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Yes you introduced yourself. Then the topic turned into a virginity thread with talk of oral sex. That topic IS meant for a different forum..
And that was only because of a comment that was left before period. No convo is a bad convo and at the end of the day this convo can help other people who have been threw the same situation again there is no reason y any of this would belong on a family thread and you didnt have to read everything or be interested.
 
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Yes you introduced yourself. Then the topic turned into a virginity thread with talk of oral sex. That topic IS meant for a different forum..
It's a introduction forum you introduce yourself however you feel is neccessary I did exactly that virginity is in my name title my friend if it wasnt allowed I would have not been aloud to make it. again the comments left took this into a completely different wrote but if you look deeper you will see not only the progress of myself but as someone else. If this bothers you then you have every right to report or make a complaint.
 
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It takes a strong faith to say no when your body says yes. Sex gets in the way of truth about a person because the flesh lies and says it good when really it is not
 
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I will make sure when something sexual happens to me its gonna be because I want it. My mind and body didnt want it but i didnt know how to speak up i was never faced with a situation like it before. And things at home didnt make it easier i was never allowed to make decisions they were always made for me.
 

Mii

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I will make sure when something sexual happens to me its gonna be because I want it. My mind and body didnt want it but i didnt know how to speak up i was never faced with a situation like it before. And things at home didnt make it easier i was never allowed to make decisions they were always made for me.
I'm not suggesting you lower your standards or anything regarding companionship, I merely suggest a change.

Someone who is a chaste virgin in the flesh doesn't say at all if they are marriage material. I always thought to marry a virgin like I said, but in the end, the Lord can restore many people in many ways and my main criteria is their heart is for the Lord and we are mutually interested in each other.

You can find virgins that aren't believers...or nominal believers. If you found yourself completely in love with someone and then found out they had sex before when they were young or whatever, would you break it off?

I'm asking sincerely because as you yourself have experienced, stuff happens to everyone. A lot of the things that have happened to me beyond my control (I think) were in dreams. I have been raped in a dream. No it's not the same thing as being raped awake, but I still remember it and coincidentally I learned about many different sexual things in dreams that I felt were wrong but had to find it in the Old Testament to know for sure.

That stuff just sort of found me. I have guarded myself physically to a large extent, but asleep if I am intentional about it, it feels like I did it.

So would I want a female to look elsewhere just because I've had my own struggles and mistakes? No. I would want them to know my history and the struggles that I've had and what it says about the road ahead if we marry, but ideally I'd want someone with a similar struggle against their flesh but in a female format. Idealistic? maybe. Children I didn't father that aren't adopted is a hurdle I'm not sure I'm built for. I get it when both parties come out of prior marriages and join families but a single never married jumping in to fathering children half my age, yeah...seems out of my depth. Stepfatherhood seems like a strange first step.

Anyway, I just posted that so you can get a gauge that while it does matter, you gotta be careful not to idolize virginity and that there are many paths marriage can take. A lifelong partner no matter their past so long as their present and future is in Jesus is all that matters as far as I can see.
 

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You do. Satan is targeting all of us. He is desperate.
Jesus never promised us an easy life, but it will be worth it all when we get home.
Don't give up. We will pray for you and with you.
Please add my prayer to yours for this hurting member.
 

oyster67

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It takes a strong faith to say no when your body says yes. Sex gets in the way of truth about a person because the flesh lies and says it good when really it is not
Very kind of you, dear sister. A warm Christian welcome to CC.:)
 
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Oh wow thank you for all of the positive reactions in the mix of my pain fed by own selfishness it is easy to be swallowed by anger my cross my nails. Although I did not make my cross none of us did I Carry it with me we all do, when I don't give my pain over to God to help me heal and find peace in His love that is when I get swallowed with my anger. I nail myself to my cross. when your nails are made of pain turned into anger we -I- need help, that is why fellowship, "the coming together of one body in Christ" is so important to help one another to remember the peace and love of God,, . The feeling of love I have received from the short time I have found this site. Thank you for being the tools of God that removed my nails God Bless you all
 

Mii

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Oh wow thank you for all of the positive reactions in the mix of my pain fed by own selfishness it is easy to be swallowed by anger my cross my nails. Although I did not make my cross none of us did I Carry it with me we all do, when I don't give my pain over to God to help me heal and find peace in His love that is when I get swallowed with my anger. I nail myself to my cross. when your nails are made of pain turned into anger we -I- need help, that is why fellowship, "the coming together of one body in Christ" is so important to help one another to remember the peace and love of God,, . The feeling of love I have received from the short time I have found this site. Thank you for being the tools of God that removed my nails God Bless you all
Yes, I am reminded of the fact that someone helped to carry Jesus' cross at one point. An important thing to remember for me personally...none of us is meant to be alone all the time. We have the body for a reason.
 
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Yes, I am reminded of the fact that someone helped to carry Jesus' cross at one point. An important thing to remember for me personally...none of us is meant to be alone all the time. We have the body for a reason.
 
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Oh wow thank you for all of the positive reactions in the mix of my pain fed by own selfishness it is easy to be swallowed by anger my cross my nails. Although I did not make my cross none of us did I Carry it with me we all do, when I don't give my pain over to God to help me heal and find peace in His love that is when I get swallowed with my anger. I nail myself to my cross. when your nails are made of pain turned into anger we -I- need help, that is why fellowship, "the coming together of one body in Christ" is so important to help one another to remember the peace and love of God,, . The feeling of love I have received from the short time I have found this site. Thank you for being the tools of God that removed my nails God Bless you all
Stay strong
 
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You have been on my heart .your decision to be faithful to our Lord by waiting till you marry is a hard one in this day and age.. and is very commendable stay strong
 
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kaylagrl

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Well I dont mind if she did oral once or twice because I have gotten oral however it was something I didnt want but I still want to be fair. Besides that everything a woman should be cool fun respectful understanding. etc. There are other things I dont like tatts piercings bad attitudes dressing very revealing. However I always make exceptions cuz I dont have good luck you cant get everything

Woah!!! Hold them horses. This is not a dating site. First point. Second point, no one wants a play by play of your sex life. And third point you're not a virgin bub. Sorry to break it to ya.
 
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