Intimidation

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SkittlePumpkin

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Sep 13, 2015
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I get REALLY intimidated by people around my own age. Like...they scare me o_O
I feel a lot more comfortable around people who are older than me.
Occasionally, I click with a person my own age and feel comfortable around them.
Even when I'm in the chat lounge here; as soon as the room starts filling up with people in their 20s and they're all talking and joking and I feel like I'm back in highschool and I become this sad little wallflower and I need to get outta there and I just want to be friends with everyone but it's scary.

Gaahh sometimes I just need one of these


 
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dalconn

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#2
Us old timers hang out in bible study, drop in and stay awhile :)
 

Blain

The Word Weaver
Aug 28, 2012
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I know how you feel skittles, I am able to befriend speak to and understand older ppl than ppl my age especially older Christians. Like I can go into a bible study of ppl my age I can make friends with them and such but there is something different about being with older people they really like me as well
 
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Siberian_Khatru

Guest
#5
Likewise. I can make small talk with my peers. I can have dialogues with my elders. You sound like my type of introvert, Skittles. :cool:
 
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Abing

Guest
#6
I get REALLY intimidated by people around my own age. Like...they scare me o_O
I feel a lot more comfortable around people who are older than me.
Occasionally, I click with a person my own age and feel comfortable around them.
Even when I'm in the chat lounge here; as soon as the room starts filling up with people in their 20s and they're all talking and joking and I feel like I'm back in highschool and I become this sad little wallflower and I need to get outta there and I just want to be friends with everyone but it's scary.

Gaahh sometimes I just need one of these

Skittles! Bible study is a great place to hang out. I always thought it was intimidating to be with older people. But ever since I joined a cell group with people over 50 (I, being the youngest) it's actually fun. Now teenagers... they ARE intimidating. See, they know everything.
 
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sydlit

Guest
#7
(In response to the OP):
Same here. Except, the Opposite?
Funny, but I'm much more comfortable
and even attracted to everyone that posted here so far.
Intelligent, fun-loving, quirky (I love quirky),
Really into Jesus, but not sticks in the mud about it,
able to kid around without acting judgemental
or putting on airs of superiority, forgiving not demanding,
enjoying the freedom we have in Christ, which actually
frees them up to be more serious in a genuine way
passionate, AND compassionate
with prayers, encouragement, and worship, than some others
who are oh-so-serious in their dishing out advice,
fruit-inspecting and eye-log-removal services.
But I confess I'm over-generalizing, and there are
really good bro-sters in every age group,
I guess I'm just a bit envious, I can't really relate
to many my age, with adult children and grandkids
and all their relationships and experience and achievements
getting ready to settle into the later years of satisfaction,
and well they should, I guess, they've earned it.
But I feel like I'm just wanting to get started in a
new/renew found life in Christ, unfortunately those
younger don't really relate to hanging around the
old single uncle (I don't blame them), but those older
tend to judge me as less-than-acceptable, maybe not
blatently, but maybe juuusst a littlebit? Hmm?
So I often feel stuck in no-mans-land.
But give me Rainbow hair and floppy leather hats,
and passionate hearts and voices any day,
beauty brains talent and love
for our Lord and each other
(with whatever we have, or feel we lack),
and contemplative, inquisitive 'YES-Squires',
and guys who want to teach and learn about
Jesus and His word and can't seem to get enough.
Yeah, give me them any day.....
But give me those in my state as well, who will
also share a hand, a tear, a laugh, a prayer, a hug,
and not be ashamed to admit their need for a saviour
and their thanks they have one,
being just a sinner saved by grace.
And those older and wiser who pave the way,
yet are still learning and growing and
willing to share with the rest of us.
I guess after all this I'm just trying to say
God Bless the Body of Christ in Jesus' name, amen.
(Sorry for the long post in your thread,
I guess I have a lot on my mind lately.
I really gotta learn how to condense, lol.)
God bless you, SkittlePumpkin, thank you
for your tenderness and honesty here).
 
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sassylady

Guest
#8
I can talk with anybody but feel somewhat intimidated by most everyone because I have nothing much to say, don't do much, don't have much. I'm have such a small income I don't do anything but stay home and feel I have nothing to talk about except what is on tv. I have a lot of interests but they are all from the past because I don't have the opportunity or money to do any of them anymore.
 

BruceWayne

Senior Member
Aug 7, 2013
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#9
I've been told more than once that I'm intimidating to talk to(pfft). I've definitely been where you are though, particularly around elderly people, as I've not spent much, if any time around them. I'm out of my element there. We're opposites in that way I suppose lol. I'll just say that more times than not it's probably in our heads and we just have to jump in and take a risk if we wish to talk to someone or make a friend. Most people won't mind. :p
 

blue_ladybug

Senior Member
Feb 21, 2014
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#10
Well, some people DO get intimidated by talking to super heroes.. just sayin'..lol
 
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JeniBean

Guest
#11
My best advice is this. LOVE YOURSELF and not worry what any one of any age group will think of you. Have fun, be happy...be yourself!!!!! When you allow yourself to simply be, the intimidation dissipates. I have had since I was a child people telling me they are intimated by me. I simply tell them to be themselves and all will be great. I have faith you can overcome this and enjoy all age groups.
 
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I think this can go either way. Older people tend to respond to who you actually are, whereas younger people seem more likely to react to the image you project, whether genuine, or not.
 
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oldthennew

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#13
there's much wisdom in your statement Willie....something to think about....
 
Jan 24, 2012
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I get REALLY intimidated by people around my own age. Like...they scare me o_O
I feel a lot more comfortable around people who are older than me.
Occasionally, I click with a person my own age and feel comfortable around them.
Even when I'm in the chat lounge here; as soon as the room starts filling up with people in their 20s and they're all talking and joking and I feel like I'm back in highschool and I become this sad little wallflower and I need to get outta there and I just want to be friends with everyone but it's scary.

Gaahh sometimes I just need one of these

We musicians seem to be the most eccentric introverts. I have yet to see someone who is all about music and also naturally outgoing/not odd or quirky.

I'm sure they exist, but I think they might be kind of rare.