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Hi I'm new and looking for a group of unhappily married people who need help coping with their spouse. .Can someone tell me where o go?
 

Deuteronomy

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Hello @Faithinsearch, welcome to CChat :)

Off hand, I would point you toward posting on the Family Forum, which you can find here: https://christianchat.com/christian-family-forum/

Perhaps someone like @CharliRenee will have a better idea for you? (and I'm sure she'll tell you if she does when she drops by).

God bless you!

~Deut
p.s. - I sorry to hear that you are lonely. Hopefully you will find a number of friends here to talk with however
:)

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23 May the God of peace Himself sanctify you entirely; and may your spirit and soul and body
be preserved complete, without blame at the coming of our Lord Jesus Christ.
24 Faithful is He who calls you, and He also will bring it to pass.
 

Deade

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Hi I'm new and looking for a group of unhappily married people who need help coping with their spouse. .Can someone tell me where o go?
Whoa! That question sounds like it is loaded with explosives. It also sounds provocative, and not a little. It sounds like bait. If you are merely offering counseling, I suggest you modify your approach. Put something out front to that respect.

Anyway welcome to Christian Chat. I hope you enjoy your stay here.


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CharliRenee

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Hi I'm new and looking for a group of unhappily married people who need help coping with their spouse. .Can someone tell me where o go?
Welcome Faithinsearch. Hmmmm... let me think. My first thought is wouldn't she be better helped by ppl in happily married homes. Let me explain. Will you give me a moment...

If you surround yourself with others who are unhappy, completely disgruntled, you will only be feeding that position that I assume you are in. I mean, wouldn't you rather find hope for a better, more satisfied union?

I would go to the family forum or miscellaneous and open up a real heartfelt conversation. Maybe even ask if others here struggle in their marriage. I bet most will admit that a good marriage takes working through the hard, not so comfy times.

I think there is not one thing wrong with seeking support when struggling.

Have you looked offline? Does your church have people you can reach out to?

I hope that you are ok and I am sorry to hear you might be having difficulties.

Also, thanks for joining us here. I hope you find what you are seeking. I will definitely lift you and yours in prayer.
 
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CozHElivesIcanface2morrow

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Hi! Welcome to CC 😊 sorry I don't know if there's a support group like that here...but I believe there are many people here who are kind and will pray with you.


Stay strong! Keep safe @Faithinsearch 🤗 God bless you ❤
 

Bingo

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Welcome Faithinsearch. Hmmmm... let me think. My first thought is wouldn't she be better helped by ppl in happily married homes. Let me explain. Will you give me a moment...

If you surround yourself with others who are unhappy, completely disgruntled, you will only be feeding that position that I assume you are in. I mean, wouldn't you rather find hope for a better, more satisfied union?

I would go to the family forum or miscellaneous and open up a real heartfelt conversation. Maybe even ask if others here struggle in their marriage. I bet most will admit that a good marriage takes working through the hard, not so comfy times.

I think there is not one thing wrong with seeking support when struggling.

Have you looked offline? Does your church have people you can reach out to?

I hope that you are ok and I am sorry to hear you might be having difficulties.

Also, thanks for joining us here. I hope you find what you are seeking. I will definitely lift you and yours in prayer.
She didn’t say she was unhappily married. Maybe her husband is just a busy guy. Maybe she is hoping to get some counseling in, giving...not receiving. Or, she’s looking for companionship for some emotional adultery? Perhaps another one post wonder? I think you guys scared her off. Way to go!
 

Subhumanoidal

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She didn’t say she was unhappily married. Maybe her husband is just a busy guy. Maybe she is hoping to get some counseling in, giving...not receiving. Or, she’s looking for companionship for some emotional adultery? Perhaps another one post wonder? I think you guys scared her off. Way to go!
She posted then logged off a minute later, before anyone even responded. So I'm not seeing how that constitutes being "run off". It's easy to see how people may assume she's having marital problems. It's a much bigger stretch to think she was ran off. She received a number of supportive answers, and even IF they are wrong why would that run her off? And if she were to be ran off by a simple misunderstanding due to her own wording then she has problems anyways.
 

Subhumanoidal

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Welcome Faithinsearch. Hmmmm... let me think. My first thought is wouldn't she be better helped by ppl in happily married homes. Let me explain. Will you give me a moment...

