Divorce requests increase during Covid Pandemic

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SoulWeaver

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I'm thinking love wasn't there to begin with if they're divorcing so easily and quickly, this is just a catalyst.
Looks like these people couldn't stand each other already, it's just that there's nowhere to run now.
 
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G2RBeliever

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Just wondering..........
If the divorce rate or baby birth rate will be higher when this is over!
 

Billyd

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Difficult times seem to bring out the crisis in relationships. I know it is difficult to work out our problems when everything seems to be pushing us down, but God is reaching out to lift us up and deliver us from our problems. All we need to do is take his hand.

It's time for all of us to lift up all those marriages that are in crisis in prayer.
 

ArtsieSteph

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It’s sad that “family forced to spend more time together” equates to more families wanting to call it quits 😞
 

wolfwint

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Kinda hard ti understand for me. Why not be happy to have the time to spend with your family that you usually dont have
Its the different between have this freely ore as a must. Because of Corona it is for the most a must. And because even in a marriage two Egos live together. The possibility of having then disagreements ore Stress with each other will raise.
And what some wrote already: The human want always what he has not. Instead to be thankful for that what he has.
It is sadly, that among Christians there seems no different to the world.
 

chanchuinchoy

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For me in Malaysia, families gets closer, relationships became better, more time to read books, bible, prayer during the Movement Control Order (MCO) implemented by my government due to Covid19 pandemic..
 

Lanolin

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most people are appreciating more family time...the first few days probably were a bit rough as not used to it but then things tend to sort themselves out.

I asked for prayer for mine as my parents dont believe (yet) and it really helped. So I would just pray for these dysfunctional families that things DO sort themselves out without having to go to the lawyers.

Because we are not privy to everything that goes on in other peoples lives except our own families it can be alarming to hear about domestic violence and people having nowhere to go. I would say if you are stuck in a situation like this you can always call on God. cos even if people call the police they dont really want to be involved in someones petty arguments and it can be over something really stupid.
 

Lanolin

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yea the liquor stores being still open is rather dodgy.

Just pray for your neighbours and all their household to be saved if you are concerned. God can step in at anytime.
 

Angela53510

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My husband retired from working in 2014. I went on long term disability in 1999, never got well enough to go back to teaching.

So we spent 5 years getting used to him always being around, under much better circumstances. If we got on each other's nerves we could go for a drive by ourselves, go shopping, and I used to ride my bike 30 km. Slowly we adapted to being around each other all the time

I can imagine how difficult it would be for a young couple to suddenly be trapped together day after day, with no escape or breaks, with no end in sight. I don't think most young couples(except for some Christian marriages!) are committed enough to marrying once, for life. The high divorce rate of marriages, 50%, including Christian marriages, shouts that people are selfish and not willing put aside their gratification in favour of their spouse. I think that is tragic, and too many people have never had an example or model of marriage being a commitment through good and bad times!
 

Ruby123

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The problem we are experiencing here now is that there has been an increase in murders. It seemed everyone behaved for the first week or two of lockdown but as it has gone on for longer than we would like it has resulted in more murders and bashings.
 

Lanolin

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well..I wouldnt say its just young couples.

older couples that are now entering retirement also get on each others nerves.
My dad just got angry over something as silly as the tv remote going missing and threatened to kick me out. It had just fallen under the couch.

I dont know if I can stand much more of this to be honest. some people just cant control their temper and say the most hurtful things over the most stupid things that dont even matter. and there is nowhere to go.

If I could live at the library I would.
 

Ruby123

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Yeah I am even starting to get on my own nerves.
 

Billyd

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Support your local restaurants. Order online, get in the car and pick it. Be sure to give your server a good tip. We usually find an empty parking lot, and enjoy our favorite meal.
 

chanchuinchoy

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well..I wouldnt say its just young couples.

older couples that are now entering retirement also get on each others nerves.
My dad just got angry over something as silly as the tv remote going missing and threatened to kick me out. It had just fallen under the couch.

I dont know if I can stand much more of this to be honest. some people just cant control their temper and say the most hurtful things over the most stupid things that dont even matter. and there is nowhere to go.

If I could live at the library I would.
You hurt yourself in the end because you allow someone else problem affecting you by caring of what is wrongly said about you. Can you think that you are not going to be influenced someone else problem/weaknesses?.
 

chanchuinchoy

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My husband retired from working in 2014. I went on long term disability in 1999, never got well enough to go back to teaching.

