Is marriage worth it?

I have noticed how many Christians say and suggest it is shameful for a Christian man not to be married. This certainly goes agianst Biblical teachings

"8 Now to the unmarried[a] and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I do"-Paul

"So then, he who marries the virgin does right, but he who does not marry her does better."-Paul

Paul warns us about having "worldly sorrow' in another book "Godly sorrow brings repentance that leads to salvation and leaves no regret, but worldly sorrow brings death."

I think the sorrow from being single is very worldly. Can you not let everything go and devote your life to God?


personally I dont really care if I marry or not, id rather not though, but the damn world seems to be trying to set me up. She has a gross period, and I say that for one reason, women rag on my male anatomy, it is just shameful, just like her period. It will make me worldly if i marry, having to worry about worldly things, ill have to change my life style, and I do not want to live like those people who boast in the families.

Is marriage worth it? Maybe for sex, and that is my only selling point

Like Paul says, “So then, he who marries the virgin does right, but he who does not marry her does better.” Right or better?

holyheavens! you are terrible to talk about women's menstrual periods like that. marriage for sex? you have a huge amount to learn before you even date. what do you think women are going to think of you when they read your post? start reading the Bible now, Proverbs 31: verses 10 thru 31!

Both are 100% okay in God's eyes. Both come with their own types of sin to avoid as well.

Marriage was ordained by God in Genesis 2. God created male and female, including our anatomy and bodily functions. There is nothing gross about a period just as no one should rag on your anatomy. It's normal.

There is much more to marriage than just sex. Marriage gives men a helper, a woman a protector, children will have parents and that together will build healthy societies.

Marriage spiritually is to reflect Jesus and the church. United as one mind. All covenants involve the shedding of blood. Just as Jesus shed His blood for the New Covenant, a marriage covenant was traditionally for the Jews consecrated in blood by the virginity of the wife. Once they would become one flesh, she would hang the bloody cloth outside the window so all would know she was faithful and pure. A marriage will also reflect the relationship of the Trinity as Man, woman, and God are of one mind and working together as one.

There is a lot to this subject especially when you take the spiritual image of Jesus and the church how the church (bride) submits to Christ (groom), the wife in a marriage submits to the husband, as the husband submits to Christ, both husband and wife submit to each other, etc.

But this I say, brethren, the time is short: it remaineth, that both they that have wives be as though they had none"

You've gone and done it now. You're just been blacklisted by the entire female population oooh snap!

Joking aside that comment is uncalled for and its unbiblical.

I'm thinking you should stay single, @ShemYoshi.

Well this is what God says....
“It is not good for man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.”
so.... there is that.


I personally think it's unnatural. Now if someone hasn't yet found their partner that's completely different. But if someone says I don't want anyone or I don't want someone bothering me, etc. I don't think that's healthy at all.

Paul had a mission from God and so he was alone. I don't think that applies to most people.

Even being successful, the more people come together the bigger the change.

We are called to be the body of Christ. Again opposite of being alone.

I'm married and we're different, but the same. We share the same soul, finish each other's sentences. We even dream the same thing at times. Both of us have our roles and we accomplish way more together, it's not double the work but more somehow. Everything works better.

I sat beside my husband of ten years today as the doctor talked about a genetic issue he has with his heart. It's serious and may require major surgery. Before the doctor came in I took his hand and prayed over him. He still has more tests to go through. And as scary as it all is, I wish with all my heart I could take this burden for him and be the one to have the surgery in his place.

I said that to say this, please grow up. Your POV is extremely immature and I'm going to chalk it up to you possibly just being young and not understanding what's coming out of your own mouth. Marriage in no way is worth for just for the sex. You pay those type of women and send them home, that's called a prostitute. God honors marriage, He has blessed marriage. I thank God every day for my husband and now I pray He will grant me more time with him, the best thing that happened in my life aside from accepting the Lord into my heart.

Ephesians 5:25
"Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her".
Only good for sex you say? Make you worldly you say?
The bible stating a husband should love his wife the same as Christ loved the church? But yet you say marriage is only good for sex and will "make" you worldly.
"Make" you worldly. The only thing that "makes" you worldly is You. If you believe marriage makes you worldly then that sounds like a You problem, not a marriage problem.

Like to read more passages referencing marriage? Here you go:
https://www.openbible.info/topics/the_bride_of_christ

FYI if you survive the monthly cycles for yrs, brace yourself for the 'men o pause' cycle

First, howdy and welcome to the Forum.

Second, it is difficult to tell if you are serious. There are certain signs that indicate you are trolling. But on the assumption that you are serious...

Third, which country do you live in? Your statement about how a lot of people say it's shameful for a man to be single indicates you do not live in the United States or Britain.

Fourth, watch the profanity. This is a Christian chat forum.

My wife is my best friend and confidant. We work together in all sorts of ways on all sorts of projects outside of just having a home.
Sure, the "lone wolf" on a mission sounds romantic....but being part of a tribe or family group that is focused on accomplishing God's goals and desires sounds so much more like fun.

And a marriage that joins two families together to accomplish even more together is even better.

Sex? Physical intimacy? The tail that wags the dog? Uhhhh....you have been brainwashed by marketing. It's not the end all be all of a relationship. You and a woman together creating a tribe of little people to bring out your unique relationship with God is the object of the exercise.

Being old and alone is not exactly the best life goal to work towards.

I don't think it's just about sex. You have to also consider God's will and plans for you and that might include marriage. Marriage opens certain doors for ministry and service to the Lord - so it's not just for sex!


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I am so sorry to hear this, Rose.

Goodness gracious, what is it about this year? In the past few months alone, 3 people within my inner circle have had serious health complications they are trying to work through.

I will definitely keep you and your beloved husband (we love hearing the stories about him and how good he is to you) in my prayers.

I just wanted to ask, what is it that women say is shameful about your male anatomy? And who are these women? Family? Friends? Church members?

I'm just curious as to how this happened. For instance, did you have women in your family constantly telling you that there was something wrong with the male anatomy while you were growing up?

I'm asking because you seem to be saying that the reason you call women's periods gross is because it's your retaliation for women calling something about men's bodies shameful, and I'm wondering what the process was that made such a deep impression on you.

I do understand that there are people (women included!) who find a woman's monthly cycle to be rather... unpleasant.

But one thing I can say about your post -- it made me all the more grateful for the dad and male friends I've had who see it as a regular part of life, and offer compassion and help, rather than disgust.

To all the guys who understand this is something we ladies have to go through and aren't particularly happy about either, thank you.

seoulsearch, that is a mature Christian woman's comment about this subject. very nice. i always viewed the woman's cycle as a beautiful event considering God made women perfect, her strength during the time, pregnancy, all the maturity involved concerning it & the whole womanhood that goes along with it. a fine Christian man will be at his wife's side comforting her in which she feels very loved & protected.

It DEFINITELY was worth it to Abraham, Issac and Jacob.

For reasons that you probably do not understand. But they did.

Guys get it. Well, the good ones do.


Just one of dem days
That a girl goes through
When I'm angry inside
Don't want to take it out on you
Just one of them things
Don't take it personal
I just want to be all alone
If you think I treat you wrong
Don't take it personal

It depends on who you choose to marry. So check yourself before you wreck yourself as a wise man once so eloquently stated.