If you surround yourself with others who are unhappy, completely disgruntled, you will only be feeding that position that I assume you are in. I mean, wouldn't you rather find hope for a better, more satisfied union?

I would go to the family forum or miscellaneous and open up a real heartfelt conversation. Maybe even ask if others here struggle in their marriage. I bet most will admit that a good marriage takes working through the hard, not so comfy times.

I think there is not one thing wrong with seeking support when struggling.

Have you looked offline? Does your church have people you can reach out to?

I hope that you are ok and I am sorry to hear you might be having difficulties.

Also, thanks for joining us here. I hope you find what you are seeking. I will definitely lift you and yours in prayer.
Being around people not in a similar position isn't always best. It can even be a source of frustration at times.
I've been to depression and mental illness forums and they tend to be the best support for those with mental illness. Because they understand how it feels. And know all the fruitless cliches that aren't helpful, and avoid them. And they don't criticize people for their struggle, or even for having a mental illness, as I've seen done so often here.

Also people who have been in an experience longer often learn more about how to cope. Coming here and getting marriage advice from singles and those in happy marriages is less likely to be of Real benefit than going somewhere with people who may have been in it for years and have already learned a lot through their experiences.
That's not to say people who are better off are of no benefit, but on average people who can relate are going to be a greater benefit than those who can't.
 
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She posted then logged off a minute later, before anyone even responded. So I'm not seeing how that constitutes being "run off". It's easy to see how people may assume she's having marital problems. It's a much bigger stretch to think she was ran off. She received a number of supportive answers, and even IF they are wrong why would that run her off? And if she were to be ran off by a simple misunderstanding due to her own wording then she has problems anyways.
Your ability to deduce sarcasm could use some work. Heartfelt apologies to all who took offence. I thought it would have been taken as an obvious joke to the lady I responded to.
 

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She didn’t say she was unhappily married. Maybe her husband is just a busy guy. Maybe she is hoping to get some counseling in, giving...not receiving. Or, she’s looking for companionship for some emotional adultery? Perhaps another one post wonder? I think you guys scared her off. Way to go!
True hungry one, I guess it wouldn't have hurt for me to ask questions before I gave my input. I so hope I didn't contribute scaring her off.
 
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True hungry one, I guess it wouldn't have hurt for me to ask questions before I gave my input. I so hope I didn't contribute scaring her off.
You aren’t so scary. I was just joking. Lots of people just get bored, post and run. Clearly sarcasm is not well received in any forum aside from the “Singles”.
 

CharliRenee

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Being around people not in a similar position isn't always best. It can even be a source of frustration at times.
I've been to depression and mental illness forums and they tend to be the best support for those with mental illness. Because they understand how it feels. And know all the fruitless cliches that aren't helpful, and avoid them. And they don't criticize people for their struggle, or even for having a mental illness, as I've seen done so often here.

Also people who have been in an experience longer often learn more about how to cope. Coming here and getting marriage advice from singles and those in happy marriages is less likely to be of Real benefit than going somewhere with people who may have been in it for years and have already learned a lot through their experiences.
That's not to say people who are better off are of no benefit, but on average people who can relate are going to be a greater benefit than those who can't.
Yes, you make good and useful points, Sub. I really do get what you are saying. I would say, though, wouldn't you that every good long lasting marriage has gone through very hard times?
 
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True hungry one, I guess it wouldn't have hurt for me to ask questions before I gave my input. I so hope I didn't contribute scaring her off.
....Besides, you could have asked all the questions you wanted. I think you’d still be waiting for answers.
 

CharliRenee

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You aren’t so scary. I was just joking. Lots of people just get bored, post and run. Clearly sarcasm is not well received in any forum aside from the “Singles”.
Lol, You know i have noticed peeps often do that. They say hi and then I never see them again, not even on their post.
 

oyster67

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Hi I'm new and looking for a group of unhappily married people who need help coping with their spouse. .Can someone tell me where o go?
Welcome to CC, sister Faithinsearch. I am not married but I agree we must pray for all who are, especially for those who are unhappily so.
 

TabinRivCA

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Welcome and glad to meet you. Hope you do join in on the forums and share your thoughts, God bless you and your family!
 

Subhumanoidal

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Yes, you make good and useful points, Sub. I really do get what you are saying. I would say, though, wouldn't you that every good long lasting marriage has gone through very hard times?
Most may, but I'm not really getting the point in relation to our interaction.