"children are resilient"

I hear quite a lot "children are resilient", yet most adults are screwed up (or in some type of therapy) because of their childhood.

Are children resilient or is that what just parents like to tell themselves?…

No kinds are not resilient.. Kids can be wrecked pretty fast when they get a bad start in life with disfunctional parents..

Kids are sponges and they absorb everything around them. How they deal with stressful situations all depends on their ages and their support system (most of the time there is no support system). Kids easily internalize everything and either blame themselves for the bad things happening around them or act out negatively toward others. One thing I know that can make a world of difference is giving children a firm foundation in Jesus Christ as early as possible. Even if at some point they waiver in their walk, that seed of faith has been planted and God will nurture that seed.
As a Christian, if you know a child in a bad situation at home...see what you can do to take them to church.

I agree that kids are not resilient at all. It's something I think people like to believe is true so they themselves can move forward with their child while thinking nothing bad that happens sticks.
Brain and emotional hard wiring occurs in the formative years. Kids that are physically or emotionally abused tend to grow up with a fear complex.
Kids that were born to single mom's who had men in and out of the house and in contact with the child tend to grow up with abandonment and trust issues.
It's like this little circuit board in the brain and emotional center of the child. Their thoughts, sense of self, and emotions, all get wired to the at present moment of negative experience. And then that wire grows exponentially as the child grows older. Their future self as an adult will link the personal social issues they have to what happened to them in the past. They don't even have to recall the event.

My brother is three years my senior. He has a horrible fear of heights due to almost falling over the edge of a cliff as toddler. We , he and I, never knew where that came from until a few years ago when the folks were going over old pictures of the camping trips they took prior to my arrival.

It's like they say, kids are impressionable. A hard life can leave a life long impression.
We were blessed compared to some of our friends growing up.

I know that I am mem... resilient I mean, Are were you??? Were not ever a child ?, because that is an "age old" adage...