It's good to be single.

You already living THE life when you are single.

I dont understand the burning desire to be tied down unless you have zero family....i.e all your parents died and you have no brothers and sisters, cousins and aunties and uncles.

I agree. Many times individuals with bad experiences in their marriages tell the youth or singles not to marry. And it is understandable because of their personal experience. It is because they also don't see that there could be solution to the problem.

That don't even make sense dear. Excercise your thought process and rewrite your comment. God bless

What a silly comment.

Who are you replying to? I read few comments above yours, but i cant see who you might be replying to.

Ridiculous.

From the context I'd say she is replying to the thread title, making a general statement based on the topic instead of responding to any of the posts in this thread so far.

Haha

If someone came up to me and told me, its good to be single, dont ever get married. I cant say i would agree with them.

Everytime I have to carry my heavy market bags, I am reminded being single or friendless is not good.

All I can do is observe the people who are in bad marriages, and take notes of what or where they went wrong and try to avoid same.

I dont see why people in bad marriages need to discourage others. Just because things arent so rosy with them means it will be the same for everyone.

Whether single or married, both has its problems and its joys. So neither side can say its better off.

I can agree with everything... except the part about those grocery bags. For that, I can provide a tip:

Tie all the handles together into one big knot and you can lift all of them at once. Or two knots if you have a LOT of bags - one big bundle for each hand.

Haha what i need is to tip someone to help me with my bags. Cause I can hardly manage.

It's always better to be single than In a relationship with the wrong person, I am guessing by this post that you and she have two entirely different views on marrage.

It's always a good idea to make sure you and your potential spouse are equally yoked in beliefs and convictions, remember that a kingdom divided against itself cannot stand.

Keep waiting on the Lord and I'm sure he will bring the right woman into your life in His timing. remember marrage itself is not a bad thing, but marrage with the wrong person is a bad thing.

the OP

when its not reply to someone its to the OP topic and meant for everyone

basic netiquette.

I dont run down your comments, so perhaps extend a bit of basic courtesy to eveyone elses.

you use your shoulders (shoulder straps are good!) or utilise a trolley.

Also dont lift more than you can carry. It is better to carry a few fewer loads than one big one and strain yourself.

You can do it.

Veteran bag carrier and box lifter....says.

Dont use those flimsy plastic bags they are useless. Also banned in some countries thank goodness. Invest in a simple cloth bag or sew one yourself. Take it with you shopping. Reuse it.

Make sure the straps are long enough so you can hang it on your shoulder. The point is so you can have your hands free.

Boxes. Lift boxes with your knees not your back. Hold them close to your chest. Dont lift it if its too heavy, take objects out to lighten the load.
Use a trolley, or one of those carts on wheels for boxes.
if you are picking a car, get one that is a hatch or a 'cargo' car i.e fun cargo, as you dont have to lift so high to fit things in as you would a sedan.
If you have a bicycle invest in a basket over the handlebars. So handy.

Legend has it that the Veteran bag carrier and box lifter, retired with lots of aches and pains, and is saddened by the selfishness of mankind. If the veteran could have lived their life over, they would start a petition that says everyone who is carrying more than one bag or a heavy bag should be assisted by his fellow man. For as the saying goes, no man is an island therefore let each one help the other with their bag- even if the bag is not heavy. And in so doing the world would be a much better place.

Genuine love is a precious attribute of heavenly origin, which increases in fragrance in proportion as it is dispensed to others. Christ’s love is deep and earnest, flowing like an irrepressible stream to all who will accept it. There is no selfishness in His love. In this heaven-born love is an abiding principle in the heart, it will make itself known, not only to those we hold most dear in sacred relationship, but to all with whom we come in contact. It will lead us to bestow little acts of attention, to make concessions, to perform deeds of kindness, to speak tender, true, encouraging words. It will lead us to sympathize with those whose hearts hunger for sympathy.

Well, your understanding of the "realities of marriage", which are always negative in your posts, indicates that you do have a negative outlook on marriage.

You can be content as a single person and not criticize the institution in the ways you consistently have.

Post #37 was a positive marriage story posted by me, so that's a lie.
Your characterization of me is false.

I want other people to be content being single too, and not stuck being sad-singles that come onto "good to be single" threads and cry and lament about how being single sucks. This thread wasn't made to outline the high points of married life- but to cast down the imaginations used by the devil to convince people that they need to get married to be whole.

We already did this. Like, on the first page. Gideon300 and Nehemiah6 accused SomeDisciple of the same thing.

We hashed it out and got it all cleared up.

Do we REALLY have to go through this again?

Lol, maybe we do.

I understand there's a lot of sad-singles that idealize marriage, so when I say something about it that's less than ideal it's bound to strike a nerve somewhere. I'm actually quite protective over the institution of marriage, too. I hate divorce- maybe almost as much as God does- my posts in other threads can testify to that. I used to be a sad-single too- and not necessarily covetous, but envious of married people because there's fun things like romance and raising silly kids that make you laugh.

But like we've been saying- it's really not to be coveted or envied. There's good things about being a woman- but I don't want to be a woman! So why would I look down on myself because I'm not married- or let married people look down on me from their imaginary pedistal? We shouldn't do that! Those little condescending one liners they have "I'm sure you'll find somebody someday" Like they feel bad for you or something. They don't get it.

Perhaps I'm confusing you with someone else? Maybe if I feel up to it I'll review the posts. But... I did not lie. That says deliberate intent. Watch it.

I responded to a post. That's what we do here