Do you enjoy your singleness?

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melita916

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i was too scared to try a dating site. my fear was, "what if no one contacts me? dang!" hahaha also, i can email/chat/phone quite ok, but the whole meeting up in person freaked me out a little bit.

it's interesting how things happen though :)
 

BrotherMike

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i was too scared to try a dating site. my fear was, "what if no one contacts me? dang!" hahaha also, i can email/chat/phone quite ok, but the whole meeting up in person freaked me out a little bit.

it's interesting how things happen though :)
Yup I take my time.. about a month before I ask her out in a date. Email/text/phone is a safe place to get to know them before meeting.
 

Butterflyyy

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Yup I take my time.. about a month before I ask her out in a date. Email/text/phone is a safe place to get to know them before meeting.
What sites do you think are good? There seem to be very few site sites in the UK and very few Christians near to where I live ....
 

Mel85

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What sites do you think are good? There seem to be very few site sites in the UK and very few Christians near to where I live ....
What are Christian dating sites that are for FREE?

After all, love is ‘priceless’.

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Butterflyyy

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What are Christian dating sites that are for FREE?

After all, love is ‘priceless’.

🤣
Haha well there is cdff, Fusion101, and the Christian cafe one offers an initial free trial- I must warn you though... most of my experience on dating sites has been negative... in fact I even met someone who was actually in prison!! Also men who are struggling with lust but occasionally there are men who genuinely love God and would give their all for Him and their future wife... be very careful. xx
 

Dino246

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What sites do you think are good? There seem to be very few site sites in the UK and very few Christians near to where I live ....
I can relate. There are actually lots of Christians where I live: married couples/families or college kids! Not exactly a premium fishing spot for an adult.
 

Butterflyyy

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I can relate. There are actually lots of Christians where I live: married couples/families or college kids! Not exactly a premium fishing spot for an adult.
Also where I live there are very few decent churches with mainly much older people or families... I'm encouraged by tourist and his wife though... and I know that if the Lord wants me to meet someone then it will happen... it's difficult to know what to do isn't it... should I never go on sites.... I dunno lol
 

Butterflyyy

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What are Christian dating sites that are for FREE?

After all, love is ‘priceless’.

🤣
Oh and I almost forgot that cdff is not very good for guys because there are always inappropriate adverts on there which I have complained about but it doesn't seem to make any difference. The only way to use the site ad-free is to pay🤦🏼‍♀️
 

BrotherMike

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What sites do you think are good? There seem to be very few site sites in the UK and very few Christians near to where I live ....
I’m not in the UK so I don’t know. All the sites you mentioned in another post I never heard before. The US sites are hit or miss, I definitely won’t send a message if they are not Christian and even then I want to make sure we are equally yoked. I think a great idea is adding in the bulletin of the church singles that want to mingle! Lol that would help :)
 

BrotherMike

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Also where I live there are very few decent churches with mainly much older people or families... I'm encouraged by tourist and his wife though... and I know that if the Lord wants me to meet someone then it will happen... it's difficult to know what to do isn't it... should I never go on sites.... I dunno lol
Pray, pray, pray... yes, Christian chat could bring a couple together. Always be open to where the Holy Spirit leads and gives you peace.
 

Butterflyyy

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I’m not in the UK so I don’t know. All the sites you mentioned in another post I never heard before. The US sites are hit or miss, I definitely won’t send a message if they are not Christian and even then I want to make sure we are equally yoked. I think a great idea is adding in the bulletin of the church singles that want to mingle! Lol that would help :)
Haha well my church is tiny... but I have friends who co-pastor a big church in the city, an hour from me, they organise a singles event every 6 months with a speaker and it is very encouraging. A lot of people from that church serve at the event by cooking etc and it's really nice. I think there should be more opportunities for Christians to socialise, your idea is👌.Well there's something else we can pray, pray, pray about👍
 

BrotherMike

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Haha well my church is tiny... but I have friends who co-pastor a big church in the city, an hour from me, they organise a singles event every 6 months with a speaker and it is very encouraging. A lot of people from that church serve at the event by cooking etc and it's really nice. I think there should be more opportunities for Christians to socialise, your idea is👌.Well there's something else we can pray, pray, pray about👍
Singles events is a great idea. I know some churches have singles small groups too but that can be limited. Usually churches don’t cater to 30’s on up singles. I’m with ya sister on the pray pray pray 👍❤️
 

Lanolin

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Do churches ever put on dances or is that not allowed.
I think the entire time Ive been in some churches there has never been anything like a dance where you could actually find a partner.

In schools, universities etc every year they have a ball (in america they call it 'the prom' ) or social and that is a big deal everyone gets dressed up and has to ask someone to dance with, you know like PROPERLY.

so why dont churches do this? thats you chance to practice a bit of chivalry men and for ladies to dress up a bit instead of your usually holey jeans and trackpants look.
 

Mikhal

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Do churches ever put on dances or is that not allowed.
I think the entire time Ive been in some churches there has never been anything like a dance where you could actually find a partner.

In schools, universities etc every year they have a ball (in america they call it 'the prom' ) or social and that is a big deal everyone gets dressed up and has to ask someone to dance with, you know like PROPERLY.

so why dont churches do this? thats you chance to practice a bit of chivalry men and for ladies to dress up a bit instead of your usually holey jeans and trackpants look.
That would be a great Idea. Growing up in the US State of Utah, Home of the Mormons, I saw them put on several Events like you Speak of. Usually in age groups 20-30 y/o Dance, LDS only Fri. Night, 30-40 Sat. Night, etc.
They had a lot of social activities for their single peeps...
 

Lanolin

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in the Bible there was actually a dance where the unmarried men were supposed to catch a wife.
so I dont know why some churches seem to frown on single people socialising via dancing.

like in the movie 'footloose'

see Judges 21:21

having said that maybe the mormons have so many dances cos they are big on marrying lots of people.
 

Mikhal

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in the Bible there was actually a dance where the unmarried men were supposed to catch a wife.
so I dont know why some churches seem to frown on single people socialising via dancing.

like in the movie 'footloose'

see Judges 21:21

having said that maybe the mormons have so many dances cos they are big on marrying lots of people.
HAAAAAAA... You might be onto something there, my friend 😊
 

Mpopi

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If one could just find somebody to play with, laugh with, walk with, it can get very lonely at times
 

tourist

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Honestly and being real speaking we all don’t like being single. God created us for friendships / relationships with Him first and others. Most of us have love to give and want to receive. Yes it’s risky putting our hearts out there, we all don’t want to be hurt, but if we don’t try the answer will always be no. Best thing to do is seek Gods peace about that person and pray for red flags. It’s also important to keep our eyes on Him while we wait.

Bible says the flesh is weak, thus it’s important to put God first together (equally yoked) and to encourage each other to put and keep on the full armor of God. Just let them know in the beginning that I’m going with the wisdom of Meatloaf... I would do anything for love, but I won’t do that until marriage 😊 If they decline they are not for you.
I did that. Love meatloaf.
 

Mikhal

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If one could just find somebody to play with, laugh with, walk with, it can get very lonely at times
You are spot on 😊... Someone to share time with would be Nice