I have an issue with my family...

I just have a problem with my family. I was wondering if there is anyone who can give me Christian advice. I am insecure when people talk bad about me behind my back. It makes me feel very uncomfortable. My family does it, they talk bad about me behind my back and they say mean things to my face. I don't know how to cope properly. It makes it hard to be around them now. I don't like them either because of how they treat me. To sum it up. They seem like bullies and they appear to call me stupid, they judge me, and they make up things about me that aren't true. I feel like I am in high school. I tried reading my Bible, it helps, but the hurt I feel from this still lingers. I even keep a journal and write my feelings. I still get the question in my head. Why is this happening to me? It feels like I am getting all this bad attention that I don't really want. Please help!

I cannot offer personal advice since I have not experience this the way you describe it in my family life, however I did find this information on this website that I think has sound and very practical advice.

Having had to deal with toxic bullies at work, two things I did was keep my distance as much as possible and have my responses ready that could be delivered in a fact manner with no emotion.

http://www.thelawofattraction.com/family-members-bullies/

thank you so much!!!

It was not too coherent when I reread it so I fixed it, ........LOL

It was not too coherent when I reread it so I fixed it, ........LOL

"When family adults can't sit down and honestly and sincerely discuss their concerns
with love and understanding where each is coming from, there would appear to be a
communication problem. A grudge or resentment is a terrible thing to live with. We all
find situations where we need to change our attitude and behavior in some way to live more
in harmony with one another. Family friction results in unhappy lives, not good. I do
hope there is some kind of reconciliation to ease the stress in your family life."
'Praise God'

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Whoa! Maybe I made a mistake to come on here. I was just trying to express my feelings. I didn't know people would resort to name calling and people would get upset with me. I seem to have this problem a lot where people start to judge me for what I write and they seem to define me by my writing. I don't understand. I thought what I am doing is perfectly harmless. I don't know why people are making a huge deal about how I am sounding.

I am certainly not judging you at all. I too had to move back home more than once because of struggle. I believe that due to your family not being Christian that they are slowly rotting inside. They treat you bad as a way to feel better about themselves at your expense. I don't have to hear their story as I have already seen it played out in other families that were not my own. You sound quite rational and mature to me. God bless you during this struggle. Take comfort in knowing that this too shall pass.

I am certainly not judging you at all. I too had to move back home more than once because of struggle. I believe that due to your family not being Christian that they are slowly rotting inside. They treat you bad as a way to feel better about themselves at your expense. I don't have to hear their story as I have already seen it played out in other families that were not my own. You sound quite rational and mature to me. God bless you during this struggle. Take comfort in knowing that this too shall pass.

Absolutely nothing wrong with living at home when needed no matter what age, that is what families are for in my book!!

Wow! Thank you so much for the response! I am glad there is someone out there that seems to get it.

I just have a problem with my family. I was wondering if there is anyone who can give me Christian advice. I am insecure when people talk bad about me behind my back. It makes me feel very uncomfortable. My family does it, they talk bad about me behind my back and they say mean things to my face. I don't know how to cope properly. It makes it hard to be around them now. I don't like them either because of how they treat me. To sum it up. They seem like bullies and they appear to call me stupid, they judge me, and they make up things about me that aren't true. I feel like I am in high school. I tried reading my Bible, it helps, but the hurt I feel from this still lingers. I even keep a journal and write my feelings. I still get the question in my head. Why is this happening to me? It feels like I am getting all this bad attention that I don't really want. Please help!

That is fine. I don't need you to give me advice. I didn't expect people to respond to my post anyways. Thank you for your response.

well you do need me to give you advice

that is why you are here. for advice

but actually I have not given you any advice.

you asked a question and I answered you.

you really wish to be coddled and I don't do that

nothing will change until you change yourself

that is when others will change around you

No reason to feel insecure, people always talk about others behind their backs. If they are saying things you don't like, then address them straight on. Don't cope with it, stand up for yourself, especially if the things they're saying aren't true.

It could be that you don't like what they're saying because its true and you don't want to change? That's what people here wonder about when they say that they don't know what all of the "bad attention" is rooted in? Without knowing the specific complaints, its difficult to offer much helpful advise.

Family will lash out when they think you are or have made mistakes and are headed in the wrong direction? When they get no response, their concern turns to frustration and is revealed in anger.

Yes I am living with my family and they are not Christian. Okay.

Well as I said, you are better off meeting your pastor from church and discussing rather than on line.

If you not attending church you need to.

Well as I said, you are better off meeting your pastor from church and discussing rather than on line.

If you not attending church you need to.

I just have a problem with my family. I was wondering if there is anyone who can give me Christian advice.