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Unfortunately, the rep system often gets abused by people who want to leave their criticism but not their name.
There was a CC member a long time ago who was primarily a chatter, but when he ventured into the forums (which many of us had encouraged him to do), someone left an anonymous rep comment that his posts were "boring" and that he shouldn't even bother.
ARGH. Things like that really get me going. Apparently, whoever left this comment for him must have thought their own posts (if they even made any) to be incredibly vivacious and entertaining. I would have liked to have been the judge of that myself, if they wouldn't have been such a pansy and would have actually left their name.
We had another well-respected user who received a very nasty remark and when some of us challenged the person to name themselves, there was nothing to dead silence then. Funny, because apparently they had plenty to say to this user.
For anyone out there who's received harsh remarks via the anonymous rep system, this one goes out to you.
[video=youtube;nfWlot6h_JM]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nfWlot6h_JM[/video]
There was a CC member a long time ago who was primarily a chatter, but when he ventured into the forums (which many of us had encouraged him to do), someone left an anonymous rep comment that his posts were "boring" and that he shouldn't even bother.
ARGH. Things like that really get me going. Apparently, whoever left this comment for him must have thought their own posts (if they even made any) to be incredibly vivacious and entertaining. I would have liked to have been the judge of that myself, if they wouldn't have been such a pansy and would have actually left their name.
We had another well-respected user who received a very nasty remark and when some of us challenged the person to name themselves, there was nothing to dead silence then. Funny, because apparently they had plenty to say to this user.
For anyone out there who's received harsh remarks via the anonymous rep system, this one goes out to you.
[video=youtube;nfWlot6h_JM]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nfWlot6h_JM[/video]
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P.S. While I know the comment made to Asifin wasn't abusive (and the person who wrote him has a right to their opinion, but in my own opinion, I think they should have signed their name), I want to encourage anyone who HAS received an abusive remark via the rep system to contact the administrators here on CC.
I don't know if they are able to see who wrote the comment even though we can't, but I would strongly encourage anyone who receives any kind of abusive treatment here or something that crosses the line to report it immediately.
At the very least, it will at least alert the mods and makes them aware of the situation in case it should escalate.
I don't know if they are able to see who wrote the comment even though we can't, but I would strongly encourage anyone who receives any kind of abusive treatment here or something that crosses the line to report it immediately.
At the very least, it will at least alert the mods and makes them aware of the situation in case it should escalate.
Well, thanks y'all. I appreciate that. It's thought provoking though, because... well, I wrote a song once wondering about how I come across to people.
I know how I think and feel and see things, but what impression does someone else get when I'm trying to communicate with them?
In fact, thinking further, I've written about 3 or 4 songs that have to do with conversation and such. Hmm...
I find it, like many things, interesting, because it makes you think... What if your impression of someone is entirely wrong, or what if you (or they) see yourself (or themselves) in an entirely different light? I've run into that before with different people.
I try to be genuine, authentic, sincere as a way of life. I'm just tired of being fake, and of those who are just 'playing the part', you know? There's also a lot that changes in text vs when speaking with someone face to face. It's hard to accurately translate or get a good read sometimes...
It's strange, though, like many curious things in life. For example, I've both been raised and decided to try and treat everyone with civility and some measure of kindness/proper etiquette (being polite). Yet, I've had a few people take offense to this, thinking I was being sarcastically rude instead of sincere... to which you just sort of look at them with a slightly confused expression as they curse you out and say,
"Okay, thanks? I'm sorry you feel that way. I hope to come across better next time."
I ran into that about 1 out of every couple hundred people when I worked for Starbucks. You know... Happiness really is a good thing! I've spent enough of my life unhappy to realize that happiness is definitely the better choice.
[video=youtube;YXuB6md9zPk]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YXuB6md9zPk[/video]
I know how I think and feel and see things, but what impression does someone else get when I'm trying to communicate with them?
In fact, thinking further, I've written about 3 or 4 songs that have to do with conversation and such. Hmm...
I find it, like many things, interesting, because it makes you think... What if your impression of someone is entirely wrong, or what if you (or they) see yourself (or themselves) in an entirely different light? I've run into that before with different people.
I try to be genuine, authentic, sincere as a way of life. I'm just tired of being fake, and of those who are just 'playing the part', you know? There's also a lot that changes in text vs when speaking with someone face to face. It's hard to accurately translate or get a good read sometimes...
It's strange, though, like many curious things in life. For example, I've both been raised and decided to try and treat everyone with civility and some measure of kindness/proper etiquette (being polite). Yet, I've had a few people take offense to this, thinking I was being sarcastically rude instead of sincere... to which you just sort of look at them with a slightly confused expression as they curse you out and say,
"Okay, thanks? I'm sorry you feel that way. I hope to come across better next time."
