Want vs. Need. Hmmm....
Well, they don't have to be enemies, the 2. Although, Need will definitely predominate over the Want, that is certain. God would want the very best for our spiritual growth, and His purpose for our lives coupled with that special someone. But of course, He considers our preferences as well. He wants us to be absolutely delighted and lost for words when He brings us together with "the one" He meant for us
. There will be an outpouring of endless praise and thanks to our Lord, coz He deserves it for being so awesome a matchmaker!!
Do i list my preferences? Well, maybe not everything? XD Mystery keeps things interesting.
I do have a set of physical preferences in mind, although from experience, happiness isn't assured by having an absolutely gorgeous partner. It's still all about character, personality, his set of principles, and his faith, most of all. But i won't be a hypocrite XD he has to have awesome eyes and an equally awesome smile
I have no age, race, nor height specifications. But i do want someone to be at their very best, since that is what i'm pushing for myself. Not necessarily career-wise (i'm not looking for a millionaire, but certainly someone not in debt), but in terms of taking care of their body, and most of all, their spiritual life. I want him to strive to be closer to God everyday. I want him to be a Christian, no question. Had relationships with non-Christians, and they obviously never worked 'coz i'm single again XD and God never really supported them. But a Christian boyfriend by itself isn't always the ticket. I've learned to view relationships at long term. If i find that the guy's plans for our married life isn't something that sits well with me, and he doesn't see what's wrong about it and insists on it after we talked, then i'll be considering ending it coz i know it's not the married life i would want to have and would just be miserable with it.
I was thinking of making a short list about some specific things, but i changed my mind XD (that mystery thing again?) but instead, i'll write some preferences based on what i've learned in my past relationships. I want a guy who shines specially when it counts. Like during crisis situations (not buckling under pressure, not shouting and throwing the blame, patient and focused, tougher than me). Someone who loves challenges, and not afraid of difficulties (had a guy who always chose easy setting when playing games, then constantly swears when he loses...so childish and well, it really turned me off). Someone who will never lay a hand on me, nor mentally and emotionally abuse me (yup, had that too). Someone who will be the man in the relationship (can make decisions for us, and aims to be able to support us both. Being the man in the relationship really sucked for me). Someone who i trust and respect, and who trusts and respects me. Someone who is genuinely blown away by my appearance, even though i'm not wearing make-up or fancy clothes (i'd find that weird, but very pleasant XD). Someone who strives to be closer to Christ everyday, and inspires me to be as well. Someone who brings out the best in me, and vice versa. My mirror and my complement at the same time.
Whether he is still on the way or not, i don't know. I've come to the point where i'm finally at peace with whatever God would want for me. I just set my eyes upon Him as He shows me new and amazing things everyday through His Word and what He brings into my life. And maybe all of a sudden, He'll just add "him" up to me, who knows? (Papa God does know that i love surprises
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