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Coldel

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Is it ok for Christian men to go out with women that are not their wife, to lunch, dinner or other entertainment?
 
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Sweetmorningdew78

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If I am a man I'll bring my wife with me 😊 if my wife is not with me I will not go out with them...it is not that I can't be trusted but it is to protect my wife's feelings and our marriage even if my wife will tell me it is ok... 😊 to avoid anything that will cause for our marriage to break down.

So for me no...it is not oK.
 

Ruby123

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No I don't think that it is ok if you are married because one of you may develop feelings for the other, either her for you or you for her.
 
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Papou

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Why not ! Segregation is never good !
 

Krumbeard

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Is it ok for Christian men to go out with women that are not their wife, to lunch, dinner or other entertainment?
I think not. Even though it may seem okay and that nothing will happen I believe our motives can always be tainted.

The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked: who can know it. Jeremiah 17:9

Be careful!
 

Coldel

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If I am a man I'll bring my wife with me 😊 if my wife is not with me I will not go out with them...it is not that I can't be trusted but it is to protect my wife's feelings and our marriage even if my wife will tell me it is ok... 😊 to avoid anything that will cause for our marriage to break down.

So for me no...it is not oK.
I totally agree with you. You have to think about the others feelings and avoid unnecessary problems.
 
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Papou

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A married man (or woman) has no business going out to lunch or anywhere with another man or woman.. That's how affairs start..
The society has changed quite a bit in the last decades. Now schools are mixed, workplaces are mixed. It does not make sense to avoid people at your school or work because they are opposite gender. My daughter is studying engineering where most of the student are males. She does not discriminate her friendships based on gender. She goes out with male friends from time to time as part of her school activities and everything is fine. She would however avoid those who manifested incorrect intent. Time have changed, this is today's society.
 

Coldel

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I totally agree with you. You have to think about the others feelings and avoid unnecessary problems.
The society has changed quite a bit in the last decades. Now schools are mixed, workplaces are mixed. It does not make sense to avoid people at your school or work because they are opposite gender. My daughter is studying engineering where most of the student are males. She does not discriminate her friendships based on gender. She goes out with male friends from time to time as part of her school activities and everything is fine. She would however avoid those who manifested incorrect intent. Time have changed, this is today's society.
Just wondering... is your daughter a married Christian woman? Also... at a school setting one cannot really dictate who they have as classmates. Going on school related activities is totally different from going out on dates or couples activities.
 

Dino246

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Is it ok for Christian men to go out with women that are not their wife, to lunch, dinner or other entertainment?
I'd give that a qualified "No".

Obviously, if the "woman" is his sister, mother, daughter, or other close relative, then it's fine. Where a relationship would be unethical, say with his lawyer, it might be okay to have lunch while discussing a case, but nothing more intimate. In such a situation, both should be considering the risk and proceeding accordingly.

Most other situations would be questionable at best and downright dumb at worst.
 
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Papou

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Just wondering... is your daughter a married Christian woman? Also... at a school setting one cannot really dictate who they have as classmates. Going on school related activities is totally different from going out on dates or couples activities.
My daughter has a boyfriend who initially was very jealous when she met male classmates for her work. Now he is ok understanding the modern society. My daughter is Christian by baptize but does not to church anymore.
I did not mean going out for a date but going out for business or special events. In these cases, it is perfectly acceptable to go out with the opposite gender.
 
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Papou

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Having friends in the opposite gender is not a crime ! You don't want to be like certain society where women can't go outside their homes without their husband, Can't talk to men except those in family.
 

blue_ladybug

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Having friends in the opposite gender is not a crime ! You don't want to be like certain society where women can't go outside their homes without their husband, Can't talk to men except those in family.
No one is saying that it's a crime. But it IS an unwise idea.
 

Coldel

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Having friends in the opposite gender is not a crime ! You don't want to be like certain society where women can't go outside their homes without their husband, Can't talk to men except those in family.
U r right. Having friends of the opposite sex is quite ok. Nothing is wrong with that. However, situations dictate how one behaves.
 

Deade

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Having friends in the opposite gender is not a crime ! You don't want to be like certain society where women can't go outside their homes without their husband, Can't talk to men except those in family.
Paul said it best: 1 Cor. 10:23 "All things are lawful for me, but all things are not expedient: all things are lawful for me, but all things edify not."

He also said: 1 Cor. 8:9 "But take heed lest by any means this liberty of yours become a stumblingblock to them that are weak."

We need to be aware of how our actions are viewed by others and stay away from anything that might be deemed improper. :cool:
 

Didymous

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The society has changed quite a bit in the last decades. Now schools are mixed, workplaces are mixed. It does not make sense to avoid people at your school or work because they are opposite gender. My daughter is studying engineering where most of the student are males. She does not discriminate her friendships based on gender. She goes out with male friends from time to time as part of her school activities and everything is fine. She would however avoid those who manifested incorrect intent. Time have changed, this is today's society.
Marriage hasn't changed, and dishonoring a spouse hasn't, either. If you want to be of the world, you can't be of God,
 
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Papou

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Marriage hasn't changed, and dishonoring a spouse hasn't, either. If you want to be of the world, you can't be of God,
Yeap but dishonoring a spouse is not the topic of this thread !!!