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andrewwallace1996

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I know this is a very taboo subject, and trust me when I say that I am more uncomfortable sharing this than you are reading this. Some people struggle with porn, others with drugs. I struggle with pedophilia.

Let me start with who I am. I am an 18 year old guy in college. I was raised in church my whole life, and I am a Christian. I had one girlfriend --when I was 12; since then I have been single, and for a reason. Let me cut to the chase.. I am exclusively attracted to young girls ages 7-11 (roughly). This all began in 8th or 9th grade I guess, when I just no longer found any girls my age attractive. I don't want this post to be too graphic, but I feel like it's necessary to at least get this off my chest. If you're already creeped out, please skip to the next paragraph. Basically, the way girls' bodies were changing, it just grossed me out. [Note: I am not gay, not have I ever had homosexual thoughts.] Why am I attracted to little girls? I don't know. I wish I wasn't, but I am. Their hair, their eyes, their voice, I can't explain it. I genuinely do not look at them like an 18 year old guy looks at an 18 year old girl. I don't think about having sex with them, I just want to kiss them/hold their hand/be with them. I don't want to hurt them, but I know that's what I would be doing -- scarring them for life. [Note: I know that a children can never give consent, that they aren't sexually mature.] I have never acted on these desires, and I have promised myself is never will. But I just don't know how strong I will be if I find myself in situation where I am alone with a girl.

I read online that in order for someone to be diagnosed with pedophilia, they have to have recurring desires for at least 6 months. Well I am going on 5 years. I have prayed to God for help hundreds of times asking for help. I have tried to look at girls my age and think "pretty", but I'm just lying to myself. I have even read stories about how sexual abuse has ruined a children's lives. I have tried almost everything I can think of, but those thoughts are still there. If a little girl walks by, I get the same butterflies in my stomach that you do when you look at someone attractive.

I need help. Please pray for me.
 
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I don't see any difference between pedophelia and homsoexualty in terms of how they function in a disordered mind, which means you're going to have equal difficulty as a homosexual when it comes to trying to change your "orientation". But, let me tell you something, you probably have little idea of how much you might scare some people they knew you had to feelings of pedophilia. And, if you can't keep a lid on it, you should choose castration before you let yourself harm any child.

I believe homosexuals can change, but very slowly, by not feeding the perversion.
 
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Tintin

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I don't see any difference between pedophelia and homsoexualty in terms of how they function in a disordered mind, which means you're going to have equal difficulty as a homosexual when it comes to trying to change your "orientation". But, let me tell you something, you probably have little idea of how much you might scare some people they knew you had to feelings of pedophilia. And, if you can't keep a lid on it, you should choose castration before you let yourself harm any child.

I believe homosexuals can change, but very slowly, by not feeding the perversion.
Wow. You're a horrible human being. This guy is looking for help and all you can do is condemn. I hate pedophilia as much as the next person but he hasn't acted on his desires and is looking for a way out.
 
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Ugly

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It sounds pretty apparent to me that he knows exactly how people view someone with this problem. It's not rocket science to know.
 
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Tintin

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I don't know what to do in this situation, Andrew. I pray that you find the help and support you need.
 

damombomb

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Repent and turn to the Lord for forgiveness and lean on him, cry out to him, remember the truth will set you free. You have openly admitted your secret sins,be sincere. Pornagraphy opens the door for the enemy, so stay away from it. Keep your eyes
focused on Jesus.Do not look twice at a child, bring those thoughts into obedience to the name of Jesus.
Will pray this stronghold is broken off of you in Jesus name. Don't let the enemy have a foothold.
 
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psychomom

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Andrew, i have prayed for you.

as much as it depends on you, please don't be in a situation where you're alone with a child?
for your sake as much as hers. ♥
 

JesusLives

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Andrew

Please seek some counseling talk to a professional for some help dealing with this problem before it does get out of hand. I know that this year I have learned that when I am in a situation that is beyond me that I have given it to God. I will pray for you.

