It's the Official Singles Forum DIY Matchmaking Thread! (Whether for Friendships or Dating.)

Ok, and now for a list of questions and ideas to help get us talking to each other. Please do not feel pressured -- I know that for many people, shyness and not knowing what to say can be a crippling fear, so if you see something on this list you're not sure how to answer, just condense your reply into a few descriptive words.

For example, if asked how you feel about something, instead of giving a long explanation (which people are welcomed to do), others might just to just describe their feelings in a few word: "Cautious, but open-minded."

These are only suggestions. You can copy, paste, and answer as few or as many as you'd like, or just say what you'd like to say without using any of these ideas at all. That's why this is the Do-It-Yourself Thread -- you get to choose what you want to do! Feel free to add or subtract as many topics as you want.


Discussion Ideas/Helpful Information:

1. Name/What You Want to Be Called:

2. Location (you don't have to be specific; remember, anyone can see this), and Would You Be Willing to Relocate?

3. Number of Children:

4. Pets (what kinds and what are their names?):

5. How Long Have You Been Saved? Church Denomination, if you care to share?

6. Looking For Friendships or Romance, or Both?

7. Career, Hobbies, Interests? (Expand upon what you answered in the poll.)

8. What Do You Have to OFFER Someone Else? (Whether a friend or a significant other -- why might they be interested in you?)

9. What Are You Looking For in A Friend and/Or Romantic Partner?

10. Do You Think You Could Survive A Zombie Apocalypse? Why or why not?


Hope you all have fun with this! (I'll answer these questions myself in another post.)

Can't wait to see your answers.

(Helpful tip for newcomers: When looking at the poll, click on the blue numbers to be able to see who answered which selections.)

If you have any questions about how to participate, post, etc., just ask, and we'll try to help as much as we can.

Seoul Thank you (for myself and all our CC singles) for taking the helm!!!
I'm currently teleworking and saw this thread and was compelled (yes - I can be a bit compulsive) to provide a brief answer before I am able to take time to respond to the questions - as a means so I can discipline myself to get back to work... haha...

Got me thinking, that people may/may not want to know more about each others personality types - merely as additional insights about potential matches... Not intended as a means of binning/matching similar or discerning dis-similar personality types - just more information - where more is better than less as it pertains to helping folks to make more informed decisions...
For example I am an INFJ: INFJ (introverted, intuitive, feeling, and judging) is one of the 16 personality types identified by the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI). Sometimes referred to as the "Advocate" or the "Idealist," people with INFJ personalities are creative, gentle, and caring.

For @seoulsearch and everyone here "what is your personality type?"
https://www.16personalities.com/

Great job seoul! I was wondering if you could ask about people's sex. Some are obvious but other's not so much. Before anyone get's offended I want to tell you a story about a certain someone (me) was doting on my daughter about something or other, and another certain someone (Seoul) Texted back telling me what a good Mother is was. It's been well over 2 years but I remember texting her back saying. Hey. I'm a dude! LOL...

My Daughter showed me how to look this up earlier. So sorry. My apology's . You can proceed with with this...In which I'm sure you already have Already done do to your lack of response... Okay...

