Advice for a lonely single

Well my first thought is... good job on waiting. Secondly, I want to remind you that though it may seem life is passing you by, that all those around you are living fuller lives, you are still so young. I think that though some ppl seem to take pleasure in looking down on others, take pleasure in assuming and fault finding, most ppl are not judging you like you think they are. How do I know...because I too have been overly concerned about the perceptions of others. You are pleasing God and it seems the desires of your heart are centered around Him. I find that to be very admirable. I understand that you want a husband and you want this squared away so you can move on. I get it. This time you have now is a blessing too, though. I just want to encourage you to stay the course and to just trust 100% God's timing. In the meantime, take up a healthy hobby or something, and study the word more. You have a great opportunity to be blessed in this season and prepare yourself to be a good wife one day, when the time is right. God Bless you. I'll say a prayer for you. Hugs.

Im 25, and have chosen to remain a virgin until my wedding night. The only problem is, I am getting a bit impatient waiting for Mr Right to appear. It's made even more difficult that a lot of the women in my church who are the same age have already gotten married, some even have kids. It literally feels that everyone is falling in love and getting married but me. I attend a large church with so many married couples that I am beginning to feel like a shrivelled up old spinster.

To make matters worse, a non christian friend the same age as me recently texted to gloat that he has lost his virginity. I am constantly worrying that any possible love interests will find a woman in her mid/late twenties unattractive if she still has her virginity intact.

I know that God has a husband for me, that I am already promised to someone and in the same way that he has been promised to me, but all of the waiting around and feeling judged by people who have found happiness is really getting me down at the minute.

Any words of advice/encouragement during this time would be much appreciated. Thanks.

I can definitely relate to what you are saying. I will be turning 30 this year and I'm also a virgin.
You have to keep in mind a few things...

You do not really know if you are going to get married or have children. Unfortunately, that's the harsh truth. I used to think I was going to marry in my 20s and that's definitely not happening now. I might not have kids either. I have problems with my womanly organs anyways. So you have to trust God even when things don't make sense. It sucks sometimes. I'm not gonna lie. It hurts when people who are doing all the wrong things and even those who do not believe in God, get a partner or children. And women like you and I who try our best to wait, don't get any of that! A part of growing and maturing in Christ is realizing that it's his plans not ours. Ask God to help you focus on something else. When you keep focusing on what you don't have, you are very tempted to sin. Remember Eve? She had delicious fruit available to eat anywhere in the Garden of Eden. Only one tree was off limits. But when she focused on the one tree (instead of the many others that were available), she was tempted to sin and she did.

Another thing...if a guy is uncomfortable with you being a virgin in your late 20s, 30s or even 40s or whenever, then he's not the one. That means the homeboy doesn't have the Spirit in him and he doesn't appreciate the things of the Lord. He wants things of this world. So forget guys like that, hun.

I hope you start feeling better soon. It's bitter pill to swallow sometimes...but we have to remember that we follow and obey God because we love him. You should be waiting, because you love God. Not because you want a husband. Try to see it that way.

PS: whenever you are tempted to sin sexually, remember all the consequences to that. Do you really want an unexpected pregnancy? Or to give something so valuable to just any guy who is not your husband?

Im 25, and have chosen to remain a virgin until my wedding night. The only problem is, I am getting a bit impatient waiting for Mr Right to appear. It's made even more difficult that a lot of the women in my church who are the same age have already gotten married, some even have kids. It literally feels that everyone is falling in love and getting married but me. I attend a large church with so many married couples that I am beginning to feel like a shrivelled up old spinster.

To make matters worse, a non christian friend the same age as me recently texted to gloat that he has lost his virginity. I am constantly worrying that any possible love interests will find a woman in her mid/late twenties unattractive if she still has her virginity intact.

I know that God has a husband for me, that I am already promised to someone and in the same way that he has been promised to me, but all of the waiting around and feeling judged by people who have found happiness is really getting me down at the minute.

Any words of advice/encouragement during this time would be much appreciated. Thanks.

