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Elle07

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1. When would be the right time to love again after a breakup?

2. Do you think 3 months rule is applicable?

3. Should you remain friends with your ex?
 
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1. When would be the right time to love again after a breakup?

2. Do you think 3 months rule is applicable?

3. Should you remain friends with your ex?
Nice topic.. uhmmmm
1. I think the right time to love again after a break up is when you know within yourself that you have already moved on with your past relationship. You will know that when you are already emotionally healed and you can already give the 100% of your love to your future.

2. I don't believe in 3 mos rule. But I believe that everyone deserves to be loved 100%. So don't enter into a new relationship when you are not yet healed and ready.

3. A big no. Especially when you are already in a new relationship or your ex is. It is giving respect to the current relationship. Maybe can be an acquiantance but not as a friend anymore.

May pinagdadaanan ka ba? Hehe. Nandito lang ako kung need mo ng karamay. Ajah!
 

maxwel

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Apr 18, 2013
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1. When would be the right time to love again after a breakup?

2. Do you think 3 months rule is applicable?

3. Should you remain friends with your ex?
Does your heart come with a meter, so you can measure it?

So why would you want to "measure" matters of the heart, like how long it should take for your heart to heal?

There is no specific time for any of the things you mentioned.
There is no specific answer.

A good rule of thumb is to spend some time ALONE, focusing more on prayer and scripture, and just allow yourself time to heal.
When you can focus on your own life, and on your own walk with God, and stop thinking about your ex... then your probably ok.

BTW, if you're still worried about your emotional healing, and you're still asking others what they think... like you're doing here... THEN YOU'RE NOT OVER IT.


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Elle07

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Apr 4, 2019
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Does your heart come with a meter, so you can measure it?

So why would you want to "measure" matters of the heart, like how long it should take for your heart to heal?

There is no specific time for any of the things you mentioned.
There is no specific answer.

A good rule of thumb is to spend some time ALONE, focusing more on prayer and scripture, and just allow yourself time to heal.
When you can focus on your own life, and on your own walk with God, and stop thinking about your ex... then your probably ok.

BTW, if you're still worried about your emotional healing, and you're still asking others what they think... like you're doing here... THEN YOU'RE NOT OVER IT.


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Well what you said is not wrong. Obviously like you said heart is not a meter and definitely not over it but by God’s grace he is healing me.

Those 2 questions are obviously going to be asked by unbelievers. It’s ridiculous to have a timeline on healing. Time heals and God heals. The only question coming from me is the third one.

Just a question for you: Have you had your heart broken by a believer also?
 

fredoheaven

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Nov 17, 2015
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1. When would be the right time to love again after a breakup?

2. Do you think 3 months rule is applicable?

3. Should you remain friends with your ex?
Ito marahil maganda:

1. Manalangin ng todo para alamin ang kalooban ng Diyos. Kaysarap ang bunga ng panalangin.
2. Konsulathin and iyong Pastor. Pastors knows best
3. Mas mainam huwag makipag realsyon pa habang nag-aaral.
4. Kailangan Establish muna sarili, physcal, metal, emotional at finacial.
5. Huwag magmadali.

Kasi madali lang yan. If you are a guy mas marami ang gals. Don't forget hindi na
kailangan matagal ang isang realasyon bilang magboyfriend o girlfriend. Si Adan at Eva, instant
si Mary t Joseph instant din. Si Jacob to Rachel matagal ciguro nagmamadali sya. hehehe.

Anyway better pray and pray. Seek and you shall find....

God bless
 

maxwel

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Apr 18, 2013
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Well what you said is not wrong. Obviously like you said heart is not a meter and definitely not over it but by God’s grace he is healing me.

Those 2 questions are obviously going to be asked by unbelievers. It’s ridiculous to have a timeline on healing. Time heals and God heals. The only question coming from me is the third one.

Just a question for you: Have you had your heart broken by a believer also?
1. "Should you remain friends with your ex?"

That depends on how you define "friend."
If you want to spend a lot of time around them, and hang out as friends, and expect everything to be as it once was... that is probably a mistake.
But if you just want to be polite to them, and keep some reasonable distance, that is probably ok.

Ultimately, this is one more issue for which there is no rule.
Here, rather than relying on clear rules, we must rely on what the Bible calls "prudence."
Prudence is to think deeply about the POSSIBLE CONSEQUENCES of your actions... and then act upon the wisdom you gain from that deep reflection. It means to really think about what might happen, and then USE SOME CAUTION.

When striving for prudence, it's also good to seek counsel.
Sometimes older Christians have been through the same things, and they can give good advice.

For many things in life we have no clear rules; we just have to think deeply about a thing, and then act with prudence.


2. "Have you had your heart broken by a believer?"

Yes. More than once.
I don't think every painful thing we go through is necessarily bad for us.
It's part of how we learn, and grow, and gain wisdom.

If your heart has been broken, then it helps you to understand others, and to be more empathetic.

God teaches us a lot by letting us go through things that hurt.
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TabinRivCA

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Oct 23, 2018
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#7
1. When would be the right time to love again after a breakup?

2. Do you think 3 months rule is applicable?

3. Should you remain friends with your ex?
1. You can love many people as brothers and sisters in Christ and if you meet someone special, you will know.
2. No time barriers, just mingle with Christian friends and live your life.
3. I wouldn't hate an ex but would not want him hanging around which would stir up memories.

God bless and keep busy!