God please cancel these plans
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I understand sister I actually agree with you. I'm glad you can relate to how I feel! I will stay pray for either my dad cancelling or them cancelling but if they come I will need strength from the Lord to coexist. Psalm 27 is good for this situation. Its just that they came last year so I've already dealt with them being here. Its like man, does it really have to happen again? 
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Dad is letting them come, so he won't change his mind. Over the years, Mom and Dad's families came frequently to visit. It never changed our lives though. (Well, it did, since I was the only girl and had a full sized bed, so it became our bed. Still, not a problem, other than my room had to be picked up the entire time they visited. Apparently, adults don't like stepping on Barbie shoes when going to the bathroom in the middle of the night. Who knew? lol)
We'd visit with them when they came. Ate dinner with them, but because we all ate dinner together anyway. I have no idea what my parents did with them during the day. We'd all do what we usually did, so I wasn't home or I was in my bedroom then.
Never heard of anyone who thinks it's up to the kids to entertain the extended family. I think my parents might have been appalled with us entertaining them. All I can imagine is taking my aunt or grandmother with us when we went hunting for more reptiles or more food for the reptiles. (Reptile food -- minnows and bugs. Lots and lots of bugs. lol) Or, imagine taking them to our secret fort. Would they gather supplies with us? How are they at bundling hay for the thatch roof?
Even as an older kid -- teen or early 20s -- would they really want to go to the library with me? To enjoy some very-loud Led Zepplin or CCR? To go to the mall and check out the craft stores and record shops? (Come to think of it, my grandmother would have loved the craft shop. lol)
It just wasn't ever our responsibility to take care of guest staying at their home. Their guests. We entertained our own guests.
I was fortunate. My parents were getting a divorce before Mom died. Even then, they didn't let us get involved in their drama. I didn't even know Mom hated Dad's Mom. I didn't know Mom's Mom hated Dad. None of that came out until Mom died, and her family felt free to tell what they really thought through the years. And even then, it was with the greatest respect to the knowledge that we do love Dad. (And, at least some of us loved his Mom.)
Seriously, South. DUCK! Do what you have to do to avoid the drama. Two people in your house isn't that big a deal, as long as you don't feel responsible for their care. I do have aunts and uncles I never got to know that well. They even stayed at my and my parent's house and I stayed at theirs. Ultimately, enough going on that it doesn't matter. Kind of like walking by a chair each day. It's there all the time, but unless you need a chair right then, it doesn't affect your life.
We'd visit with them when they came. Ate dinner with them, but because we all ate dinner together anyway. I have no idea what my parents did with them during the day. We'd all do what we usually did, so I wasn't home or I was in my bedroom then.
Never heard of anyone who thinks it's up to the kids to entertain the extended family. I think my parents might have been appalled with us entertaining them. All I can imagine is taking my aunt or grandmother with us when we went hunting for more reptiles or more food for the reptiles. (Reptile food -- minnows and bugs. Lots and lots of bugs. lol) Or, imagine taking them to our secret fort. Would they gather supplies with us? How are they at bundling hay for the thatch roof?
Even as an older kid -- teen or early 20s -- would they really want to go to the library with me? To enjoy some very-loud Led Zepplin or CCR? To go to the mall and check out the craft stores and record shops? (Come to think of it, my grandmother would have loved the craft shop. lol)
It just wasn't ever our responsibility to take care of guest staying at their home. Their guests. We entertained our own guests.
I was fortunate. My parents were getting a divorce before Mom died. Even then, they didn't let us get involved in their drama. I didn't even know Mom hated Dad's Mom. I didn't know Mom's Mom hated Dad. None of that came out until Mom died, and her family felt free to tell what they really thought through the years. And even then, it was with the greatest respect to the knowledge that we do love Dad. (And, at least some of us loved his Mom.)
Seriously, South. DUCK! Do what you have to do to avoid the drama. Two people in your house isn't that big a deal, as long as you don't feel responsible for their care. I do have aunts and uncles I never got to know that well. They even stayed at my and my parent's house and I stayed at theirs. Ultimately, enough going on that it doesn't matter. Kind of like walking by a chair each day. It's there all the time, but unless you need a chair right then, it doesn't affect your life.
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Live in your house just like you do now. Tell me you don't go to your room to get away from your family already. (Everyone does.) Tell me every time you see your parents, you feel obliged to sit and talk to them. (Stay away from sleeping fathers. lol) Be polite, but don't go overboard and feel suffocated. And it's summertime and you're in Florida. Surely you go to the beach, fish, do something that doesn't require other people already. Keep doing that.
I get overbearing aunt. Got to live with her for a year. It didn't affect me that much because I had a life to go to. And I learned to bite my tongue when she started her thing. My tongue is shorter now, (lol), but other than that... You can do this. Just. Two. Weeks.
