Lust problem

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South_FLA

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Hello south when you like someone your thought life can go into overdrive from romantic thoughts to sexual thoughts and it can be quite a torture at times and as a christian it can be made even harder by the fact that you what to think the right thoughts and have the right attitude.There is often so kind of internal struggle going on and because the things you are struggling with are pleasurable experiences it can be a real pain (as you put it..annoying).
As a christian there will be times when you will find particular girls attractive and the actual attraction is genuine.What could help if you asked him to reveal to you what this girls is actually really like and you might end up thanking god that you didn't end up dating her because despite being attracted to her...god knows what kind of heart she has.

Yes I will pray for you mate and I sense that you really want to do right by god which is great thing.God will help you get over her and may he send someone into your life to be with that is just right for you and naturally she'll be a christian
You're right brother. This girl is most likely dangerous for me. I have some stupid affinity for worldly girls. Probably because I am still a newer Christian. I pray pretty much everyday that this girl repents and gets saved. At the end of the day that's all I really want for her.
 

South_FLA

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How does Jesus see this girl? Can you try to see her that way? Also I'm going to come at this at an odd angle, but the bible says if your eyes cause you to lust to gouge them out. If you can't have a healthy relationship with this girl and God at the same time you may need to consider severing communication.
I'm avoiding her, thank God. Truth is, idk how God sees this girl. I pray she repents though.
 

South_FLA

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Please father God use your power to keep this lust far from ,South,and I pray that your will be done in his life and in the woman he feels drawn to's life,and that they both can find peace and happiness with you being ever watchful over them,In Jesus's holy name I do so humbly pray,AMEN.
Thank you very much Joe, means a lot (means everything) !!
 
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JamesD

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I'll pray for you brother. That is tough. My wife just left me and it's very hard especially because she left with a guy. I feel like I wasn't enough. But anyways be careful. Don't marry a woman that does not love or fear the Lord. It will really hurt you in the end. I hope you feel better soon. Maybe try not to interact with her too much.
 

TyrinDynasty

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There is this girl that I like but she doesn't love God. She is of the world. Sad thing is I'm very attracted to her. Its annoying. I get spiritually attacked with thoughts of wanting to marry her and impress her and stuff. Please pray that I stop thinking/caring about this girl and girls in general. I feel like God is upset that I think about girls too much and wanting to marry/impress (I have a pride issue). Pray that I'm indifferent towards girls. I need to focus on God only. Help me please. THANK YOU in advance.
I've been in this situation many times. It's difficult because I truly cared for these girls and would have been willing to do anything for them. SOME of them even claimed to want to follow God, or even knew him but they weren't quite on the path of Christianity, either deceived or didn't care about God at all. I tried to do everything I could to show them the truth but they simply put didn't want it and that would shatter my heart and what eventually happened was I finally came to terms that no human can truly save another person, only God can, we can plant the seeds but its God who grows them.. and when he's growing them let me say they will be far from a relationship candidate as the process is typically quite painful .. in short.. its not a good idea to attempt to try to become a romantic partner with someone who is not on the same level spiritually as yourself, even if you're witnessing to them, compatibility wise they MUST be on the same spiritual level or close or the relationship will eventually fail.

Best wishes and prayers to you.
 
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Stewart

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I've been in this situation many times. It's difficult because I truly cared for these girls and would have been willing to do anything for them. SOME of them even claimed to want to follow God, or even knew him but they weren't quite on the path of Christianity, either deceived or didn't care about God at all. I tried to do everything I could to show them the truth but they simply put didn't want it and that would shatter my heart and what eventually happened was I finally came to terms that no human can truly save another person, only God can, we can plant the seeds but its God who grows them.. and when he's growing them let me say they will be far from a relationship candidate as the process is typically quite painful .. in short.. its not a good idea to attempt to try to become a romantic partner with someone who is not on the same level spiritually as yourself, even if you're witnessing to them, compatibility wise they MUST be on the same spiritual level or close or the relationship will eventually fail.

Best wishes and prayers to you.

Amen..I totally agree..and it can can also be a trap by the enemie where he can uses your attraction for them to put you into an emotional trap....and you end up getting hurt.
South_FLA sometimes girls who are not christian can also seem more attractive than christian girls sometimes when your all young ect as hormones send things like sexual awareness and the vigour of youth can occassionally appeal more than being amongst young christian girls as there is a totally different dynamic as they are christian and their moral compass is opposite to girls who are not saved.

Question...say the girl you like says she likes you and wants to date you....how would you cope with her lifestyle??how would you cope with her if she wanted to have sex/sexually intimate with you??.. Might be a real struggle for you and sometimes a young attractive female can be very seductive to a vulnerable young man.


I was once really attracted to a really lovely girl at the local super market many years ago and we both stared at each other whenever I shopped in the store.she was extremley attractive and all I had to do was chat to her and without a doubts we would be dating.Yet I just couldn't do it..It was hard..yet I knew I just had to walk away..And once she was serving on the till and we locked eyes and it was so tempting to let her serve me..but I kind of looked away and made a different member of staff serve me..I could see that this action did offend her and after that she just kinda ignored me..

