Why do so many girls / women expect a man

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...to make them to cheer up or to lagh?

"...he must be able to make me laugh."

Is it that they normally are too serious? (or bored)

Most women I know tend to be bossy or grumpy (even my mom) but I see that statement (above) too common, on a written form, and seldom heard, by their lips.

If any is kind enough, to know it for sure, I beg he /she to click on "LIKE" to be warned someone has a clue to this that puzzled me, today (Feb 12, 2014)

Thanks!
 
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I guess the answer for me would be because I am a person who appreciates humor, rather than giving a serious answer to most things, I would make a joke or something that would make other people laugh and because of this, I appreciate people who are like me and almost always making jokes and just in general making people happy.

On the other hand I know a few grumpy/bossy type women such as the ones you mentioned in your post and I think it's silly of them to want someone who can make them laugh, if you're always uptight even the most humorous person would get tired of you always being such a downer and walk away because it will be like a job; trying to make such a person laugh.
 
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When I say that I appreciate guys who can make me laugh, it means I appreciate it when they are not so uptight about life. I tend to be humorous myself so it is just something that I look for naturally. :)
 
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Who doesn't want someone, whether a friend, or spouse make them laugh? We want to be happy, laughter brings happiness.

However, making it a requirement as to what is expected of a man is wrong. They are seeking their own pleasures, to have someone to make them happy. I don't expect all men to be comedians. They can be serious, chivalrous, humorous, or gentle, because God created men and women with all kinds of personalities, and we should appreciate the person as a person.

Humor though, can be a positive personality trait when used correctly and at the right time. It's a difficult skill to perfect, and some may come more naturally than others. For me, it's difficult to be humorous. I try to be funny and often fail. It's a great people skill though; people will be drawn to positive and funny people that will be able to make them laugh, and sometimes it's used for public speaking to draw in the listeners. However, the negative side is that you will become a people pleaser or seek to be popular among people. You might want to keep making people laugh, so you will liked and loved by all people.

In the end, just be yourself.
 
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I agree with you, Wandering Flower! I guess it´d be a JOB no one would endure if he (she) is not that way you are and, considering your KINDNESS, if I get the lottery won, I would consider buying a desk like that you´ve liked.

I mean it! Just if I get as much as I can buy it, for you (not to ever feel obliged). :eek:

Thanks again, Wandering Flower.
 
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@ Jesusgirl!

I have heard you online, and I have felt (and liked) the way you are.

I´m sure you would never ask a thing you´ve never given first.

Thanks! I´m understanding the female side, by your inputs, better.
 
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...to make them to cheer up or to lagh?

"...he must be able to make me laugh."

Is it that they normally are too serious? (or bored)

Most women I know tend to be bossy or grumpy (even my mom) but I see that statement (above) too common, on a written form, and seldom heard, by their lips.

If any is kind enough, to know it for sure, I beg he /she to click on "LIKE" to be warned someone has a clue to this that puzzled me, today (Feb 12, 2014)

Thanks!
As a woman who is married to a man who always makes it his goal to make me smile, I can speak to this. When my husband hurts, I hurt. When he grieves, I grieve. When he's grumpy, I'm grumpy. Watching him smile makes my whole day. :) Yes, of course I expect him to cheer me up, but I anticipate that he expects the same from me.
 
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ww_21

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@ Jesusgirl!

I have heard you online, and I have felt (and liked) the way you are.

I´m sure you would never ask a thing you´ve never given first.

Thanks! I´m understanding the female side, by your inputs, better.

:eek: You just gave me something more valuable than that desk - a smile. Thank you my friend.
 
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Who doesn't want someone, whether a friend, or spouse make them laugh? We want to be happy, laughter brings happiness.

However, making it a requirement as to what is expected of a man is wrong. They are seeking their own pleasures, to have someone to make them happy. I don't expect all men to be comedians. They can be serious, chivalrous, humorous, or gentle, because God created men and women with all kinds of personalities, and we should appreciate the person as a person.

Humor though, can be a positive personality trait when used correctly and at the right time. It's a difficult skill to perfect, and some may come more naturally than others. For me, it's difficult to be humorous. I try to be funny and often fail. It's a great people skill though; people will be drawn to positive and funny people that will be able to make them laugh, and sometimes it's used for public speaking to draw in the listeners. However, the negative side is that you will become a people pleaser or seek to be popular among people. You might want to keep making people laugh, so you will liked and loved by all people.

In the end, just be yourself.
Hi, and thanks!

Those highlighted letters were the 1st impression I have got when visiting female profiles (and surfing the net). Being funny or gracious, according to my old fashioned ideas, were a natural condition of the self, particularly when a person feels (and is assured) he /she has found a person he /she likes.

Who doesn´t like to express his /her joy when he /she is on the company of those friends or liked ones? It is sensed, from the beginning, even traveling inside a subway.

Those things aren´t shared in normal talk, but these can be assumed, because few people like to be bossy or cheeky (according to my experience) but I felt it was a pre-requisite, a most sought, but now I guess it is a "thing" many would appreciate and like... I wondered why some women wished this on their dating profiles (perhaps I haven´t read men profiles).

Ha! Ha! No wonder! I´m not interested in knowing men. :cool:

I don´t think it is a skill. I know some of my friends have read books to be "funny", but GRACE comes from another source than a book: A GOD given gift.

Have you compared the voices of children and those SAME words said from adults? I´m sure there is a huge difference when you like kids more than adults. I find a rara grace adults have lost, somehow.

