Girlfriend said that if not in a relationship she would have sex with a stranger for $10 million depending on the person. Red flag?

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kikoman98

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I was having a conversation with my girlfriend about exhorbant sums of money people pay for sex after seeing an instagram post on the subject. She joked about having sex with a stranger for $1 million. I didn't find this funny, and I asked her seriously if she would do that. She replied that she would not. But she followed up with "if someone offered me $10 million, and I wasn't in a relationship, I'd consider it depending on the person. I am seriously disgusted by this, and I'm considering ending things over it. I'm concerned that we are seriously misaligned in terms of values. I view this as selling your soul.

All of my secular friends think I'm WAY overreacting to this hypothetical that will never happen. What do you'll think? Am I blowing this out of proportion? I do have a tenancy to do so. Am I right to feel very hurt by this statement?

Some background: We are both somewhat Christian, but have not attended church in a while. I grew up Catholic, but consider myself non denominaltional now. We have both expressed desire to find a church in our area and attend together. We are in our late twenties and have been dating for about a year. We love eachother, but this is seeming like a big red flag to me in terms of compatability.
 
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We have all sinned. If you already have true love for her, that would be love from above, having faith she will one day be fine.

Remember he who has broken the least of the laws is a sinner just as are all others.. Now if you are looking for an excuse to leave her, that is a different problem.
 
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kikoman98 said:
I was having a conversation with my girlfriend about exhorbant sums of money people pay for sex after seeing an instagram post on the subject. She joked about having sex with a stranger for $1 million. I didn't find this funny, and I asked her seriously if she would do that. She replied that she would not. But she followed up with "if someone offered me $10 million, and I wasn't in a relationship, I'd consider it depending on the person. I am seriously disgusted by this, and I'm considering ending things over it. I'm concerned that we are seriously misaligned in terms of values. I view this as selling your soul.

All of my secular friends think I'm WAY overreacting to this hypothetical that will never happen. What do you'll think? Am I blowing this out of proportion? I do have a tenancy to do so. Am I right to feel very hurt by this statement?

Some background: We are both somewhat Christian, but have not attended church in a while. I grew up Catholic, but consider myself non denominaltional now. We have both expressed desire to find a church in our area and attend together. We are in our late twenties and have been dating for about a year. We love eachother, but this is seeming like a big red flag to me in terms of compatability.
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"Somewhat" Christian basically means not Christian in Gods view. God says if you're not for Him you're against Him. And that there is no middle ground.

I can understand your being upset by this, though I'd never view it as selling your soul.

Whether or not it's something that can happen or not is irrelevant. It shows the heart of the person and what they value.
On the up side at least she has a high amount. There would be many women that would agree to do so for much less. And I don't mean prostitutes. I remember years back a college student sold her virginity to a stranger to help pay for her college. Apparently that started a trend.

I'm not going to advise you on what to do, but I will say I understand your reason for feeling upset. If it's what you feel you need to do, then do it. But i would encourage you to think about the long term. Is it possible you could regret leaving her? Or regret staying? What if you said something she disliked and dumped you, would you feel that was fair or right? Spend some time being sure whichever choice you make is one you won't regret later.
 
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Wait, didn't they make a movie about this? "Indecent Proposal" I think was the name. I never saw it but I've heard of it.

If you're both "somewhat Christian" then any advice we can give you would be irrelevant to your situation. There's no way for us to know which parts of Christianity matter to you.
 
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kikoman98 said:
I was having a conversation with my girlfriend about exhorbant sums of money people pay for sex after seeing an instagram post on the subject. She joked about having sex with a stranger for $1 million. I didn't find this funny, and I asked her seriously if she would do that. She replied that she would not. But she followed up with "if someone offered me $10 million, and I wasn't in a relationship, I'd consider it depending on the person. I am seriously disgusted by this, and I'm considering ending things over it. I'm concerned that we are seriously misaligned in terms of values. I view this as selling your soul.

All of my secular friends think I'm WAY overreacting to this hypothetical that will never happen. What do you'll think? Am I blowing this out of proportion? I do have a tenancy to do so. Am I right to feel very hurt by this statement?

Some background: We are both somewhat Christian, but have not attended church in a while. I grew up Catholic, but consider myself non denominaltional now. We have both expressed desire to find a church in our area and attend together. We are in our late twenties and have been dating for about a year. We love eachother, but this is seeming like a big red flag to me in terms of compatability.
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Yup. I see it as a big, red flag. Imagine if she said she would never kill anyone, but she would if she was offered $10M to do it and the guy was ugly.
 
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kikoman98 said:
I was having a conversation with my girlfriend about exhorbant sums of money people pay for sex after seeing an instagram post on the subject. She joked about having sex with a stranger for $1 million. I didn't find this funny, and I asked her seriously if she would do that. She replied that she would not. But she followed up with "if someone offered me $10 million, and I wasn't in a relationship, I'd consider it depending on the person. I am seriously disgusted by this, and I'm considering ending things over it. I'm concerned that we are seriously misaligned in terms of values. I view this as selling your soul.

All of my secular friends think I'm WAY overreacting to this hypothetical that will never happen. What do you'll think? Am I blowing this out of proportion? I do have a tenancy to do so. Am I right to feel very hurt by this statement?