Dear Father In Heaven

Please be with Andrew and Father I ask that Andrew will give himself to You with this problem and he will trust in You to help him with it. But I also pray that Andrew will seek professional help to help him deal with this issue as this is beyond anything I have ever dealt with and don't want to give wrong advise. Please wrap Your arms around him and let him know You are with him. In Jesus Name Amen
 
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Andrew,Let me take this moment to say that you are in my prayers and thank you for reaching out to someone for help. Ignore Jamal. He can be a real hater once in a while. It is never a cool thing when you are afflicted with this....thorn in your side, if I may word it that way. But I hope you take encouragement in the notions that you have not acted out on your desires. That takes a lot of strength. Continue to fast, pray, do whatever it takes to seek out answers as I see that is what you are trying to do. Ya know, it takes a lot of guts to admit something like that on a public forum. I will most certainly keep you in my prayers as you go down this endeavor for answers.In Christ,Chica
 

Joidevivre

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Also pray and ask the Lord to give you a picture of the way he sees little girls. To give you his thoughts about them. Sometimes it helps to look out from the "lens" of Jesus in order to begin to feel differently. You have nothing to lose.
 

levi85

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Read the Word of God prayerfully, Lord Jesus, give your knowledge and wisdom to make his life better, Amen
 
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Seek professional help through a psychologist or a psychiatrist. It may be hard to hear that, but they have the tools to help you.
 
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Definitely a tough situation to be in Andrew. I advise you not to be overly hard on yourself and I advise you not to view yourself as a monster for having these thoughts. I also advise you not to take these thoughts too lightly either. My advice much like the poster above me is to seek professional help. As someone with OCD I often worried about having these same attractions you have, eventually I seen someone and they determined I am not a pedophile (Attracted to children). When I talked about this with a doctor it was very tough at first but even when it was possible that I was a pedophile the doctor was very kind and understanding. If you have pedophilia and it sounds like you do the doctors will help you more than you can imagine and get you in a better place mentally. You don't need to face this alone.
 

inge

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From what I learned from my grandparents (pastors) I will share, it might help. Pedophilia is a bondage from a spirit that gives you those thoughts. A lot whom have those feelings are in one way or another abused themselves. So consider if you have been abused. Also something else can cause it. When you have been shown porn at a young age you can develop this. Next to that you might have been in a situation that woman have not been dealing with you correctly. Or you have been dabbling with occult things.

It depends on what is your history on what you need next.

But in general it can be like this:


  • Repent for your sinful thoughts.
  • Ask God for help, and remember that we as human cannot beat sin, Jesus can through us!
  • Remove all porn and everything what is keeping this thoughts going. And when you developed a habit to observe in school-places or playing area's refuse to give in to the flesh.
But put ye on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make not provision for the flesh, to fulfil the lusts thereof. Rom 13:14

Howbeit this kind goeth not out but by prayer and fasting. Mat 17:21

God knows your heart. When your heart is surrendered to God, He can show you the way.
 
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From what I learned from my grandparents (pastors) I will share, it might help. Pedophilia is a bondage from a spirit that gives you those thoughts. A lot whom have those feelings are in one way or another abused themselves. So consider if you have been abused. Also something else can cause it. When you have been shown porn at a young age you can develop this. Next to that you might have been in a situation that woman have not been dealing with you correctly. Or you have been dabbling with occult things.
OR...he may have been born with the disease of fallen flesh and fallen mind. Sometimes, things just aren't that simple. Sometimes they are. This is why I said he needs to seek professional help immediately.
 

JesusLives

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Dear Father In Heaven

Continuing to pray for Andrew and this issue. He is seeking Your help with this issue and I pray that if he sees a young girl that his eyes would be opened to also see an angel standing next to that young girl to protect her from him and that You would keep Andrew's heart and direct Andrews thoughts to the love that You have for him. That Andrew would continually seek You and his thoughts dwell upon the sacrifice that Jesus has made for him. Give him victory over this and remove these thoughts from him. Help Andrew to have only pure, clean thoughts. In Jesus Name Amen
 
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Wow. You're a horrible human being. This guy is looking for help and all you can do is condemn. I hate pedophilia as much as the next person but he hasn't acted on his desires and is looking for a way out.
He's a ticking time bomb.
 
