What is the fastest that you've instantly connected deeply with someone?

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Liamson

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Just before I headed to San Diego.

I went to a Paschal celebration with a couple of my buddies.

Pascha at St. Justin Martyr in Jacksonville the year before, was unforgettable. I was with my best friend and it was my first time. I wanted the magic again. I wanted to feel the words of the Liturgy. I wanted to immerse myself in the symbolism and the richness that being there meant to me before.

So my expectations were ridiculously high. I had brought wine and bread and some store bought fruit salad.

My friends brought something similar but, this was something they did more than I did.

The first part of the holiday starts before midnight. Its late and I'm eager for it all.

After walking around the church a couple of times, break from the ceremony of things and head to the room where there will be feasting.

A friend of mine introduces me to this beautiful girl. She was holding her heels in one hand and a glass of wine in the other. The first thing she says is, "I'm surprised they let you drive here. I hear you have problems with knowing which pedal is the brake and which one is the gas. That's okay though cause, I have a few narrow escapes of my own." (or something to that effect)

I was so instantly captivated by her that I spent the better part of 2 days hanging on her every word and her on mine. I knew it couldn't last as anything but, I will never forget how easy it was. I thought she was so smart and so mature and so exciting. She must be at least 26. When I finally had to say goodbye, I asked her how old she was. She said she was 19. I was shocked and sort of awe struck, she had so many stories and so much life that she had lived and she was drinking wine in church. She said something like, "If you look like you know what your are doing, no one will question you."

Fast forward 2-3 months later and I'm on a plane. I was in no position for a relationship and I didn't talk to her again after that weekend. But I believed anything was possible after meeting her. I shouldn't say I believed, I should say I knew it.

I still believe that anything is possible. It doesn't have to be something as magical as the candle light of a midnight church service or Disneyworld but, the magic exists. We just have to be open to it. :)
 

mystdancer50

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I have never instantly connected with anyone. I'm kind of a closed person. There are only two people that really and truly know me: my mom and Jesus Christ. :)
 
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Donkeyfish07

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Ahh....I live for that kind of thing. It's what makes life interesting. Sometimes I'll meet someone, and it happens the instant we lock eyes. I know it, she knows it, we both know that we both know and the introductions and the first part of the conversation is just a formality....we both know whats going on under the surface. It's really rare to be so mutually sucked into each other right from the start but that's why I like to meet a lot of people. Being open to experiences like that and taking some risks can lead to some truly unforgettable moments.

P.S. Why on earth didn't you ask her out?
 
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Jullianna

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Ten minutes. It took ten minutes. He joined a conversation I was having with other people. He was funny, witty and extremely well informed. I knew instantly that I would love to talk with him for hours on end.

I was so involved in the conversation with everyone that I apparently missed that he was flirting with me. He apparently became frustrated that he did not have my full attention, muttered an expletive that I can't post here, said "I'm not accustomed to being ignored", and started to walk away. The fact that I did not immediately fall at his feet seemed to confuse him and it struck me as very funny. I started laughing and he turned around with the most bizarre look on his face, then he started laughing too. It was magic. Not everyone's idea of magic, but it was mine. :)
 
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KJV15John11

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Ahh....I live for that kind of thing. It's what makes life interesting. Sometimes I'll meet someone, and it happens the instant we lock eyes. I know it, she knows it, we both know that we both know and the introductions and the first part of the conversation is just a formality....we both know whats going on under the surface. It's really rare to be so mutually sucked into each other right from the start but that's why I like to meet a lot of people. Being open to experiences like that and taking some risks can lead to some truly unforgettable moments.

P.S. Why on earth didn't you ask her out?
I was so instantly captivated by her that I spent the better part of 2 days hanging on her every word and her on mine. I knew it couldn't last as anything but, I will never forget how easy it was. I thought she was so smart and so mature and so exciting. She must be at least 26. When I finally had to say goodbye, I asked her how old she was. She said she was 19. I was shocked and sort of awe struck, she had so many stories and so much life that she had lived and she was drinking wine in church. She said something like, "If you look like you know what your are doing, no one will question you."
Yeah, why the heck didn't you? You say that you can't find a woman in your area. God then brings you a woman that you instantly sync up with. What more do you want?
 

Fenner

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I remember feeling that instant connection with my husband. We clicked immediately. His best friend, who's known me for a long time said at our wedding, "I knew as soon as you two started talking that this day would come." I don't know if he was just saying that because it was our wedding day, but I wasn't surprised it happened either.
 

XYZ

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I met my first girlfriend on the beach during a summer fete. She was wearing a blue tie-die vest, ripped jeans and a pair of old beat up converse and had jet black hair and a lip piercing. She was sitting by the stage listening to the band that I was listening to. She looked at me, I looked at her. Five minutes later we were holding an ice cream in one hand and each others' hand in the other.
 