I ran into that about 1 out of every couple hundred people when I worked for Starbucks. You know... Happiness really is a good thing! I've spent enough of my life unhappy to realize that happiness is definitely the better choice.
[video=youtube;YXuB6md9zPk]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YXuB6md9zPk[/video]
Fact: You cannot please all people at all times.....Period...It is not commanded that we please people. The very fact that JESUS Himself kept enemies daily should tell you something. Even if you were the most perfect CHRISTIAN alive in the world today..guess what....the world would HATE you. The Holy spirit within you gives you Discernment, if you follow what HE is moving you to do..and that alone should be enough.
True that, man.
Like Paul suggested, I try my best to be at peace with all people, but I'm also not a 'people pleaser' type. If you don't like me, then you don't like me. No worries there.
The only issue or reason I brought it up was because I've never been told that (I talk down to people) before, so I was like...Really? Do I really? How do you mean?
That's why I asked if anyone else felt that way, so I could adjust myself to come across better if it turned out to be true.
For the ponds of things I do understand, there are oceans of things I don't, and I'm always trying to learn and improve.
In fact, it's quite the opposite. I've had several people ask me why I look away, defer to others, sacrifice, stay reserved, and the like... So it just really caught me off guard. I know I was arrogant as a kid. I took pride in knowledge and correcting/proving others wrong (probably partially because that was happening to me all the time), but I hope I'm not that way now. ^^0
Like Paul suggested, I try my best to be at peace with all people, but I'm also not a 'people pleaser' type. If you don't like me, then you don't like me. No worries there.
The only issue or reason I brought it up was because I've never been told that (I talk down to people) before, so I was like...Really? Do I really? How do you mean?
That's why I asked if anyone else felt that way, so I could adjust myself to come across better if it turned out to be true.
For the ponds of things I do understand, there are oceans of things I don't, and I'm always trying to learn and improve.
In fact, it's quite the opposite. I've had several people ask me why I look away, defer to others, sacrifice, stay reserved, and the like... So it just really caught me off guard. I know I was arrogant as a kid. I took pride in knowledge and correcting/proving others wrong (probably partially because that was happening to me all the time), but I hope I'm not that way now. ^^0
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I've only read a few of your posts but you don't seem like you talked down to people. I get the feeling that you're just hoping to make a friend or just be appreciated for who you are. Then again, I usually don't stray from the singles forum so I don't know if you post in the BDF forum or one of those other forums where things can get ornery.
I've decided that even though I've been at my current job for only a month, I'm going to try to find another job. Trying to go for another pet job. There's some pet hotels in my area. I'm going to try to aim for those. And it's just one of those things where it's "nothing ventured, nothing gained, but if nothing comes of it, nothing lost, either." It's just right now at my current job it feels very empty and while I know I'm still learning, I'm not confident, I can't connect within my work place, and I'm not confident in....anything.
I know pets. I know pet people. I can work with that. I can connect with pets and pet lovers. I don't mind doing "dirty work" like scooping poop, giving dogs medications, exercising them/playing with them, and the like. I can even work with cash registers. I can't work with grocery stores that don't tell you policy for how to handle certain scenarios, how to tell when it's okay to give discounts on this or that, forgetting to give customers all of their groceries.... I just can't. I'm trying, but I can't seem to find a rhythm. I mean, I like my coworkers. All of my coworkers are great. They're super nice and patient. Managers/coordinators are equally nice and patient. I just can't seem to get a grasp on this job, and some of the things I come across, such as selling cigarettes, I do not feel comfortable with.
I remember when I worked at a clothing store (for a whole 2 weeks. If they hadn't stopped scheduling me I would have quit) I ran into some of the same issues. I don't even count that as prior experience because it was such a bad experience and I didn't even learn anything from it besides the depths of people's depravity and how materialistic we as people, including me, can be. And just how much businesses try to sucker you out of all your money.
I know pets. I know pet people. I can work with that. I can connect with pets and pet lovers. I don't mind doing "dirty work" like scooping poop, giving dogs medications, exercising them/playing with them, and the like. I can even work with cash registers. I can't work with grocery stores that don't tell you policy for how to handle certain scenarios, how to tell when it's okay to give discounts on this or that, forgetting to give customers all of their groceries.... I just can't. I'm trying, but I can't seem to find a rhythm. I mean, I like my coworkers. All of my coworkers are great. They're super nice and patient. Managers/coordinators are equally nice and patient. I just can't seem to get a grasp on this job, and some of the things I come across, such as selling cigarettes, I do not feel comfortable with.
I remember when I worked at a clothing store (for a whole 2 weeks. If they hadn't stopped scheduling me I would have quit) I ran into some of the same issues. I don't even count that as prior experience because it was such a bad experience and I didn't even learn anything from it besides the depths of people's depravity and how materialistic we as people, including me, can be. And just how much businesses try to sucker you out of all your money.
