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AuntBee

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So...what would U do?? (WWJD) Tomorrow is the wedding of one of my favorite extended family members...ive been excited to go and I finally googlemapped the address of the venue to see when to leave...and it turns out...the venue is a REAL haunted house :( like legit listed as a historic haunted house...has the story of the home and people who lived there and lists the different kinds of manifestations that have been reported by staff and visitors (they've made it into a museum). I don't know how comfortable I feel going now. Am I inviting trouble into my life by visiting a place like this? I know that the bible says that we don't have to fear demons bc we have authority over them in Jesus' name. And I know to put on the full armor of God and ask Him to send His angels down to protect us and do our warfare for us and to pray for a hedge of protection around us...but...shouldn't I just avoid the situation altogether?? Especially bc my 4 year old will be with me...i just don't him to experience anything of that sort or allow those things into his life...hes not old enuf to understand. I'm not trying to "shelter" him...if he was old enuf to make his own informed decision about it then so be it...but why take chances with this stuff...especially when I'm in charge of the care of a child who I'm trusted to protect. On the other hand...am I over reacting? Am I kinda being a "religious fanatic?" I'm not looking forward to having to explain why I didn't go...to my husband's ENTIRE extended family...and have them call me a weirdo behind my back...but I'm just not sure if it's ok or not. I'm soliciting opinions here...im not asking anyone to make the decision for me. Please...i welcome any and all input! Thankyou in advance!
 

Subhumanoidal

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I'd go. Things like that only have as much power as you give them. If you walk in paranoid and scared, that's the power you give away.
If you walk in to go to a wedding and enjoy yourself, then that's no power given at all.
Don't give in to superstitious fear and it won't win.
And through my own experiences I've found the we create our own fear and give in to it. Submitting ourselves to imaginations in doing so.
 

blueluna5

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It's probably not a good idea to bring your 4 year old. Museums of creepy possessed dolls or whatever they have there will creep into his dreams. So don't be surprised by it. Spiritually he would probably be fine, but it's not healthy.

You could also use that as your excuse to not go if you don't want to. Who cares what the fam has to say about something so small. I would think they would talk about the weirdo who is getting married in a haunted house!
 

AuntBee

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What a fantastic point of view! I tend to overcomplicate things and I love how u simplified this!!!
 
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tasha66

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When I read this I thought: who would WANT to get married in a haunted house? Do they do like weddings and parties? Are there any REAL spirit photos, or is just a hyped up novelty venue to make money??
I think that you should just go and enjoy yourself. Demons have no power over those who believe. Stay positive and deny that demons/spirits have power over you in Jesus' name - say it out loud when you walk into that venue, maybe in the bathroom in private, so the spirits KNOW you won't be intimidated. I know your son is little, but I'd just keep a close eye on him. He'd be missing out on opportunities to see his cousins and other family. And yeh who cares what people think? I gave up caring a long time ago. Your life is your life, not theirs. You might not even see/experience any spirit activity anyway. And everywhere in daily life there might be evil or spirits following us/influencing us - you don't always know do you?
My Mum sees spirits and was getting frightened by one. She woke up (swears she wasn't dreaming), & told this spirit in no uncertain terms: 'Please go away and leave me alone - you don't belong here. Your time on earth is over, go back to where you belong' (well, words to that effect). She only saw that spirit once again, where the spirit sat on the end of the bed, smiled at my Mum, then my Mum never saw it again. Most of the time my Mum is not scared by these spirits, but if they do bother her she just tells them straight out to leave her alone. BTW my Mum is anti-religious like you wouldn't believe!
If all else fails, just ask the spirits to come and party with you all, lol.
 