My friends read those jokes they learned and some were "successful" at laughing, but these jokes aren´t expontaneous, these aren´t theirs and, by the way, I have a "friend", an assistant who works for some friends and, each time I use my jokes, she says I learned from the internet. Ha! Ha! She thinks I sleep with my PC on, as a pillow. :eek:

Humor is an asset. I enjoy the jokes my sister does (or makes). I´m unsure to use "do" or "make". She is as secular (or mundane) as I am, but I enjoy how she sees life, how she enjoys her son and several things we often (or seldom) share (because she is somewhat hermit) because of her BUSY job: She also works at her home (a thing that stresses her and "removes" the natural tendency she has to make me laugh.

Just look at Jesus, here:

Mat 7:4 Why do you say toyour friend, 'Let me take that piece of dust out of your eye'? Look at yourself first! You still have thatbig piece of wood in your own eye.

Luk 6:41 "Why do you notice the small piece of dust that is in your friend's eye, but you don't see the big piece of wood that is in your own eye?

I guess OUR Lord was funny, sometimes. It wasn´t being cinic or shocky, but clear, with sound fun.

No wonder MANY FOLLOWED HIM during HIS earthly ministry. :eek:

Thanks, FishCross!
 
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As a woman who is married to a man who always makes it his goal to make me smile, I can speak to this. When my husband hurts, I hurt. When he grieves, I grieve. When he's grumpy, I'm grumpy. Watching him smile makes my whole day. :) Yes, of course I expect him to cheer me up, but I anticipate that he expects the same from me.
Acknowledged!

That seems to be part of being ONE FLESH. Love is sought to be reciprocal and wanted to be fun.

Thanks, Mrs Rose!
 

jandian

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It could just be an indication that he has emotional balance and that when the going gets tough; you can both sit down and have a good laugh..
 
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To me, it's a compatibility and verbal intimacy issue. I like laughing, and sometimes I even think I laugh too much or joke around too much. A guy who doesn't have a sense of humor probably wouldn't understand this side of me, which would be frustrating to me, frustrating to him, and frustrating to the universe :p .
 
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To me, it's a compatibility and verbal intimacy issue. I like laughing, and sometimes I even think I laugh too much or joke around too much. A guy who doesn't have a sense of humor probably wouldn't understand this side of me, which would be frustrating to me, frustrating to him, and frustrating to the universe :p .
You know it aint workin' when galaxies are gettin' flustered.
 
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For me I want a guy who can make me laugh just because life is more fun like that. If he can make me laugh I think its gonna be a good time for the both of us not only me. You live on this earth only once so why make it a sad, boring, depressing place when you can be a happy, positive, laughing person. And laughter makes you live longer so ;) haha

And I agree with what people have written. I want friends also, not only a man that can make me laugh. Its like the best cure for everything ^_^ Even God makes me laugh so laughter is just an amazing thing to have. And if you can make other people laugh. Thats a gift =)
 
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When I say stuff like that, it's because different guys have different senses of humor, and I want to be with someone who has the same sense of humor as me. I don't want him to be telling crude jokes or childish jokes or doing things that he thinks are funny while I think they're stupid. :p I want us to agree on what is funny.
 
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...to make them to cheer up or to lagh?

"...he must be able to make me laugh."

Is it that they normally are too serious? (or bored)

Most women I know tend to be bossy or grumpy (even my mom) but I see that statement (above) too common, on a written form, and seldom heard, by their lips.

If any is kind enough, to know it for sure, I beg he /she to click on "LIKE" to be warned someone has a clue to this that puzzled me, today (Feb 12, 2014)

Thanks!
It's a well know fact girls don't really have a sense of humour. A girl will only laugh about a guy's jokes when she wants him to find her attractive, not necessarily because she "gets" his humour. So if a girl complains a guy doesn't make her laugh, it's because she thinks she doesn't get enough attention of him. [I speak from experience, trust me]

*hides* :rolleyes:
 
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As per my personal opinion, God created man first then later a woman. Based on that man is masculine and have the firmness especially in decision-making. In fact, it's so seldom to find an emotional man. Henceforth, back to the statement " Why do girls/women, expects a man? ". It's because girls are double-minded and so emotional, considering that in decision- making in any aspects of life, woman are considerate enough, not to mentioned that they are bendable too. In addition, are you aware of think like a man and act like a woman?....how was that reflecting to the statement?
 
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To me, it's a compatibility and verbal intimacy issue. I like laughing, and sometimes I even think I laugh too much or joke around too much. A guy who doesn't have a sense of humor probably wouldn't understand this side of me, which would be frustrating to me, frustrating to him, and frustrating to the universe :p .
he oído que los latin@s somos muy juguetones y, en medio de eso, hay chistes que van del doble sentido a lo mundano y, como no solemos ser, SIEMPRE LITERALES, algunos ya ni sabemos qué es en serio y qué no lo es, hasta que las caras se enserian y, hasta en eso se mienten o bromean.

At my present age I have seen I still try to be funny... Two weeks ago I wnet to my doctors. Some bugs bit my leg and, as a response, I told one of them: ¡Doctora! Ya ni dejo que me piquen el ojo (Dr! I do not let people wink their eyes at me) and, in Spanish, mosquitoes bit as mosquitos "pican", but I saw one of the doctors couldn´t get it. What I think is my mood, at my age, could be confused by the gap of new generations, since -old- are somewhat old while some jokes are old fashioned.

So I agree with you in that of verbal intimacy issues, particularly if you ever had heard what men say when they had to visit a doctor to check their "prostata"... I will not go again! :) (Mens certainly play with words and I have heard women TOO, but they hide that in the presence of some men)
 

maxwel

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Why do so many girls expect a man to make them laugh?

Girls always laugh when they look at me...
so it's really no added stress on my part.

: )