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Ashkuhn

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I am having a very hard time because just about 6 months ago I really started living for God and reading my Bible and trying to be a good Christian. I am really struggling with the fact that my husband is not a Christian. He can be very hateful and emotionally abusive. I'm a passive person and I am trying to stick it out because I love him and I want him to see God. I think it would make all our problems go away if he would just open up his heart. Please pray that he will see God's grace and for our relationship to get better. It's getting really hard. Thank you guys!
 
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believin_in_him

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I will be praying for you, I have been there and know how hard it is...Just keep praying for him and show him the difference God has made in you and we will agree with you that he will come to the Lord and that you will have a blessed life together...God Bless You!!
 
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Compassion

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Not to be the bearer of bad news but satan is going to use your husbang against you as much as he possibly can. Just remember he is YOUR husband and you have authority over satan. I will definately be praying for your husband to see his need for Christ. In the meantime, you be the best example you can be for him. When your husband sees the change in you, it will peak his curiosity and he will eventually want what you have! Don't give up!
 
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KingDavid

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Ashkuhn said:
I am having a very hard time because just about 6 months ago I really started living for God and reading my Bible and trying to be a good Christian. I am really struggling with the fact that my husband is not a Christian. He can be very hateful and emotionally abusive. I'm a passive person and I am trying to stick it out because I love him and I want him to see God. I think it would make all our problems go away if he would just open up his heart. Please pray that he will see God's grace and for our relationship to get better. It's getting really hard. Thank you guys!
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Praise God for your decision for Christ. You know God can heal all wounds and I believe in the power of prayer to soften harden hearts and change people into a new creature. I was once a not so nice person and because of prayer of my family the lord reached into my chest and healed my heart and I know he can do this for your husband too just keep up the faith and I will say a prayer for him and you as well............God Bless.....Jim



Before becoming Christians we were without Christ, God and hope (Ephesians 2:12,13; cf. vss 1-3). But now those who have obeyed the gospel are "in Christ". and therefore in a state of having received God's grace. The "old man" of sin has been discarded, crucified, and buried (Ephesians 4:22-24; Galatians 2:20; Romans 6:3,4; Colossians 2:12). In his place, a "new man" has risen.
 
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Indyred20

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I will pray for you, I know that it may seem like nothing is happening ,but it is . It is not in our timing ,but God's timing, God knows what it will take to bring your husband in. Just keep the faith and know God is in control.
 
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Ashkuhn

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Thank you all so much for your prayers. It means a lot to me.
 
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Ashkuhn, sometimes, men might be jealous of the new "man" in your life. Even though its Jesus, a non believer can percieve it that way. Not saying thats whats going on, but it does happen.

Just be sweet, and gentle, humble and loving, to your husband. Show him that he's still the apple of your eye. Once he's comfortable with YOUR relationship with the Lord, your husbands mind will be more open to listen.

Anyway, just a possiblity.

Praying for you.
 
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Ashkuhn

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Thank you missy
 
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Ashkuhn

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I am so depressed.. Tonight was a really bad night with him. I stuck it out and was nice but I feel like the closer I get to God the more he is starting to hate me and what I'm all about. We don't have the same relationship we did at one time :(.. How horrible is it that we have only been married for 2 months and things are already this bad.. I am trying to stay strong but it's just so hard. He is making me feel so horrible and doesn't even realize it..
 
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walkinthespirit

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Lord put YOUR hand upon him and convict him of the Holy Spirit!
 
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stef4jesus

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I am praying for you as my husband is not saved either. I have faith that God will work in their hearts. Praise Jesus
 
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wisdom24

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I will be praying for you hun. Hugs!
 
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incorporatestreet

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Ashkuhn said:
I am having a very hard time because just about 6 months ago I really started living for God and reading my Bible and trying to be a good Christian. I am really struggling with the fact that my husband is not a Christian. He can be very hateful and emotionally abusive. I'm a passive person and I am trying to stick it out because I love him and I want him to see God. I think it would make all our problems go away if he would just open up his heart. Please pray that he will see God's grace and for our relationship to get better. It's getting really hard. Thank you guys!
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my dad was an athiest when my parents got married, he didnt get saved until i was about 8...
it may take some time, but in the end it will be worth it. you might want to think about communicating
your feelings to your husband, because he may not know what he is saying/doing.
dont let satan bring you down! know and trust that the lord will heal your marriage!
you are going through a mountian, just have faith the size of a mustard seed. Matthew 17:20

Lord, i lift up this relationship and i am trusting in you to bring their hearts, souls, minds, and spirits together. let them experience the love you have for them individually and as a couple. i pray that you soften his heart, let your light shine through ashley and pour your blessings out on them daily until they are overflowing. in Your name i pray, AMEN!
 