Adstar

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So...what would U do?? (WWJD) Tomorrow is the wedding of one of my favorite extended family members...ive been excited to go and I finally googlemapped the address of the venue to see when to leave...and it turns out...the venue is a REAL haunted house :( like legit listed as a historic haunted house...has the story of the home and people who lived there and lists the different kinds of manifestations that have been reported by staff and visitors (they've made it into a museum). I don't know how comfortable I feel going now. Am I inviting trouble into my life by visiting a place like this? I know that the bible says that we don't have to fear demons bc we have authority over them in Jesus' name. And I know to put on the full armor of God and ask Him to send His angels down to protect us and do our warfare for us and to pray for a hedge of protection around us...but...shouldn't I just avoid the situation altogether?? Especially bc my 4 year old will be with me...i just don't him to experience anything of that sort or allow those things into his life...hes not old enuf to understand. I'm not trying to "shelter" him...if he was old enuf to make his own informed decision about it then so be it...but why take chances with this stuff...especially when I'm in charge of the care of a child who I'm trusted to protect. On the other hand...am I over reacting? Am I kinda being a "religious fanatic?" I'm not looking forward to having to explain why I didn't go...to my husband's ENTIRE extended family...and have them call me a weirdo behind my back...but I'm just not sure if it's ok or not. I'm soliciting opinions here...im not asking anyone to make the decision for me. Please...i welcome any and all input! Thankyou in advance!
As long as you are going there for the marriage and not to honor or seek to communicate with these spirits then i see no problems with you attending the marriage.. The indwelling of the Holy Spirit is more then adequate protection from any demonic infiltration and possession.. If i was attending such a place i would be mindful to speak with God as i was entering it thanking Him for His protection and praising Him as the one and only justified God of all existence..

Do not fear demonic spirits.. The One in you is far far far more powerful then any evil spirit, Indeed these demons will flee in fear from a true Christians presence..
 
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Miri

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I’m with blueluna on this, I wouldn’t go in the best interests of your 4 year old.
I’m also would have thought it will have an age restriction anyway on the museum
part of it.

Why take a 4 year old into that atmosphere, even movies have ratings if they are
considered not suitable for children.
 

Magenta

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I'm not trying to "shelter" him...if he was old enuf to make his own informed decision about it then so be it...but why take chances with this stuff...especially when I'm in charge of the care of a child who I'm trusted to protect. On the other hand...am I over reacting? Am I kinda being a "religious fanatic?" I'm not looking forward to having to explain why I didn't go...to my husband's ENTIRE extended family...and have them call me a weirdo behind my back...but I'm just not sure if it's ok or not. I'm soliciting opinions here...im not asking anyone to make the decision for me. Please...i welcome any and all input! Thankyou in advance!
Your job as a mother is to shelter your child and protect him and let him know he is safe and secure. Is this museum/haunted house just the venue for the wedding ceremony? Or for both the wedding and the reception? It would be quite acceptable to take a pass on the wedding part and attend the reception if it was elsewhere. That way you would not have to explain any of the creepy stuff to your impressionable young son or worry about exposing your son to demonic influences which you would have no control over... and you would not have to make excuses to your husband's entire extended family for not attending at all. What does your husband think of this? Is he okay with taking his young son into a place meant to spook people?

True story: when I was about ten I begged to be allowed to watch a scary show my mother did not want me to see but somehow I was allowed to watch it and my mother was right: it gave me nightmares.
 

Whispered

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I wouldn't bring a child to such a thing but I would go. If it is haunted as you said, and this is coming late so it is probably already underway, then someone who is in Christ may be able to guide those spirits locked in that place toward the light. You bear the Armor of God so don't be afraid. But I would leave the child at home.
Children are vulnerable to such things.

Besides asking of course, who would want to start their life together taking vows in a house haunted by earth bound dead people?
 

Subhumanoidal

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Ghosts are not biblical.
Guiding people "to the light" after death. Also not biblical.
Children being vulnerable to such things. Again not biblical.

So many people using superstition as their guide.
 

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Whether or not a house is haunted is merely an opinion of the one doing the classifying. It definitely sounds like a hyped-up venue to make money but the thing is you're not the one forking out the money. Just remember that the reason you are going is to celebrate the wedding of one of your extended family members. If that is what they chose so be it. Glad to have you as part of our community. Welcome to CC.
 