So we spent 5 years getting used to him always being around, under much better circumstances. If we got on each other's nerves we could go for a drive by ourselves, go shopping, and I used to ride my bike 30 km. Slowly we adapted to being around each other all the time

I can imagine how difficult it would be for a young couple to suddenly be trapped together day after day, with no escape or breaks, with no end in sight. I don't think most young couples(except for some Christian marriages!) are committed enough to marrying once, for life. The high divorce rate of marriages, 50%, including Christian marriages, shouts that people are selfish and not willing put aside their gratification in favour of their spouse. I think that is tragic, and too many people have never had an example or model of marriage being a commitment through good and bad times!
The main issue here is if both are willing to give and take, undersand of the other party needs/weaknesses, I belived life would be mre meaningful and beautiful..
 

Lanolin

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You hurt yourself in the end because you allow someone else problem affecting you by caring of what is wrongly said about you. Can you think that you are not going to be influenced someone else problem/weaknesses?.
well its not just 'someone' its my mum. and um yes I live with my family. its not like I can just go live with anyone else.

what parents say actually does affect children, even when they are adults. thats just the way it is.
 

Lanolin

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the whole reason why babies cry is they are hurt or experiencing some pain and that is the way they alert you that something is wrong. If babies did not have feelings they would stay silent at all times. And that would be more dangerous to have a numb baby who couldnt feel anything.
 
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Kim82

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Not everyone knows how to live a hard life. And if you don't have faith, that makes it even more hard.

Worst still when you don't have family/friends support.

But some married people aren't best friends with their spouse, and now that they are locked in and have all this time to spend together....its unromantic. As such they don't know how to cope. They have suddenly discovered that they really don't like eachother.

Longsuffering. That's the key in this situation. Patience and faith and a merry heart. That is the secret to get through any crisis.
 
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I read where it went up to 50 percent of divorce inquiries since the coronavirus.

Which goes to show you that in many marriages they really do not care about each other, and do not love each other, and with that behavior and being around each other a lot really gets on their nerves, for they really do not like each other, but they tolerated each other for something kept them in the marriage, but it was only because it was a benefit to them not to the other person.

It is a different world now, and the Little House on the Prairie days are over.

Jesus said since iniquity shall abound the love of many shall wax cold, so that attitude will also be in marriages for it is there before the marriage.

And the last generation the children will not obey their parents, and people will be highly selfish, and highly arrogant, will be pure in their own eyes but not washed from their filthiness, and shall devour the poor from off the earth, and the needy from among men.

As long as people do not have something to cling unto to exalt themselves they will get along great, for they are basically on the same level, and view people as caring, and decent, and basically good.

So that attitude will be in marriages and they will care for each other.

But technology slowly changed that, for it caused money and material things to flow like a raging river, and worldliness, and fleshy pleasures to enjoy with their money, and it elevated the selfish, and arrogance of people to a level never seen before in the history of mankind.

And it affected all facets of society, whether rich or poor, for the people pursued after money, and material things, and to enjoy pleasures that money could buy, entertainment, drugs, alcohol, any whatever pleased them.

And they became highly selfish, and arrogant, caring about themselves, and millions of dollars and billions of dollars was not good enough for them.

After technology came out and ran for a while elevating the selfishness, and arrogance of people, the attitude became people basically care about themselves with little regard for anyone else, so you do not care about me, I do not care about you.

And the attitude got worse as they became more aggressive towards each other lashing out at each other for they thought people do not care about other people, which God said the last generation their teeth are as swords, and their jaw teeth are as knives.

And the attitude became get all you can get and forget everyone else for they do not care about me, and the business person not only upping their prices because it is catering to their selfishness, and arrogance, but thinking would you care about me if I was out in the street hungry, and you are trying to do the same thing, so I will bleed you dry of your money, and leave you and your wife, and your 6 children out on the street.

And the love of many waxed cold, and trust went down, and fighting went up, and violence increased between them, and they looked at people as dogs instead of being good and decent like they did before technology.

And who knows what their motive really is for they will assume it is for self that motivates their actions, so they cannot be trusted.

And that attitude will be in the marriage for it was there before the marriage.

And many people in the marriage are only in the marriage for themselves, trying to get all they can out of the marriage, and the person, and many differences and fighting between them, and it is not so much a team effort anymore but they are thinking on an individual level.

Which this will affect the young people more than anyone else.