when asked...

Are you married?
Do you have a husband? Do you have a boyfriend?
Or do you have a wife? Do you have a girlfriend?

by curious children, how do you answer?

When you say no, you dont have one, what do you say when they then ask ...do you want one?

lol

I think I answered, not right now, or not really.

I later kind of thought about it and wondered how the conversation would have gone if I'd answered something else.
Like if I'd said well,how about you? But they are under 18.
Or why, do you have someone in mind?

When innocent kids ask be honest and be truthful because your words are remembered...the words we say today to them will have great impact in the future... 😊


They might ask you the same question a never ending question...😅 still be honest with them...they will not understand it now but in the future they will and will remember your words 😊

do you give yourself migraines GOOWZ?

you just answer, and if you dont know, you just say I dont know.

No need to lie about it.

Although since its the most popular question of the month I wondered if other single people answered differently.

The cat one Im puzzled over. I dont have children...cats are my children answer is kinda ---weird. I. not asking how to answer the question, as Ive already answered it and dont need advice but just wondering what other people say. If I said that to a child they'd just go huh?!
and probably they'd start pretending to be cats or something.

I dont have lots of cats anyway lol. Just the one lives here. The neighbours have more.

In the past i did. These days i just like to keep it simple. It's funny because some people want extremely over-complicated answers because they just can't accept and be satisfied by such simple answers.

yea making it seem like you need to be excused for not being married or not with someone.
If you not married you just are not married. Doesnt need to be any big deal.

Though lots of people might ask 'why' and Im like just because.
I think the first time someone asked me and Id never really thought about it before, I had to come up with a reason because the doctor was like interrogating me either that or just being nosy, questioning why I wasnt dating etc I said um because evryone else that has boyfriends always get their hearts broken. So why would I want a broken heart?

Then he got all weird. But I think that shut him up but he kept pushing the issue as if there was something *wrong* with not being in a relationship.

Doctors can be like that sometimes and just make seemingly pressing and personal questions while they do their examinations and whatnot. I think sometimes they just make small talk to make things seem less awkward. If your social skills are smooth enough you can switch the conversation around on them and have them talking about themselves and voicing their opinions instead.

Well, it is complicated. Do not want to go into too much detail, but the kindest thing to say would be that as a young person I went through some signification distractions in life that provided a set back in terms of the development of my social skills, to put it mildly. At an age when most young people were developing socially, I was 'bombed back to the stone age'.

Hence, I was 'on the sidelines' during my prime twenties and thirties dating years. I did not begin to grow into my social skills until well into middle age, and by that point had become pretty much set in my ways from a single standpoint. To be quite frank, I kind of enjoy being single. Or at the very least, consider myself someone who potentially can accomplish things in life single that I might not if otherwise married.

I am not the most attractive guy either, so do not naturally receive a great deal of attention from women to begin with. Then again, it is kind of my fault in that I do not make it a habit to go out and meet people. Lost track of the number of invites to single groups, church singles activities, etc I turned down as a young person and stayed home instead. That said, I had gone through a great deal as a young person and needed a lot of space, privacy and time alone, particulars that still hold true to this day.

I understand the importance of compassion in the life of a Christian but also believe it is a two way street: not just compassion for others but self compassion as well. In order words, it might not always be fair to look back and second guess decisions you made as a young person. Or as it states in Philippians 3:13: forgetting what is behind and straining towards what is ahead...

haha something I had yet to learn...

I think my social skills are rather better now according to my own estimation but whenever people asked stuff like 'do you have a job?' for example I thought they were judging me when I was unemployed.

they were just asking. I guess I didnt like saying no to ppl. and think I was disappointing them.
A more mature person would probably say, sadly, no.

My dentist always used to ask if I was pregnant. When she was giving me an x ray. we would laugh about it. But my new dentist, who is a guy doesnt ask me that. However I dont like my new dentist that much as he charges an insane amount and I want to change. arrgh thats another story.

if anyone has free dental care who isnt under 18 tell me HOW do they get it?? I can only think its cos they either bludging off their parents or maybe...their spouse pays for it.