Would it be wrong of me to reject a girl just because she has some stds as...
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Take 'I'm' out of the equation, DotHack0, K?
God will totally take care of you, why do you need to ask this question at all? Seriously, and, when I say 'Ask God why,' it is like Desa said, pray to God, don't prepare a relationship, let it become a la naturale through God as you deepen your relationship with Him as you your faith quickens and more freedom.is given you as reward.
You can ask God outloud for things too but definitely pray for His leading in your mind. God will direct your path, let your thoughts be known to Him, let His Holy Spirit guide you to do a relationship right with a girl and that includes God's helper (Holy Spirit) helping through that first dinner date.
God will never leave you or forsake you. Knowing that, you do not need to be afraid of things that can harm you. Just pray for God to protect you and that you are in a relationship that best will glorify Him.
. Proverbs 3 says, trust in the Lord with all thine heart and lean not on your own understanding. In all thy ways ackknowledge Him and He shall direct thy (your) path.
Take 'I'm' out of the equation, DotHack0, K?
God will totally take care of you, why do you need to ask this question at all? Seriously, and, when I say 'Ask God why,' it is like Desa said, pray to God, don't prepare a relationship, let it become a la naturale through God as you deepen your relationship with Him as you your faith quickens and more freedom.is given you as reward.
You can ask God outloud for things too but definitely pray for His leading in your mind. God will direct your path, let your thoughts be known to Him, let His Holy Spirit guide you to do a relationship right with a girl and that includes God's helper (Holy Spirit) helping through that first dinner date.
God will never leave you or forsake you. Knowing that, you do not need to be afraid of things that can harm you. Just pray for God to protect you and that you are in a relationship that best will glorify Him.
. Proverbs 3 says, trust in the Lord with all thine heart and lean not on your own understanding. In all thy ways ackknowledge Him and He shall direct thy (your) path.
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I hate to sound judgmental but I seriously doubt that I would ever get romantically involved with anyone with an STD. Not because of the disease itself per say because I do believe that God can and does heal such things. However, most STD's are transmitted due to carelessness and a lack of self control which to me is a cause for concern in the area of that's person's own character.
Now I do realize that a woman who was once married, yet not guilty of adultery, has no control over who her ex-husband, guilty of adultery, had slept with without her knowing. - While I would never condemned someone who has been divorced for dating or remarrying, personally, I would not date a divorced person. I just don't see where the scriptures gives such license for a single person, never married, to do so. However, that is just my personal opinion. A widow, on the other hand, is a completely different matter and one I would have to take into deeper consideration.
Now I do realize that a woman who was once married, yet not guilty of adultery, has no control over who her ex-husband, guilty of adultery, had slept with without her knowing. - While I would never condemned someone who has been divorced for dating or remarrying, personally, I would not date a divorced person. I just don't see where the scriptures gives such license for a single person, never married, to do so. However, that is just my personal opinion. A widow, on the other hand, is a completely different matter and one I would have to take into deeper consideration.
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This is just me, I personally have herpes(the cold sore kind). I wouldn't even give someone with aids/HIV a romantic time of day. No way no how. I would be a friend, but that's it. But because of my herpes, I have to get to know someone and how they would react when I get cold sores on my lips, one guy I dated would give a lot of Eskimo kisses, or he would kiss my neck(which is my favorite place). My sister and her husband have been married for 15 years and he gets big huge cold sores all the time and she has never gotten one. So either they never kiss or she just doesn't get them.
I think it's a personal decision whether someone were to date someone with an std. Its one that doesn't come lightly. And I hope that people go into it with both eyes stapled wide open before deciding if its for them or not.
Anyways, that's my opinion.
I think it's a personal decision whether someone were to date someone with an std. Its one that doesn't come lightly. And I hope that people go into it with both eyes stapled wide open before deciding if its for them or not.
Anyways, that's my opinion.
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I'd stick to someone who is STD free personally. I mean there's some serious issues to consider, how did they get it? Was it a life style choice that lead to this? Are you willing to get it? What about having children? I mean there's a lot of questions. I'd think the pool would have to be pretty shallow.
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1. Why are you asking this question in preparation for dating? Do you already know someone that has an STD? Just curious why your mind is going here, you don't have to answer anyone's questions.
2. It's a good question and gets people talking about it. Lots of people have STD's and are either too embarrassed to talk about it or don't know they have one.
3. Almost everyone by the time they have reached their 40's has been exposed to HPV and 1 in 5 have HSV. I have had these talks with my kids.
4. You can be in a relationship with someone with an STD and never contract it. I had a friend who was with a man for over 10 years with HIV and never contracted it. It's harder than you think to contract it if proper protection is used. Not advocating that relationship (they weren't married) or premarital sex.
5. The standard STD test does not cover HSV & HPV. You have to request it. If you are male there is no test for HPV. If you are female, you can get tested for HPV DNA along with your annual PAP. Hundreds of stains of HPV and it can cause cervical cancer. Get educated, it can't hurt. I have had "high risk" cervical cancer and it comes from a strain of HPV. Thank goodness I no longer deal with this but many, many women do.
