer because He knew I was lying about wanting to stop. Lately, I have felt conviction on this and I intend to try once again to put an end to this habit once and for all. A lot of the members have been very supportive of me and I am sure that they will appreciate the struggle you are going through also and will pray for you as they have for me. As I have said, most of us have gone through this too so welcome to the brotherhood of man.

I will say a prayer for God to deliver you from this addiction. Perhaps He will deliver me from my addiction as I believe I am now serious about quitting.

The struggle is real.
Excellent post, tourist! Thank you! I appreciate you taking the time to bare your soul with us.

Your words blessed and encouraged me greatly! I’m sure Physics4Christ is also encouraged by your post! 😃👍
 

Subhumanoidal

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Umm... I have to admit that I saw that you had replied to this post on my newsfeed so I was interested to know what you'd said. (I hope you won't mind that. I didn't mean it like stalking or something.) The link and it's information looked like it would be very good... and that it would be a good resource to have to be able to share in related conversations. But I am not finding the link?
Oops, you're right. I was distracted when writing and forgot the link.

https://fightthenewdrug.org/
 

TabinRivCA

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Oct 23, 2018
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Most guys have done what you have at one time or another so please know that you are not alone with this. Also know that God understands the human condition quite well and understands about your addiction. With God's help you will be able to overcome this but it will not be easy so be prepared to fight. God will be with you on this.

I am a drug addict and nicotine is my drug of choice and I have been struggling with this for years. I have prayed for God to deliver me from this evil habit but He didn't answer my prayer because He knew I was lying about wanting to stop. Lately, I have felt conviction on this and I intend to try once again to put an end to this habit once and for all. A lot of the members have been very supportive of me and I am sure that they will appreciate the struggle you are going through also and will pray for you as they have for me. As I have said, most of us have gone through this too so welcome to the brotherhood of man.

I will say a prayer for God to deliver you from this addiction. Perhaps He will deliver me from my addiction as I believe I am now serious about quitting.

The struggle is real.
I do have some experience with cigarette smoking. I also prayed and started buying the 3 pk little cigarillos and then re-rolled them So when I ran out I wouldn't go buy any but would pick up long butts to smoke (not recommended). One I picked up got smashed but I desperately tried to smoke it and got a mouth full of soggy tobacco. It made me so sick of tobacco I quit. If you haven't tried eating some tobacco, force yourself and hope you et turned off to the awful stuff. There's over 4000 chemicals in a cig and so many beloved people have died from them, like Johnny Carson.
 
Dec 17, 2018
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To all of you who commented, thank you. For not only replying, but listening. I have been feeling alone for a long time and this made me feel a bit better :) After holding it in and not telling anyone for almost 6 years, I finally don't feel completely alone. As far as counselling, is there any such thing as a Christian Therapist? I'm not too fond of the way psychiatry is practiced... too much "I can help MYSELF"...If you disagree, let me know.
And for Tourist, Thanks for sharing! I will keep you in my prayers as well. I know you have the potential with God to keep it up.
 

Subhumanoidal

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To all of you who commented, thank you. For not only replying, but listening. I have been feeling alone for a long time and this made me feel a bit better :) After holding it in and not telling anyone for almost 6 years, I finally don't feel completely alone. As far as counselling, is there any such thing as a Christian Therapist? I'm not to fond of the way psychiatry is practiced... too much "I can help MYSELF"...If you disagree, let me know.
There are Christian counselors as well. But, to a degree, that's what psychiatry is. You have to do the work. And that's not unchristian. Its finding the balance between the often hyperspiritualization of Christian's and the atheistic or new age tendencies of self help counseling.
You don't want to get stuck in the "sit around and wait for God to fix you" mentality often taught by Christian's. God expects you to work too, most often.
 
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Sweetmorningdew78

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I know how hard it is... 😢 some people can instantly get out from this but for some people it is hard...


I was 16 when a Christian friend of mine invited me to sleep in their house...but before that she told me already about her watching porn videos... One day she invited me to sleep in their house and she convinced me that we will watch a video. It was the biggest mistake I did 😢 I made countless attempts to break it... I failed,I got up,I failed I got up.


It broke my heart...it gave me temporary pleasures but it tormented me every second of my life...I felt so dirty,I felt shame,I felt guilty.

When I accepted the Lord Jesus I prayed to break free from masturbation and watching porn videos but the change was not instantly... It was not an overnight change...During my path to healing I stumbled countless times I forgive myself for failing and asked God to forgive me and I kept moving on...I never looked back until I finally break free from this habit... God is always there to help us... Seek Him. Don't get discouraged you can stop it with God's help...remove the things that catches your eyes...videos, magazines,talk to a brother in Christ, keep yourself busy especially when you are alone and when you feel tempted turn to God immediately don't entertain it...remember that you didnt develop that habit overnight and you won't get free overnight...it is a process. Pray and pray and stay in the word the most important.


Remember that God knows everything He can see us...He can read our thoughts He can directly see what's inside our hearts...come to Him He is the only one that can deliver you from that habit. We can't without God's help.God is gracious loving and forgiving. He will change you but you have to be willing to forsake that habit...


God bless you I will remember you in my prayers ❤
 
Dec 17, 2018
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There are Christian counselors as well. But, to a degree, that's what psychiatry is. You have to do the work. And that's not unchristian. Its finding the balance between the often hyperspiritualization of Christian's and the atheistic or new age tendencies of self help counseling.
You don't want to get stuck in the "sit around and wait for God to fix you" mentality often taught by Christian's. God expects you to work too, most often.
Thanks, guess you're right. I should be more open minded. And I like what you said about balance. I'll give it a shot and look into it.
 
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Porn is a very vine tangling addition. It is vine tangling because once you cut one vine there is another vine growing right back. I grew up with my Father having Penthouse,Playboy,and Hustler magazines all over the house. I have struggled with porn my whole life due to this. Remember one thing sin is like Jesus on the cross. We are to crucify our flesh DAILY. Concentrate on SHORT term. The problem is that we talk our flesh off the cross and revive it before it is dead. And it will never die until we are dead. That is why Paul never said KILL OUR FLESH,he only said to CRUCIFY OUR FLESH. It is daily crucifixion. It will always be a struggle,but God has given us the ARMOR of God to use to combat the flesh and to fight our temptation. I am with you Brother. I will pray for your daily fights.
 
Dec 21, 2018
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Try replacing it. Don’t allow yourself free time and have short term and long term goals. Keep your mind elsewhere. Stay busy doing other important things. Keep focused on your daily goals.
 

ToastAndTea

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Remember you're not alone in your struggle. Also, there is no amount of willpower that can save you from the temptation to fall. You need to get out of the environment where you are tempted. If you know you are tempted to watch it late at night (for example), then don't allow yourself to sit and stew in that environment. Your mind will begin to wander.

Someone once suggested something to me - whenever you feel those temptations start to rise, stop everything. Switch it off and start to praise and worship God. Close the curtains. Get alone with God. Keep praying and that temptation subsides. Through spending time in God's presence and in His word, you will eventually find that thing weakened.

Lastly, consider making a list of all the scriptures in the Bible that pertain to lust. Pray them over yourself everyday as prayers. Praying God's word is extremely powerful. And don't stop until you have victory.