Some background: We are both somewhat Christian, but have not attended church in a while. I grew up Catholic, but consider myself non denominaltional now. We have both expressed desire to find a church in our area and attend together. We are in our late twenties and have been dating for about a year. We love eachother, but this is seeming like a big red flag to me in terms of compatability.
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All this meaning that she is a prostitute....just a matter of negotiating the price.

Selling sexual favors for money=prostitute.

So the next question is: what is she willing to sell inexpensively?
 
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Yep...Big red flag.

This person worships mammon...not God!

He then asked a somewhat rhetorical question saying, “For what shall it profit a man, if he shall gain the whole world, and lose his own soul? Or what shall a man give in exchange for his soul?” (Mark 8:36-37)
 
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First off, as a female that is putting red flags up for me. I question what type of woman would even give thought to doing such things regardless of the amount of money involved?


Pay attention to what people say with their mouths (even if they claim that they are "just joking/kidding around")
Somehow I get the feeling that if you really start listening to her (as in what is REALLY being said when she speaks- what is behind it) that this isn't the only red flag you'll hear from her.


A good man out of the good treasure of his heart brings forth good; and an evil man out of the evil treasure of his heart brings forth evil. For out of the abundance of the heart his mouth speaks.
Luke 6:45


Matthew 12:33-37:
33) Make a tree good and its fruit will be good, or make a tree bad and its fruit will be bad; for a tree is known by its fruit. 34) You brood of vipers, how can you who are evil say anything good? For out of the overflow of the heart, the mouth speaks. 35) The good man brings good things out of his good store of treasure, and the evil man brings evil things out of his evil store of treasure. 36) But I tell you that men will give an account on the day of judgment for every careless word they have spoken. 37) For by your words you will be acquitted, and by your words you will be condemned.”
 
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meh

If shes not concerned about it then i dont know (depends on how flippantly she answered this)

in the real world people really do awful things for cash because they are desperate. Maybe she was just being realistic and putting herself in that hypothetical situation.

Maybe you dont understand cos you are a guy and guys are often the ones in control of where and when they have sex and would not even consider that this is what many women all over the world resort to doing because they are destitute.

It is not like many women actually have lots of opportunities to make a million dollars....when faced with temptation I think many would give in actually.
 
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Lanolin said:
meh

If shes not concerned about it then i dont know (depends on how flippantly she answered this)

in the real world people really do awful things for cash because they are desperate. Maybe she was just being realistic and putting herself in that hypothetical situation.

Maybe you dont understand cos you are a guy and guys are often the ones in control of where and when they have sex and would not even consider that this is what many women all over the world resort to doing because they are destitute.

It is not like many women actually have lots of opportunities to make a million dollars....when faced with temptation I think many would give in actually.
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???

We are supposed to put our trust in the Lord. He never promised riches in this life, and that should not be the goal for a Christian anyhow.

If we use this line of reasoning, then people could steal, kill whatever it takes and they might as well take the mark of the beast if it is offered. They would be able to buy and sell and not suffer. Now that is just too odd for me.

Also, women are in control of when and where they have sex unless they are raped.

Women have every opportunity that men have when it comes to earning money, as well. No one has to turn to prostitution to survive..well, not in my neck of the woods anyhow.
 
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You love each other and have been dating for a year - any thoughts on progressing to the next level? Maybe your girlfriend is dropping you a hint.
 
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If you don't want her to be a woman anymore, then make her a wife. If you can handle not being a man anymore but a husband, that is.
 
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You've been dating for a year. Has she put up any other red flags? I don't know if I'd dump her this one comment, but I can't imagine someone who said something like this hasn't said or done other things that are concerning.

My advice is to stop being somewhat Christian and get serious about the God of the Bible, and His Son (not Catholicism). Then follow Him and let Him teach you what you should do.
 
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kikoman98 said:
What do you'll mean by this exactly?
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Seems like you are just stringing her along by this long engagement yet get angry and upset with her as if she is your wife. I don't see how you get upset with her answers to hypothetical questions. To me, your negative reaction was over-sensitive.
 
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kikoman98 said:
I was having a conversation with my girlfriend about exhorbant sums of money people pay for sex after seeing an instagram post on the subject. She joked about having sex with a stranger for $1 million. I didn't find this funny, and I asked her seriously if she would do that. She replied that she would not. But she followed up with "if someone offered me $10 million, and I wasn't in a relationship, I'd consider it depending on the person. I am seriously disgusted by this, and I'm considering ending things over it. I'm concerned that we are seriously misaligned in terms of values. I view this as selling your soul.

All of my secular friends think I'm WAY overreacting to this hypothetical that will never happen. What do you'll think? Am I blowing this out of proportion? I do have a tenancy to do so. Am I right to feel very hurt by this statement?

Some background: We are both somewhat Christian, but have not attended church in a while. I grew up Catholic, but consider myself non denominaltional now. We have both expressed desire to find a church in our area and attend together. We are in our late twenties and have been dating for about a year. We love eachother, but this is seeming like a big red flag to me in terms of compatability.
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No you shouldn't take it serious. Do you think somebody would give your girlfriend 1million dollars for sex, let alone 10million hun? You probably feel that way because if the price is right she might accept some type of dollar amount for her body.
 
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