When your're gods child..there are many things to walk away from and it can be painful..but it is our eternity at stake here and in this area satan would love to mess us up with a person who is no way right for us.I have ignored gods warnings occassionally
And believe me I have suffered in every way...and bitterly regretted it all..
 

South_FLA

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I'll pray for you brother. That is tough. My wife just left me and it's very hard especially because she left with a guy. I feel like I wasn't enough. But anyways be careful. Don't marry a woman that does not love or fear the Lord. It will really hurt you in the end. I hope you feel better soon. Maybe try not to interact with her too much.
It breaks my heart hearing that bro. You're better off without her.. You'll be in my prayers.
 

J7

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There is this girl that I like but she doesn't love God. She is of the world. Sad thing is I'm very attracted to her. Its annoying. I get spiritually attacked with thoughts of wanting to marry her and impress her and stuff. Please pray that I stop thinking/caring about this girl and girls in general. I feel like God is upset that I think about girls too much and wanting to marry/impress (I have a pride issue). Pray that I'm indifferent towards girls. I need to focus on God only. Help me please. THANK YOU in advance.

Beautiful cat. What is it?
 

South_FLA

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I've been in this situation many times. It's difficult because I truly cared for these girls and would have been willing to do anything for them. SOME of them even claimed to want to follow God, or even knew him but they weren't quite on the path of Christianity, either deceived or didn't care about God at all. I tried to do everything I could to show them the truth but they simply put didn't want it and that would shatter my heart and what eventually happened was I finally came to terms that no human can truly save another person, only God can, we can plant the seeds but its God who grows them.. and when he's growing them let me say they will be far from a relationship candidate as the process is typically quite painful .. in short.. its not a good idea to attempt to try to become a romantic partner with someone who is not on the same level spiritually as yourself, even if you're witnessing to them, compatibility wise they MUST be on the same spiritual level or close or the relationship will eventually fail.

Best wishes and prayers to you.
Good to know man.. Your prayers mean everything to me. I am still struggling a bit, trying not to like this girl. I've been feeling a lot better about it though, praise the Lord for the prayers I've received.
 

J7

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Oh wow. It is so handsome.

Sadly not all cats domesticate....
 

J7

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They are endangered. Can you not get a job protecting them? I am sure you could meet a nice lady doing that job
 

J7

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[h=3]from Wikipedia

Chemicals[/h]Exposure to a variety of chemical compounds in the environment have caused reproductive impairment to Florida panthers. Tests show that the differences between males and females in estradiol levels are insignificant, which suggests that males have been feminized due to chemical exposure. Feminized males are much less likely to reproduce, which represents a significant threat to a subspecies that already has a low population count and a lot of inbreeding. Chemical compounds that have created abnormalties in Florida panther reproduction include herbicides, pesticides, and fungicides such as benomyl, carbendazim, chlordecone, methoxychlor, methylmercury, fenarimol, and TCDD.[SUP][31]

See how we are destroying God's beautiful world. So sad.[/SUP]
 
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You'll be in my prayers south. I too liked worldly women in the past however as i matured in the faith over the years women who didn't love God became unattractive to me regardless of looks. As they say true beauty is only skin deep.
 

J7

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Yeh, the older you get, the more painful experience teaches caution....

Ok, Last time, sorry for invading the thread

 

South_FLA

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Amen..I totally agree..and it can can also be a trap by the enemie where he can uses your attraction for them to put you into an emotional trap....and you end up getting hurt.
South_FLA sometimes girls who are not christian can also seem more attractive than christian girls sometimes when your all young ect as hormones send things like sexual awareness and the vigour of youth can occassionally appeal more than being amongst young christian girls as there is a totally different dynamic as they are christian and their moral compass is opposite to girls who are not saved.

Question...say the girl you like says she likes you and wants to date you....how would you cope with her lifestyle??how would you cope with her if she wanted to have sex/sexually intimate with you??.. Might be a real struggle for you and sometimes a young attractive female can be very seductive to a vulnerable young man.


I was once really attracted to a really lovely girl at the local super market many years ago and we both stared at each other whenever I shopped in the store.she was extremley attractive and all I had to do was chat to her and without a doubts we would be dating.Yet I just couldn't do it..It was hard..yet I knew I just had to walk away..And once she was serving on the till and we locked eyes and it was so tempting to let her serve me..but I kind of looked away and made a different member of staff serve me..I could see that this action did offend her and after that she just kinda ignored me..

When your're gods child..there are many things to walk away from and it can be painful..but it is our eternity at stake here and in this area satan would love to mess us up with a person who is no way right for us.I have ignored gods warnings occassionally
And believe me I have suffered in every way...and bitterly regretted it all..
Sucks to hear that you suffered :( . I guess it was best for you that it happened. Its good to hear from people who have experienced this before. Wakes me up a bit and opens my eyes.
 

South_FLA

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They are endangered. Can you not get a job protecting them? I am sure you could meet a nice lady doing that job
That would be pretty awesome and hilarious. But I'm actually studying Web Development.