Does height make a difference?

I saw an interesting article recently about heightism.

It suggested short men have a much harder time at being successful, getting dates and being
taken seriously than tall men.

Also that tall women struggle as well, as most men don’t want to date a taller woman
and that shorter women feel intimidated by tall women.



I’m a short woman 5’ 1”. There have been times I felt I wasn’t taken seriously at work
due to my height, but not often. Taller people sometimes seem to treat me like I’m
a child in a “there there” kind of way.

I can usually hold my own though I have “other attributes” so people can easily see I’m a
grown woman! It does sometimes get patronising in church when tall men lean over me
and sort of have that “there there” way of speaking and pat me on the the shoulder as if I was
a kid.

I just wondered whether anyone else has ever felt they were discriminated against or
maybe weren't taken seriously due to their height.

Oh and is it true that tall men are more likely to be successful in business and dating?


On the flip side I’ve seem short people who seemed to dominate a room or a discussion
without any problem and everyone take notice of them. So maybe it’s nothing to do with
height at all.

Height definitely is an issue with me. I absolutely will not date any woman who is over nine feet tall.

Nine feet is a substantial size to be sure.

I think these issues about height are pretty well established.

Good or bad, it seems to be a thing.

Tall girls wear flats, short girls wear heels, and girls in the middle just walk around confused.
We live on a weird planet.

I had a friend who was petite and she would sometimes get asked out by teenagers despite being in her thirties... I had a friend who was tall and she would crouch down whenever we had photos taken together...
I had a workmate who was very tall which can in handy when we needed books from the highest shelves. We could just ask him.
Those of us who were shorter could reach the bottom shelves easily.

I work with little people all the time, well, they are children, so I feel Ive got some advantages. I recently rearranged quite a bit of the library so they could get to the books. I think people sometime forget what is eye level for themselves is not for others.

I dont wear high heels because they are bad for your feet but can understand why some women want to wear them. A little bit of height is good but actually it can be better being short and low to the ground especially if you like gardening...you can get the weeds better.

Zaccheus, the one who climbed a tree to get to see Jesus cos he was short, didnt seem to have any problems in business. Dont know about dating though.

I am reminded of a girl who was riding on the church bus. She was 12 and was lamenting her short stature and expressing impatience with the whole growing up thing taking so long. Her main gripe was people didn't take her seriously.

I said, "You'd better take advantage of being small while you have it. You can still use the cute factor, but you won't have that going for you when you grow up."

She cheered up and started reminiscing all the things she had gotten (and gotten out of) by being cute.

I am not confused thank you very much!!!

He probably did OK in the dating department 'cause he had a lot of money.

My co worker likes to wear 6” heels some days and flats others. it still feels like my spine has collapsed on some days when I have to look slightly up.

from what I have seen on dating apps and talking to friends is that the really short women generally want the real tall guys and women closer to my weight are fine with me being a couple of inches taller. Well, most women on dating apps seem to want everyone over 6’, which is like 15% of the male population in the US.

I have a bad lumbar lordosis so I’m hoping I can get a couple more inches taller getting that corrected. 😛

The tallest brothers in my family seem to gain some confidence from it. The shortest ones are borderline control freaks. Are they overcompensating? i do notice some short men often have strong personalities. im almost short myself 174cm or 5 ft 8. And a more mentally stable calm matutre peson would be hard to find.

There are many iconic short women. Queen Victoria, Judy Garland and Mae West for starters didn't let their stature diminish their spirits. Also, same in a male. I recently saw in person someone I admired on TV as being well fit for his age. I was about 5 ft away from him and realized he was maybe 5'8 about 2 inches taller than myself and thought it was cute. So, I think how someone presents themselves, says a lot.

Bible says we cant add one cubit to our stature. Or make our white hair black. But I wonder if that meant we cant wear high heels or dye our hair. Well you can if you want, but then you run the risk of bunions and cancer (from the poisons in the hair dye)

Remember the tv distorts peoples heights and weights because they are squashed into a rectangular box in your living room so its bound to warp things a little. Rarely do you get lifesize television.

Anyway, why worry about such things? I know theres a childrens picture book about this somewhere although all I can think of at the moment is Flat Stanley....but thats sideways not upways.

The other is The Twits, where Mr Twit keeps adding pieces to Mrs .twits walking stick, so she thinks shes shrinking.

When we did armed hold up training, they gave us a height indicator to stick on our door, so that if we had to identify any criminal we could estimate their height easily. I just give approximations...shorter than me or taller than me. Its all relative anyway.

One shouldnt be dating criminals though. I dont know the stats on criminal heights.

Maybe that tall man in church is just older so he says 'there there' to everyone. Everyone thats older treats everyone younger as babies anyway. At retirement village, one elder lady thought I was just out of high school, that im still a student, or meant to be in the youth group.

I dont think its to do with height. I had a tall co worker that was younger than me and she got wolf whistles from the creepy older men who were shorter than she was.

I am 5'2 " but i am mostly not taken seriously because i look much younger than my age rather then my height .Height has not been a problem for me

Wasn’t that a movie! lol

I wear doc Martin’s and trainers mostly. Can’t stand having uncomfortable feet.

He was probably a successful tax collector because people couldn’t see him coming and run away.

I’ve seen that as well.