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Ho11y

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He's a ticking time bomb.
I absolutely agree with this. You need to get help asap. I believe prayer is great and it works, but should you ever act out you would not only be put in prison for a very looooong time, but you'd be destroying the life of a child. This is a situation that requires immediate action on your part ( by going and getting help) not just sitting around and praying this will just go away. Because in the mean time you could be put in a situation with a little girl and like you said.....you don't know what you'd do.
 
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[video=youtube;Jbe7OruLk8I]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Jbe7OruLk8I&list=RDmBcqria2wmg&index=3[/video]


First Andrew, I want to commend your courage. I can only imagine how difficult it was for you to admit to that.

Reading your post I think its apparent that your issue began with your girlfriend at 12. It would seem that something was left unfinished in your heart and/or in your mind. Like you felt she was removed from your life too soon. You weren't ready to stop loving her -(there are a plethora of possibilities here, more information would be needed to hone in accurately.)

They say knowledge is power and the truth will set you free. Well here is knowledge and truth. You are searching for a creature that doesn't exist. Here is why. You are listing an age group that exists of only a 4 year span. Nobody stays there brother. Life evolves, people change, people grow. You have to realize that your attraction will never be to the actual individual, it will always begin and end with a physical trait that will disappear with incredible speed. Again, how long does it take a 12 year old to turn 13 and then begin to go through the very changes that disgusted you in the first place?

Something happened when you were 12 that stunted you. It may help you to get a counselor and just talk about it. In fact you can message me privately if you want, I welcome the chance to help. Again, I commend your courage.

I leave you with this. God created man and woman, this is His design. Know this. Your issue is in your mind, it's in a memory. It's in a thought that won't remove itself like a stubborn child. The thought is not correct and it's not you. The child inside of your heart and mind needs to be found and set free.

-God guide you brother.
 
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MadParrotWoman

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I know this is a very taboo subject, and trust me when I say that I am more uncomfortable sharing this than you are reading this. Some people struggle with porn, others with drugs. I struggle with pedophilia.

Let me start with who I am. I am an 18 year old guy in college. I was raised in church my whole life, and I am a Christian. I had one girlfriend --when I was 12; since then I have been single, and for a reason. Let me cut to the chase.. I am exclusively attracted to young girls ages 7-11 (roughly). This all began in 8th or 9th grade I guess, when I just no longer found any girls my age attractive. I don't want this post to be too graphic, but I feel like it's necessary to at least get this off my chest. If you're already creeped out, please skip to the next paragraph. Basically, the way girls' bodies were changing, it just grossed me out. [Note: I am not gay, not have I ever had homosexual thoughts.] Why am I attracted to little girls? I don't know. I wish I wasn't, but I am. Their hair, their eyes, their voice, I can't explain it. I genuinely do not look at them like an 18 year old guy looks at an 18 year old girl. I don't think about having sex with them, I just want to kiss them/hold their hand/be with them. I don't want to hurt them, but I know that's what I would be doing -- scarring them for life. [Note: I know that a children can never give consent, that they aren't sexually mature.] I have never acted on these desires, and I have promised myself is never will. But I just don't know how strong I will be if I find myself in situation where I am alone with a girl.

I read online that in order for someone to be diagnosed with pedophilia, they have to have recurring desires for at least 6 months. Well I am going on 5 years. I have prayed to God for help hundreds of times asking for help. I have tried to look at girls my age and think "pretty", but I'm just lying to myself. I have even read stories about how sexual abuse has ruined a children's lives. I have tried almost everything I can think of, but those thoughts are still there. If a little girl walks by, I get the same butterflies in my stomach that you do when you look at someone attractive.

I need help. Please pray for me.
This is serious, whilst prayer is excellent it's clear to me that you should also be seeking help. Please refer yourself to a counsellor ASAP. I'm not sure if this is a hormonal issue that can be treated with drugs but you cannot go on ignoring these feelings any longer. Please do this for yourself and for all little girls who are innocent. If you do not seek help your feelings may become deeper and more difficult to control as you get older. Really, alarm bells are ringing for me!