6. If you are sexually active, you should make sure that you and your partner have documented proof that they have no STD's or are educated on the ones that they have. Make sure they get the extra tests -- lots don't even know they have it. Don't judge before you get your test results.
7. Always use protection. Also, know that condoms do not prevent all STD's. Again, not advocating sex outside of marriage but people do it and if they are going to, it's better to be educated.
8. Lots of people get involved in "mixed" relationships with someone that has an STD and never contract anything. Some people have no symptoms at all. Most people won't tell you they have one, so better to be in a relationship with someone that is honest. Don't walk away from a great girl or guy just because of a skin rash. What would Jesus do?
Hope this educated and opened people's minds about this. Would you reject a woman that had a baby out of wedlock due to a rape? Would you reject someone that was given and STD by a spouse that didn't tell? Be careful before you judge someone. Always pray and seek God's will in every situation.
2. It's a good question and gets people talking about it. Lots of people have STD's and are either too embarrassed to talk about it or don't know they have one.
3. Almost everyone by the time they have reached their 40's has been exposed to HPV and 1 in 5 have HSV. I have had these talks with my kids.
4. You can be in a relationship with someone with an STD and never contract it. I had a friend who was with a man for over 10 years with HIV and never contracted it. It's harder than you think to contract it if proper protection is used. Not advocating that relationship (they weren't married) or premarital sex.
5. The standard STD test does not cover HSV & HPV. You have to request it. If you are male there is no test for HPV. If you are female, you can get tested for HPV DNA along with your annual PAP. Hundreds of stains of HPV and it can cause cervical cancer. Get educated, it can't hurt. I have had "high risk" cervical cancer and it comes from a strain of HPV. Thank goodness I no longer deal with this but many, many women do.
6. If you are sexually active, you should make sure that you and your partner have documented proof that they have no STD's or are educated on the ones that they have. Make sure they get the extra tests -- lots don't even know they have it. Don't judge before you get your test results.
7. Always use protection. Also, know that condoms do not prevent all STD's. Again, not advocating sex outside of marriage but people do it and if they are going to, it's better to be educated.
8. Lots of people get involved in "mixed" relationships with someone that has an STD and never contract anything. Some people have no symptoms at all. Most people won't tell you they have one, so better to be in a relationship with someone that is honest. Don't walk away from a great girl or guy just because of a skin rash. What would Jesus do?
Hope this educated and opened people's minds about this. Would you reject a woman that had a baby out of wedlock due to a rape? Would you reject someone that was given and STD by a spouse that didn't tell? Be careful before you judge someone. Always pray and seek God's will in every situation.
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I like the good way of this being explained for you, DotHack0. The Lord leads. I would just say to not worry about STD or anything else with a girl you like, let the Lord lead you, and, her, and, if it is something like AIDS then that would need attention, of course.
I kinow you are being sincere in your asking these questions, DotHack0, I can hear the honesty and even the innocence in your asking and even your responses to others. Just, my Christ bro, let Jesus lead your llife in ALL areas, learn to understand Him more and more, through the bible, your pastor, reaching out for good positive stimuli, like christian chat, like christian music station (www.spirit1053.com), like church pastor or youth leader, or whatever that God gives you to spend time doing or whoever He puts in your life to spend time doing things. Everything else is easy if you learn to follow Him. Learning is not the hard part either, we have learned long ago that God's ways are tough and boring sometimes even but His ways are BEST for us. The hard part is obeying and in so doing there will be great JOY in your 'boring' life
God bless you, DH0, and, you too, Flower
I like the good way of this being explained for you, DotHack0. The Lord leads. I would just say to not worry about STD or anything else with a girl you like, let the Lord lead you, and, her, and, if it is something like AIDS then that would need attention, of course.
I kinow you are being sincere in your asking these questions, DotHack0, I can hear the honesty and even the innocence in your asking and even your responses to others. Just, my Christ bro, let Jesus lead your llife in ALL areas, learn to understand Him more and more, through the bible, your pastor, reaching out for good positive stimuli, like christian chat, like christian music station (www.spirit1053.com), like church pastor or youth leader, or whatever that God gives you to spend time doing or whoever He puts in your life to spend time doing things. Everything else is easy if you learn to follow Him. Learning is not the hard part either, we have learned long ago that God's ways are tough and boring sometimes even but His ways are BEST for us. The hard part is obeying and in so doing there will be great JOY in your 'boring' life
God bless you, DH0, and, you too, Flower
HIV is actually a very weak virus. It's pretty hard to catch. It's almost exclusively caught from needle sharing and unprotected sex with enormous amounts of partners...it's not just something normal people catch, even when you have casual sex with people you recently met that are not your partner.
There are preventative measures for you not to catch it at all.
All that being said, I still wouldnt do it.
There is no wrong or right answer. Entirely up to you.
There are preventative measures for you not to catch it at all.
All that being said, I still wouldnt do it.
There is no wrong or right answer. Entirely up to you.
