Should men be able to express themselves in a relationship?

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RodB651

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Should men be able to express themselves in a relationship?..

Yes!
 

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Word of advice to Brother Encouragement: In my experience all women are turned off, bigtime, when a suitor expresses any sort of weakness whatsoever. Men who want a woman therefore, must limit themselves to righteous indignation with a hint of determination. But sure, if a man meets some women friends that he's sure they will never want to date, go ahead and "express yourself". I guess married men can risk it... but proceed with caution.
This is kinda sad. I’m sorry you’ve only met woman that have felt that way. I know women that are attracted to those that do in fact express themselves.

I personally want someone that expresses all emotions/feelings. I want to know when he’s angry, frustrated, annoyed, happy, excited etc., whatever it may be. Of course we all (men and women) need to choose healthy ways to express ourselves, but nobody is perfect.
 

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Men don't say much to express themselves for they are men of action. They show their loving kindness thru actions mostly. But some women are desperate for words because they are more emotional. Some men will just give in for the sake of peace and harmony but for others it becomes a source of frustration for both men and women.
 

RodB651

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There are men out there who don't have a way with words exactly...

"Hey Darling... You know I like it when you cook my breakfast and you still got on your pajamas. You sure are purty... My eggs done yet?"

just go with it...
 

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There are men out there who don't have a way with words exactly...

"Hey Darling... You know I like it when you cook my breakfast and you still got on your pajamas. You sure are purty... My eggs done yet?"

just go with it...
Over easy.
 

agatha

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I do believe that is important for men to express what he feel. On my past relationship, i found it hard to understand or realized what my ex bf want because he didn't express himself. And in the end it led me fed up. I can't empathy to how he feel, and it makes me feel useless. He kept everything himself. whenever i asked, seems like he always said okay, and think by himself. I felt like he made some wall between us. So yes, i do believe that men need to express more, to tell more, so the relationship can grow together.
 
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I do believe that is important for men to express what he feel. On my past relationship, i found it hard to understand or realized what my ex bf want because he didn't express himself. And in the end it led me fed up. I can't empathy to how he feel, and it makes me feel useless. He kept everything himself. whenever i asked, seems like he always said okay, and think by himself. I felt like he made some wall between us. So yes, i do believe that men need to express more, to tell more, so the relationship can grow together.
Absolutely -- It is important for both parties to have an honest relationship. God doesn't want anybody to bottle everything up. God wants honesty and transparency -- which will make your relationship even stronger. Even more important than that is to ensure that God is the center of your life and your relationship.
 

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I do believe that is important for men to express what he feel. On my past relationship, i found it hard to understand or realized what my ex bf want because he didn't express himself. And in the end it led me fed up. I can't empathy to how he feel, and it makes me feel useless. He kept everything himself. whenever i asked, seems like he always said okay, and think by himself. I felt like he made some wall between us. So yes, i do believe that men need to express more, to tell more, so the relationship can grow together.
Hi what you have experienced with him is EXACTLY how many women feel at time when the guy they are with just cannot express his emotions.The guy is just emotionally withdrawn/ detached from them so you cant get to connect with the real person they are inside.
 

MatthewWestfieldUK

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Expressing is essential.
Often is when the man is cold that the wife starts of form emotional connections with other males.
If possible, he should keep his if expressions short and factual..... if you're going to lie don't, just keep your mouth shut about it
 

Gojira

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Hi folks just a pretty straightforward question really.
In a relationship do you think it's important for a guy to be able to express himself.Many guys in general can express anger for example which is a powerful forceful amount of emotional energy...what what about sharing his innermost feelings?Things that hurt him,fears,concerns ect..traumas?
Many women have been frustrated as their partner doesn't express how he really feels or thinks about certain things and therefore makes it difficult for her understand his point of view and if he feels sad,anxious or even worried about things in life.
Unfortunately various cultures as well a society can dictate how men express themselves mentally and emotionally and some can see expressing certain emotions as being unmanly or weak.Also in the home many fathers don't express themselves emotionally to their sons so many sons can grow up not being emotionally self aware.
Some men are lead to believe they aren't supposed to cry,be scared...be vulnerable ect...so many men at times seek to hide these things and put on a front which isn't a reflection of who they REALLY are.Many feel the constant pressure or demand to be strong,the leader....the warrior type figure...
Personally I have no problems expressing my emotions verbally e t because of having to go through counselling in the past and just being really aware of that's going on inside me.Anyway it be good to hear your thoughts on this matter.
Look forward to hear from you.
Just how important is it for a guy to be able to express himself in a relationship emotionally and mentally...coz some guys say they dont do emotions..🤦🏼‍♂️
I'm pretty surprised by some of the things I read in these forums. Women's opinions aren't respected, men are taught to not express themselves. I feel like I'm reading stuff from 40 years ago. I'm not seeing any of this in the real world -- or in these forums.

I am a man. Or, at least I'm trying to make a good show of it. And, I'm very expressive, open, transparent. Perhaps to a fault. I have no problem saying how I feel. In fact, I had the opposite problem with my late wife, who refused to open up when I wanted or needed her to. Drove me nuts, because I never had any problem laying it out on the table.