Im 25, and have chosen to remain a virgin until my wedding night. The only problem is, I am getting a bit impatient waiting for Mr Right to appear. It's made even more difficult that a lot of the women in my church who are the same age have already gotten married, some even have kids. It literally feels that everyone is falling in love and getting married but me. I attend a large church with so many married couples that I am beginning to feel like a shrivelled up old spinster.

To make matters worse, a non christian friend the same age as me recently texted to gloat that he has lost his virginity. I am constantly worrying that any possible love interests will find a woman in her mid/late twenties unattractive if she still has her virginity intact.

I know that God has a husband for me, that I am already promised to someone and in the same way that he has been promised to me, but all of the waiting around and feeling judged by people who have found happiness is really getting me down at the minute.

Any words of advice/encouragement during this time would be much appreciated. Thanks.

Im 25, and have chosen to remain a virgin until my wedding night. The only problem is, I am getting a bit impatient waiting for Mr Right to appear. It's made even more difficult that a lot of the women in my church who are the same age have already gotten married, some even have kids. It literally feels that everyone is falling in love and getting married but me. I attend a large church with so many married couples that I am beginning to feel like a shrivelled up old spinster.

To make matters worse, a non christian friend the same age as me recently texted to gloat that he has lost his virginity. I am constantly worrying that any possible love interests will find a woman in her mid/late twenties unattractive if she still has her virginity intact.

I know that God has a husband for me, that I am already promised to someone and in the same way that he has been promised to me, but all of the waiting around and feeling judged by people who have found happiness is really getting me down at the minute.

Any words of advice/encouragement during this time would be much appreciated. Thanks.

You hold on to your virginity sister!!! If a man finds you unattractive for that then he is unattractive and he is NOT godly!

I think the fact that you’re waiting for marriage is absolutely amazing and has to be commended especially in this modern world where people seem to not care.

As for finding Mr. Right I believe he is out there and you will meet and marry him. God just has a different plan of when you will meet him compared to the others at your church. Don’t lose hope and do not be dismayed.

Oh and as for would a guy find you attractive if still a virgin. Any good Christian man would find that extremely attractive since it shows such a love for God. It also shows such a high level of dedication and willpower which means that you will make an amazing wife and mother one day . Any man would be lucky to have someone like you.

I’ll be praying that God sends your man to you soon, just be sure not to fall into belief that there is no one for you since that may cause you to push him away.

God bless.

Thanks. Although I'm not actually planning on losing my virginity to the first random that comes along. It's more just a rant about still being 25 and single in a church where the average marrying age seems to be 22.

Im 25, and have chosen to remain a virgin until my wedding night. The only problem is, I am getting a bit impatient waiting for Mr Right to appear. It's made even more difficult that a lot of the women in my church who are the same age have already gotten married, some even have kids. It literally feels that everyone is falling in love and getting married but me. I attend a large church with so many married couples that I am beginning to feel like a shrivelled up old spinster.

To make matters worse, a non christian friend the same age as me recently texted to gloat that he has lost his virginity. I am constantly worrying that any possible love interests will find a woman in her mid/late twenties unattnow ractive if she still has her virginity intact.

I know that God has a husband for me, that I am already promised to someone and in the same way that he has been promised to me, but all of the waiting around and feeling judged by people who have found happiness is really getting me down at the minute.

Any words of advice/encouragement during this time would be much appreciated. Thanks.

Im 25, and have chosen to remain a virgin until my wedding night. The only problem is, I am getting a bit impatient waiting for Mr Right to appear. It's made even more difficult that a lot of the women in my church who are the same age have already gotten married, some even have kids. It literally feels that everyone is falling in love and getting married but me. I attend a large church with so many married couples that I am beginning to feel like a shrivelled up old spinster.

To make matters worse, a non christian friend the same age as me recently texted to gloat that he has lost his virginity. I am constantly worrying that any possible love interests will find a woman in her mid/late twenties unattractive if she still has her virginity intact.

I know that God has a husband for me, that I am already promised to someone and in the same way that he has been promised to me, but all of the waiting around and feeling judged by people who have found happiness is really getting me down at the minute.

Any words of advice/encouragement during this time would be much appreciated. Thanks.

Your intact virginity will be the answer to a mans prayers one day.