OK. Here I go.
1. Deborah/Deb/and close friends call me Debs
2. British Columbia, Canada
3. One amazing, kind hearted, son. He is someone I not only love, but really like. He's almost finished university and I am excited for his future.
4. One dog, Bella, who has just confirmed to me that I have no business trimming anyone's bangs, even hers. Oops.
5. I grew up in a Baptist home, was baptized at 14 because I believed. I'd always known God's presence but there was still an emptiness. It wasn't until we moved to the west coast that I ended up in a youth group that showed me a love that broke my heart. I learned about lordship. I went from asking Jesus into my heart to giving him my heart. They loved me and loved each other and that was worth so much more than a world of preaching. I knew the scriptures. I believed. I think I lived a fairly obedient life but this is where things blew open with my faith. I went to a Christian university and learned that God wasn't impressed by how I planned to serve but who I was with him. For me, my faith journey is really my life story. There is so much I've learned along the way. Belief and commitment were only the door through. The really awe inspiring lessons came after. I am so grateful.
6. Friendship is an incredible gift and it is essential. It grows based on trust, honesty, effort and a mutual caring for the other person's best. It is the foundation of a real romance. I have no idea if there would be someone out there for me but I am open to love.
7. Oh goodness. Workwise I was a medical social worker. Volunteer work has always been part of my life and I knew I wanted to help people but I didn't know how. I remember reading that 1 in 6 verses in the bible says to help the poor, the orphans, the elderly, and those in distress. There are a lot of directives to work for justice for these people and to care for them. I worked with street kids and helped in downtown outreaches. Medical social work was really my calling. I did a lot of work in special care (premature births) and maternity (the things that went wrong). It was a sacred trust and I am thankful for that time in my life.
Being a mom has been a huge part of my life and in the last many years I've worked in TV and movies doing background and a few acting roles. I've also been writing, transitioning from non-fiction to fiction and have just started to publish some tiny pieces. I also have international students.
For hobbies, I love books, specifically sci fi, I make rugs, pine needle baskets, sculpt small figures, jewelry and I love travel. I've had some incredible adventures and learned to laugh at myself.
I'm not an athlete but I've I'm good for some hiking/exploring and swimming.
I love the ocean and am always hunting for sea glass or taking pictures. I am laid back, humour is essential. I take others seriously, and myself not at all.
8. This is a hard one because it seems immodest. Honestly my loyalty, humor, patience, sense of fun, friendship, creativity, sincere listening and faith. I am gentle in my honesty and I will guard their heart. I know my pros and cons, who I am and I have peace. Did I mention I can cook? lol
9. Honesty (tactful) and open. It all comes down to attitude of the heart. A great relationship is where each person is looking out for the best for the other person. Power struggles only build walls. I want someone who is comfortable in who they are in Christ and who they are as a man. They have to be able to see the humour in life. I grew up watching M.A.S.H. and reading Far Side cartoon so if that sort of humour doesn't work for you I'm not your gal. I want to be able to be able to be quiet together, beachcomb, enjoy time on the porch or visiting with neighbours. They need to be kind, and willing to lend a hand if an elderly neighbour needs it. I like great discussion and ideas are fun to explore. They can't be threatened by a woman who can think, or take it personally if they bring up a different perspective. Respect is everything.
10. Absolutely. I live in Canada. No one knows where we are. Did you watch the movie "Independence Day?" Did you see Canada get blown up? No. Why? Even the aliens didn't know about us. If our capital cities were bombed, no one would recognize the landmarks? It is perfect. The zombies would get to the border, scratch their heads, shrug and turn around. Failing that, according to Max Brooks, in his zombie survival guide, they can't handle the cold. Where I live doesn't get really cold but let's just keep that as our little secret.
As to the add on questions, I am a woman, just in case the photo didn't tip you off and I'm 55.
P.S. even though I did a quick proofread I apologize in advance for any typos.

I know where Canada is, I also know where hastings is, sketchy part of town, but a very nice policeman directed
us to a much safer section of that lil unknown city.

OK. Here I go.
1. Deborah/Deb/and close friends call me Debs
2. British Columbia, Canada
3. One amazing, kind hearted, son. He is someone I not only love, but really like. He's almost finished university and I am excited for his future.
4. One dog, Bella, who has just confirmed to me that I have no business trimming anyone's bangs, even hers. Oops.
5. I grew up in a Baptist home, was baptized at 14 because I believed. I'd always known God's presence but there was still an emptiness. It wasn't until we moved to the west coast that I ended up in a youth group that showed me a love that broke my heart. I learned about lordship. I went from asking Jesus into my heart to giving him my heart. They loved me and loved each other and that was worth so much more than a world of preaching. I knew the scriptures. I believed. I think I lived a fairly obedient life but this is where things blew open with my faith. I went to a Christian university and learned that God wasn't impressed by how I planned to serve but who I was with him. For me, my faith journey is really my life story. There is so much I've learned along the way. Belief and commitment were only the door through. The really awe inspiring lessons came after. I am so grateful.
6. Friendship is an incredible gift and it is essential. It grows based on trust, honesty, effort and a mutual caring for the other person's best. It is the foundation of a real romance. I have no idea if there would be someone out there for me but I am open to love.
7. Oh goodness. Workwise I was a medical social worker. Volunteer work has always been part of my life and I knew I wanted to help people but I didn't know how. I remember reading that 1 in 6 verses in the bible says to help the poor, the orphans, the elderly, and those in distress. There are a lot of directives to work for justice for these people and to care for them. I worked with street kids and helped in downtown outreaches. Medical social work was really my calling. I did a lot of work in special care (premature births) and maternity (the things that went wrong). It was a sacred trust and I am thankful for that time in my life.
Being a mom has been a huge part of my life and in the last many years I've worked in TV and movies doing background and a few acting roles. I've also been writing, transitioning from non-fiction to fiction and have just started to publish some tiny pieces. I also have international students.
For hobbies, I love books, specifically sci fi, I make rugs, pine needle baskets, sculpt small figures, jewelry and I love travel. I've had some incredible adventures and learned to laugh at myself.
I'm not an athlete but I've I'm good for some hiking/exploring and swimming.
I love the ocean and am always hunting for sea glass or taking pictures. I am laid back, humour is essential. I take others seriously, and myself not at all.
8. This is a hard one because it seems immodest. Honestly my loyalty, humor, patience, sense of fun, friendship, creativity, sincere listening and faith. I am gentle in my honesty and I will guard their heart. I know my pros and cons, who I am and I have peace. Did I mention I can cook? lol
9. Honesty (tactful) and open. It all comes down to attitude of the heart. A great relationship is where each person is looking out for the best for the other person. Power struggles only build walls. I want someone who is comfortable in who they are in Christ and who they are as a man. They have to be able to see the humour in life. I grew up watching M.A.S.H. and reading Far Side cartoon so if that sort of humour doesn't work for you I'm not your gal. I want to be able to be able to be quiet together, beachcomb, enjoy time on the porch or visiting with neighbours. They need to be kind, and willing to lend a hand if an elderly neighbour needs it. I like great discussion and ideas are fun to explore. They can't be threatened by a woman who can think, or take it personally if they bring up a different perspective. Respect is everything.
10. Absolutely. I live in Canada. No one knows where we are. Did you watch the movie "Independence Day?" Did you see Canada get blown up? No. Why? Even the aliens didn't know about us. If our capital cities were bombed, no one would recognize the landmarks? It is perfect. The zombies would get to the border, scratch their heads, shrug and turn around. Failing that, according to Max Brooks, in his zombie survival guide, they can't handle the cold. Where I live doesn't get really cold but let's just keep that as our little secret.
As to the add on questions, I am a woman, just in case the photo didn't tip you off and I'm 55.
P.S. even though I did a quick proofread I apologize in advance for any typos.