SoulWeaver

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Four year old is very young and more importantly, VERY impressionable... I was older than that, yet kids in the kindergarten convinced me that there was a witch in the bathroom in the dark, and since then, someone had to stand guard in front of the door whenever I went to the bathroom at night... In other words you will be pissed off with yourself that you took the child there, when it turns into having get up at night all the time ;)
On a serious note, yes the child might have nightmares, you don't want to expose him to that, it might not be just decorum but sounds and interactive items that the child cannot logically explain, he might get really frightened. I would either leave the child with someone to sit them, or simply would not go and kindly let the host know why. If they get upset with you and cannot see a small child has no business being in a haunted house, they're the one with the problem.
 

Lanolin

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What would I do.
Well, Im not really afraid of what people think of me so if they call me a weirdo behind my back for not going to a haunted house then thats their problem.

One time my friends wanted to go to a spookers attraction, at first it sounded fun, but then I thought about it and decided not to go, and they respected my decision. I just said have fun without me and they did, but I didnt feel like I missed out or anything. We went to other things later on. Just cos you are invited somewhere, doesnt mean you have to go to every single event.
 
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Miri

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Ghosts are not biblical.
Guiding people "to the light" after death. Also not biblical.
Children being vulnerable to such things. Again not biblical.

So many people using superstition as their guide.
Ghosts as horror movies depict them don’t exist, but demons certainly do. What people think of as ghosts are demonic. These so called ghost hunters seen on TV and the like. Are just attractive to demonic influences.
 
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So...what would U do?? (WWJD) Tomorrow is the wedding of one of my favorite extended family members...ive been excited to go and I finally googlemapped the address of the venue to see when to leave...and it turns out...the venue is a REAL haunted house :( like legit listed as a historic haunted house...has the story of the home and people who lived there and lists the different kinds of manifestations that have been reported by staff and visitors (they've made it into a museum). I don't know how comfortable I feel going now. Am I inviting trouble into my life by visiting a place like this? I know that the bible says that we don't have to fear demons bc we have authority over them in Jesus' name. And I know to put on the full armor of God and ask Him to send His angels down to protect us and do our warfare for us and to pray for a hedge of protection around us...but...shouldn't I just avoid the situation altogether?? Especially bc my 4 year old will be with me...i just don't him to experience anything of that sort or allow those things into his life...hes not old enuf to understand. I'm not trying to "shelter" him...if he was old enuf to make his own informed decision about it then so be it...but why take chances with this stuff...especially when I'm in charge of the care of a child who I'm trusted to protect. On the other hand...am I over reacting? Am I kinda being a "religious fanatic?" I'm not looking forward to having to explain why I didn't go...to my husband's ENTIRE extended family...and have them call me a weirdo behind my back...but I'm just not sure if it's ok or not. I'm soliciting opinions here...im not asking anyone to make the decision for me. Please...i welcome any and all input! Thankyou in advance!
Hi, I think, if you are not comfortable coming with your 4 yr old, better not to come. Because if you yourself is already not comfortable, you can infuse it also to your child and maybe you will not enjoy as well the wedding. They will understand it if in case you cannot come.

Praying for God's wisdom.

"For God has not given us a spirit of fear and timidity, but of power, love, and self-discipline." - 2 Timothy 1:7
 

Subhumanoidal

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Ghosts as horror movies depict them don’t exist, but demons certainly do. What people think of as ghosts are demonic. These so called ghost hunters seen on TV and the like. Are just attractive to demonic influences.
Right. But another poster was referring to ghosts as real. Realizing they aren't real is step one.
 
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I think it's best not to go.
A while back a neighbour passed away and it turned out that they were having some kind of freaky heathen funeral, ( I honestly can't remember what they called it , obviously it was a milder term than I just used).
I felt bad for not going, but I think if you voluntarily take part in some kind of tainted ceremony then you're asking for trouble
 

MrH59

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As for you going, I think it may be a good opportunity to be a witness “ Let others see Jesus in you”. As for your son, as long as they don’t try things to scare him or might give him bad dreams and stuff. I don’t think he is old enough to know the difference in what’s real. He may have fun. But satan has no power that you don’t give him. Jesus loves you!