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xXErraticEmilyXx

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When I started my first job, I shadowed one of my coworkers.
As soon as I shook his hand, I just felt kind of safe like he was someone I could trust.
That was on a Sunday morning, but on my first night to work there, we were talking about all kinds of deep things ranging from psychology, religion, family, lots of things. I think that there's more meaning in a hand shake than most people give it credit for. It sort of creates a foundation and if the foundation is weak or uneven, the house can fall through. When you have a good foundation, you can build a fortress that protects your friendship.
 
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Relena7

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To be honest, I feel disconnected with nearly every new person I meet. Unless maybe they are a tad eccentric. I connect faster with quirky people than "normal" ones. Even if they have opposite personalities to me. I can't really explain it.

Mostly I take my time getting to know new people. I'm one of those people who like having time to observe before I dive in.
I automatically guard myself from new people pretty well, sometimes a little too well. But once I let someone in, they stay close to my heart for a very long time.
 
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MissCris

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The fastest I've instantly connected with someone...hmm...

Our eyes met across a crowded room, and in that moment, I knew it was...LUUUURRRRRVE...

Um...ha, no, seriously...

Probably about as long as it took for him to say, "You're not going to ask me for money, are you?"
 

AsifinPassing

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Jul 13, 2010
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Just before I headed to San Diego.

I went to a Paschal celebration with a couple of my buddies.

Pascha at St. Justin Martyr in Jacksonville the year before, was unforgettable. I was with my best friend and it was my first time. I wanted the magic again. I wanted to feel the words of the Liturgy. I wanted to immerse myself in the symbolism and the richness that being there meant to me before.

So my expectations were ridiculously high. I had brought wine and bread and some store bought fruit salad.

My friends brought something similar but, this was something they did more than I did.

The first part of the holiday starts before midnight. Its late and I'm eager for it all.

After walking around the church a couple of times, break from the ceremony of things and head to the room where there will be feasting.

A friend of mine introduces me to this beautiful girl. She was holding her heels in one hand and a glass of wine in the other. The first thing she says is, "I'm surprised they let you drive here. I hear you have problems with knowing which pedal is the brake and which one is the gas. That's okay though cause, I have a few narrow escapes of my own." (or something to that effect)

I was so instantly captivated by her that I spent the better part of 2 days hanging on her every word and her on mine. I knew it couldn't last as anything but, I will never forget how easy it was. I thought she was so smart and so mature and so exciting. She must be at least 26. When I finally had to say goodbye, I asked her how old she was. She said she was 19. I was shocked and sort of awe struck, she had so many stories and so much life that she had lived and she was drinking wine in church. She said something like, "If you look like you know what your are doing, no one will question you."

Fast forward 2-3 months later and I'm on a plane. I was in no position for a relationship and I didn't talk to her again after that weekend. But I believed anything was possible after meeting her. I shouldn't say I believed, I should say I knew it.

I still believe that anything is possible. It doesn't have to be something as magical as the candle light of a midnight church service or Disneyworld but, the magic exists. We just have to be open to it. :)

Makes me think of the 'Zing' they talk about in Hotel Transylvania...and this song: Christina Perri - "A Thousand Years" captured in The Live Room - YouTube

That aside, I do believe it's possible for people to experience a sort of 'Spiritual' connection even as quickly as at a glance. On a less romantic note, think of how often someone references the phrase 'Kindred Spirits'. Sometimes you just connect with someone, and you can feel it happen most of the time (if not all the time).

As for me, I believe there have been some, but I can't recall a particular one. Most of those memories are painful and past, so after I'd wallowed with them in the pit of despair, they were locked away somewhere in the recesses of my hear and mind.
 

MrHonest

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I don't have a fastest because I have to ask a lot of questions to trust people but it would have to be with my God gifted current gf/fiance. but I video-game connected with a few people where you just play with them and everything is just completely cooperatively understanding in what they should be doing and what I should be doing... thats like magic to me its rare. Hahaha I think you guys will not agree but it really is important to have that kind of friend even in a game imagine playing any type of game, sports or darts or chess and that person just matches you and makes it that much more exciting, yeah thats what I mean.
 

Liamson

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I didn't ask her out because I had orders from the Navy to San Diego.

Also I had a couple of other women in my life that meant a lot to me. If I tried to make something like that work it would have required an immense sacrifice on her part. So rather than putting us both through the heartache of trying to make it work and finding out that it won't, I simply let her go.

I don't have any regrets about this.
 
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johnyrrr

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I was bored this Halloween, and decided to have some fun on a new site i heard of called Omegle (a moderated video and text based chat site). So, i wore a scary mask and began a series of interesting conversations. And then, all if a sudden appears a female, (typically rare),who i was immediately entranced with. It turned out, she had been looking to no avail for someone who was dresses up. We began chatting about issues, political, psychological, and personal, during which i felt incredibly linked,as if i understood her problems as much add she did mine. After the two hour conversation was coming to an end, she informed me of her messaging name for off site chat, and told me that, this had been the best conversation she had ever had, not just on the site, but anywhere.
 

posthuman

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literally, in the twinkling of an eye.

i met my friend stephanie at Creation Fest '93, listening to a morning sermon. with one glance we were friends.

