David, I have great empathy with your situation... Has been 27 years here as well, have been separated for 1.5 years now. While the pain, and anxiety are not as horrific today as it was thru the first 12 months of separation - I found that following the advice of those in here was so helpful... Give it all to the Lord, while focusing upon becoming the best christian version of yourself you can... Lord knows that I prayed, strived and attempted to create conditions for reconciliation - but ultimately I had to give it all to him. At the end of the day (1.5 years) the Lord has shown me that her soul was never genuinely committed to US, and our family bound as he had intended... With increased faith, and patience I now trust in the Lord and the magnificent potential of the master-plan that he must have in store for me and my family. I've had a lot of time to self-reflect and come to the realization that the life that I had planned for this lifetime was not necessarily driving me toward my full spiritual capacity to earn his eternal favor and salvation. I have found the strength to have hope and excitement for the great opportunities he has in store for the rest of this life.
I will pray for you, and I know that it is difficult, and I pray that your situation results in reconciliation with your wife via our Lord, and I hope that my experience helps you to realize that by giving this burden to the Lord - regardless of the outcome - he will always be there for and with you. God Bless