Did I mention I use a dumb phone, dont watch t.v. and carry a sidearm every day?

my answers to the questionnaire are and will be sporadic.

you do nice work it's hard when you feel you lost your creative mojo. That happened to me years ago after my dad died I could do design anything my heart wasn't in it. In time your sewing mojo will come back .

Smart people using dumb phones is not a problem ..... .. problems arise when dumb people use smart phones.
It ain't pretty.

I wholeheartedly admit to being one of those dumb people, lol.

I would have never even gotten a smart phone at all if a CC friend hadn't convinced me (and spent several hours via voice texts coaching me how to use it.)

I STILL don't know how to scan and play those QR code thingies either... I saw one the other day and kept thinking about how I keep meaning to learn how to get my phone to read them.

Ok, @TheArtist, you have me slightly obsessed with your chain mail project. This is something I appreciate about art in all forms -- the fine details behind the work.

For anyone not familiar with chain mail (and I've only read about it briefly, if you look at that picture of TheArtist's second project, it's made up of hundreds (if not thousands) of little rings. Each and every single ring must be opened with 2 sets of miniature pliers (one in each hand) then attached to the next ring(s) and be closed up again with the double set of pliers. This is why I'm so fascinated with it.

Although I've done a few projects with jump rings (ladies, if you're wearing any chain jewelry right now, you probably have something that has a few of those rings), I was never interested in chain mail because of all the sheer work. But then I paged through a supply catalog and discovered how many colors they make those rings in, and suddenly my mind was churning away!!! Not only would it be a challenge, but it would feed my somewhat OCD tendencies!!!

And so, @TheArtist, I'm sorry, but I must ask:

1. Out of all those rings, what ratio would you say you accidentally break while making a project of that scale?

I know they always say to open and close a ring by pushing and pulling the ends in opposite directions, but I admit to getting impatient and sometimes accidentally just yanking the ends asunder, resulting in the premature death of the ring. (Sounds like a new movie series... "Death of the Rings"!)

2. Do you have problems with your hands aching/eyestrain after working so many hours with such tiny materials?

When I first saw chain mail, it reminded me of cross stitch. Some cross stitch pieces are so incredibly detailed that you can work on it for 2 hours and have to change colors 20 times (I was working on a picture with a big tree in the background and never knew so many shades of green for the leaves were possible), while only getting about a 2-inch section completed.

Chain mail looks a LOT like that to me.

3. What got you interested in jewelry making? From the pictures you've shared, I would guess that you've amassed or are working on a wide variety of professional-grade tools and equipment? (Are you making the findings and components yourself or buying them separately and piecing them together?)

I wholeheartedly admit to being one of those dumb people, lol.

I would have never even gotten a smart phone at all if a CC friend hadn't convinced me (and spent several hours via voice texts coaching me how to use it.)

I STILL don't know how to scan and play those QR code thingies either... I saw one the other day and kept thinking about how I keep meaning to learn how to get my phone to read them.

I dont know whos going to match all these people up though. Seoul are you saying that we are on our own?