Caught my fiance sexting. He is remorseful, admits he needs help, going for counselling, talking to his pastor but also wants to get back together. What would you do? We were not in contact for almost 3 months after i found out and it was incredibly difficult and painful for me. we have been in each's lives for several years and being apart was killing me. of course when i heard he wanted to get back together i was elated but i am afraid the enemy might just be trying to get me to go down that road again. i honestly don't think i could take that pain again. on the other hand i still love him and want to believe there is a chance. any advice appreciated.
My sister's husband, before they were married , was wild.. liked to party, was a womanizer.. so when my sister found herself pregnant, she wanted to settle down and he didn't. She also turned her heart to God and thought he was raised in church he just didn't want to live the life. She cut off contact from him for over 6 months.. because she was done..
When he tried to contact her which he did, she ignored his calls... even during christmas time (which was the hardest time for her to stand her ground, she said) she ignored his calls..
she did this until she knew in her heart God was telling her to let him in..this didn't mean however he was perfected at that time.. God had work to do in her through this as well..but
They did get married and that ugly old enemy reared his head in his life again.. this time through the computer (attn: you are NEVER safe from temptation..and Satan doesn't play fair) Her husband works on the computer, that's his living.. and being online..
she had to put her food down again with that book I mentioned before, every man's battle..
and now things are good.
They have been through ups and downs with him probably not being the spiritual leader he should have been many a time but she stood her ground through it setting the precedence the day she walked away so many years ago before they married.
That was 15 years ago..they are raising/homeschooling 3 beautiful young women of God together.. still battling the enemy of their minds and souls together with God.
Here's the deal.. as someone said, that kind of change takes time, accountability, prayer and desire..
since you are not married it's even more worth it to wait and take YOUR time in prayer and more separation from him.
If he is serious like my bro in law was, he will come around..
and take all the time you need to find out.. but let it be GOD's time and not either of yours..
God can change anyone..
Here is what I always tell myself because of my past with men.. I can afford to be a little more picky..my kids are all grown and tho I want to be a wife VERY badly..to serve and love a man of God ministering by His side..and growing together,
it's not something I HAVE to have.. obviously or I would have by now
I say this
"I will never try to change a man again because I will never be with a man who has that kind of stuff to change"
"what he changes for you he will do behind your back"
it's all inside the man himself.. the kind of man HE wants to be.. it can never be motivated by wanting you
it can never be motivated by wanting to "be good"..and trying in his own efforts..
it can only be motivated by knowing GOD can perfect him and God can change him..
His level of commitment will be proven in how long you wait..
but he must be accountable to mentors, leadership, authority before he can ever lead you..and be your godly authority.
Prayers for you honey.. I know it's hard..