20 years later, we still talk like brother & sister, and have never spoke any other way, even though we live 1,000 miles apart.
 
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KJV15John11

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I didn't ask her out because I had orders from the Navy to San Diego.

Also I had a couple of other women in my life that meant a lot to me. If I tried to make something like that work it would have required an immense sacrifice on her part. So rather than putting us both through the heartache of trying to make it work and finding out that it won't, I simply let her go.

I don't have any regrets about this.
What a very mature answer. I think that we were hoping for more of a fairy tale ending. I don't see Hollywood buying that story. Maybe Wong Fu Productions could make it into a short movie. They are good at presenting realistic scenarios with a moral ending.
 
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Chey60

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That guy I wrote about. He just got "in" he connected with me.. It was his pursuit, his confidence, his strength. And I thought he had deep faith.
 
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Chey60

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Post human.
Gosh I forgot about all my male friends in far away places.. some I have never met but have close friendships with even so.. All through email, text. Facebook :) met them all online and became friends fast. I have about 4 of them one I've been friends with for 5 years :)
 
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GreenNnice

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Don;t have a longtime girl that I've gone out with but I definitely connected with the girl in college that I met , I was considered by a lot of people to have been going out with her because I was always with her going to lunch. But, I wasn't. I just had a couple morning classes with her and we sat by each other and talked and then came the Homecoming Dance and I was going to ask her out and found out that my dorm rooommate was going out with her. I wanted to KILL him. Oh, I am just kidding. Maim, hang, drench, drown, is more like it :D

But, yeah, we CONNECTED . After homecoming, she and I quit eating with each other all the time, my roommate didn't stay with her after Homecoming but, yeah, the seating was rearranged in classes and I just let her go............. :(
Then, I ran with her in January for 13 miles (I just told this story in another thread butwill elaborate in this one :) ) . I chattered about my mom and dad's divorce a year earlier and bitter years of marriage age 12 to 17 before they split and all that went with that and I can't remember all I talked about, but she just listened. After the run, I was not even tired, and, I'd never come close in my lifetime to running 13 miles ever. I played soccer, in midfield, so I ran a lot on the field, I won a 12-minute run , running around a 1/4 mile track as many times as you can in 12 minutes, this when I was in 7th grade at a junior high with 500 kids, half boys in it, so, I was a distance runner. But, not like that !

Anyway, we connected in September and things went good for two months and then Homecoming and then a hiatus a couple months before I just happenstance met her in the lobby of our split female/male dorm my frosh year. She said she was going running and said I could go too, or, I asked her, or she asked me. I think, I said before she asked me, but, now that I think about it, I don't know that's completely true. Anyway, we went running and I was in love with that girl--connnected.
Then, nothing came after that, she was really not into me anymore. So, went February, March, April, and, in May, right before school was out, I saw she was with a sophomore on the final day of school, I should clarify, they were leaving together for the summertime.

I just went home, my cat died that year. Then , school sophomore year, she had a ring on about October, on her right hand, engaged to this guy. I just went writing her off the list of potential girls. In March, next year, of this my sophomore year, my roommate said to her in a chance encounter, 'My roommate stilll talks about you.' I said no SUCH thing, but, yeah, it wasn't more than a week later she'd broke off the engagement with this guy. I don't remember her pursuing me after that my sophomore year. but, my junior year? Oh yes !

I went to all the college dances and danced with all the girls Friday, Saturday nights . She danced with me a few times, and, nothing ever came of it, even through this slow dance song, 'Is your love strong enough,' by Jeff Hartman? (look it up on youtube, I should). She wanted me to re-connect. I did not.

Finally, she cornered me , my SENIOR yearr, around March, and, we ate together, by ourselves, at a table in the chow hall and she said words that still ring with me today, 'You're different now.'

I just didn't know what to say, except I knew that I was with a good smattering of bills to pay from college and no real job yet and still pursuing playing pro soccer (muscle injuries persistently nixed that dream) so, the next time I saw her was in May, at graduation, and, I saw her after the ceremony tassel-turning deal and I said something to her. I want to tell you what I said, but I can't remember, it was something like, 'I wish you well, (name) , I see so much potential in you as a worker and a person in the world but not with me.' I am pretty sure I said something like the last bit because I knew at graduation , thought, anyway, she was hoping for one last try for 'us.'

After I said that line above, or, something close to it, she broke down and cried and I just stood there and tried to comfort her but she then ran off. I never saw her again that day or any day.

Yep, that was my connection, and, that;'s the only one in life I can talk about, oh well, the Lord leads :)
 
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Chey60

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Wait she is underage drinking in church, and tells him how she gets away with it.. And that's a catch? Interesting.