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Ashkuhn

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Thank you all for your support guys. Tara, I have told him how I feel and that's what causes most of our fights (Which are usually one sided-- His side) because he gets extremely defensive after I say something and I just keep my mouth shut and be patient with him because I do not want to say things I will regret in a fight (because he gets really angry and says a LOT of things that aren't nice). I know God will help us.. I really do appreciate all the prayers. It just hurts a lot because he isn't showing love.. He is so easily angered by everything I do. 1 Corinthians 13:4-6.. It feels like he doesn't love me in those ways very often, although I try my best to do it for him. I just want us to be happy. I love him SO much. I know it is going to take time, though. It's nice to have encouragment and love from my friends on here, though. I thank God for bringing me to this website, it has helped me a lot. All of you have and I love all of you.
 
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incorporatestreet

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Ashkuhn said:
Thank you all for your support guys. Tara, I have told him how I feel and that's what causes most of our fights (Which are usually one sided-- His side) because he gets extremely defensive after I say something and I just keep my mouth shut and be patient with him because I do not want to say things I will regret in a fight (because he gets really angry and says a LOT of things that aren't nice). I know God will help us.. I really do appreciate all the prayers. It just hurts a lot because he isn't showing love.. He is so easily angered by everything I do. 1 Corinthians 13:4-6.. It feels like he doesn't love me in those ways very often, although I try my best to do it for him. I just want us to be happy. I love him SO much. I know it is going to take time, though. It's nice to have encouragment and love from my friends on here, though. I thank God for bringing me to this website, it has helped me a lot. All of you have and I love all of you.
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ashley;
i was in a relationship like that once. but that was a different situation kind of...
i will continue to pray for you and your husband and i know god will soften his
heart. i pray that god will give you the strength and the encouragement you need.
 
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Ashkuhn

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I want everyone who has been praying for my relationship to know that last night when I got home from my trip, I had a Christian magazine and a Bare Bones Bible: 10 minutes to understanding each book in the Bible.. I sat all my books down on the table next to our bed and my husband picked up the magazine and read an article out of it without me saying anything.. Then he picked up the Bare Bones Bible and said that he wanted to read it. He said that he wanted to start reading every night for about fifteen minutes before bed. I know it might not seem like a lot and it's not the actual Holy Bible.. But this is AMAZING for me because I have literally prayed every night for the past six months that he would at least open up his heart to hearing what the Lord is trying to tell him.

I just want to thank you for all your prayers and ask you to keep praying for him to seek guidance from our Lord and that he keeps his heart open to loving and accepting Jesus as his savior.

I love you all! <3
 
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Baptistrw

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Ashkuhn said:
I want everyone who has been praying for my relationship to know that last night when I got home from my trip, I had a Christian magazine and a Bare Bones Bible: 10 minutes to understanding each book in the Bible.. I sat all my books down on the table next to our bed and my husband picked up the magazine and read an article out of it without me saying anything.. Then he picked up the Bare Bones Bible and said that he wanted to read it. He said that he wanted to start reading every night for about fifteen minutes before bed. I know it might not seem like a lot and it's not the actual Holy Bible.. But this is AMAZING for me because I have literally prayed every night for the past six months that he would at least open up his heart to hearing what the Lord is trying to tell him.

I just want to thank you for all your prayers and ask you to keep praying for him to seek guidance from our Lord and that he keeps his heart open to loving and accepting Jesus as his savior.

I love you all! <3
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Amazing praise!
 
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ambergood1

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ASH, That's wonderful. That is a humongous step! Take it from someone who knows and who is in your same situation. Girl, once again, your struggle just gave me even more hope for mine!

I sooooo wish we weren't so far apart so we could get together some time!
 
grace

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That is really wonderful news!
 
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incorporatestreet

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aw yay!
that is a big step!
im so glad that you are seeing evidence
of gods miracles! that is so awesome ashley
:)
 
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