I get overbearing aunt. Got to live with her for a year. It didn't affect me that much because I had a life to go to. And I learned to bite my tongue when she started her thing. My tongue is shorter now, (lol), but other than that... You can do this. Just. Two. Weeks.
they make and sell some incredible 'tents' now, they're actually like 'little houses',
and you can set them up where ever you want to for how ever long -...
whatever happens, if your 'game' and can handle it', just rely on your 'Maker',
He will get you through whatever you need to get through, He's really awesome that way,
if we Love and Serve, and Obey/Listen to HIM and HIM alone, come what may...
and you can set them up where ever you want to for how ever long -...
whatever happens, if your 'game' and can handle it', just rely on your 'Maker',
He will get you through whatever you need to get through, He's really awesome that way,
if we Love and Serve, and Obey/Listen to HIM and HIM alone, come what may...
Z
I get it.. been there before too....This too shall pass... I once didn't think so, but it did
I understand sister I actually agree with you. I'm glad you can relate to how I feel! I will stay pray for either my dad cancelling or them cancelling but if they come I will need strength from the Lord to coexist. Psalm 27 is good for this situation. Its just that they came last year so I've already dealt with them being here. Its like man, does it really have to happen again?
Hey Lynn I enjoyed your story and I hear what you're saying. It wouldn't have to be my responsibility but my dad decided to invite them while he is not on vacation (just like last year) so its up to me and my brother to accompany these people at night when my dad is at work. I'd love to go places so maybe I will go somewhere but I have college everyday and its all online. So I will always be at the house no matter what .. If they come I will be locking myself in my room again like last year. I hate doing that though .. God have mercy on me!
and I hear what you're saying. It wouldn't have to be my responsibility but my dad decided to invite them while he is not on vacation (just like last year) so its up to me and my brother to accompany these people at night when my dad is at work. I'd love to go places so maybe I will go somewhere but I have college everyday and its all online. So I will always be at the house no matter what .. If they come I will be locking myself in my room again like last year. I hate doing that though .. God have mercy on me!
they make and sell some incredible 'tents' now, they're actually like 'little houses',
and you can set them up where ever you want to for how ever long -...
whatever happens, if your 'game' and can handle it', just rely on your 'Maker',
He will get you through whatever you need to get through, He's really awesome that way,
if we Love and Serve, and Obey/Listen to HIM and HIM alone, come what may...
and you can set them up where ever you want to for how ever long -...
whatever happens, if your 'game' and can handle it', just rely on your 'Maker',
He will get you through whatever you need to get through, He's really awesome that way,
if we Love and Serve, and Obey/Listen to HIM and HIM alone, come what may...
Yes you are absolutely right! I'm trying to stay positive about this whole thing and give God the benefit of the doubt. I have a feeling that God will come through. I will honestly jump, dance, & sing for joy, I'd be ecstatic!! It will be a great AMAZING feeling if they cancel. All glory to the most High. Please tell me any prayer requests you have blue, idk why you ignored my message ..
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I didn't ignore it. I've just been busy.. God knows what my prayers are. Just pray that He will answer them soon.
I've just been busy.. God knows what my prayers are. Just pray that He will answer them soon.
Yes you are absolutely right! I'm trying to stay positive about this whole thing and give God the benefit of the doubt. I have a feeling that God will come through. I will honestly jump, dance, & sing for joy, I'd be ecstatic!! It will be a great AMAZING feeling if they cancel. All glory to the most High. Please tell me any prayer requests you have blue, idk why you ignored my message ..
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Hey Lynn I enjoyed your story and I hear what you're saying. It wouldn't have to be my responsibility but my dad decided to invite them while he is not on vacation (just like last year) so its up to me and my brother to accompany these people at night when my dad is at work. I'd love to go places so maybe I will go somewhere but I have college everyday and its all online. So I will always be at the house no matter what .. If they come I will be locking myself in my room again like last year. I hate doing that though .. God have mercy on me!
and I hear what you're saying. It wouldn't have to be my responsibility but my dad decided to invite them while he is not on vacation (just like last year) so its up to me and my brother to accompany these people at night when my dad is at work. I'd love to go places so maybe I will go somewhere but I have college everyday and its all online. So I will always be at the house no matter what .. If they come I will be locking myself in my room again like last year. I hate doing that though .. God have mercy on me!
Definitely could not live in a tent, wish I had money to stay at a motel for 2 weeks lol. I'm trying to connect with God as much as I can with the free time I have after doing homework. Trying to stay in His word so yes amen bro come what may! God might do something great here
the 'greatest thing' for you and all of US, is to 'stay in His Word FIRST and then do our other home-work...
this is Jesus Christ's karma, this is God's Will...