I think it necessary to keep the skin tough so that we can protect our softened heart's condition. We can not control the actions of others. Our calling is to always walk justly, learning and growing, extending more love and more mercy, pointing always to Him, not to make sure others do.
Have you been brought up in a congregation, brought up to believe that all of His decisions are for your own benefit? Such is not the case...His designs are to achieve His purposes, to the benefit of His Kingdom. Tom Bradford
We don't work for Salvation, that is His work; we are saved to do His work, but still it is His work within that empowers it. He gets every bit of the Glory. Hey, this is good news, assuring, and quite hopeful...we get to shine in His Glorious Radiance.