I don't know where to begin and trying to is overwhelming me so I'm going to leave some mystery and get right to the specific issue I came here for.
My housemate Lisa is morbidly obese and suffering a myriad of other related or co-existing health issues. She has been back and forth to doctors and hospitals exploring possibilities of cancer and enficemer (I have no idea how that is really spelled) trying to work out exactly why she has so much trouble breathing amongst other things. She has been on a waiting list or something I think for lapband surgery? or something? but her marriage is in such bad shape that she has been agonising over whether she will have the support to recover from such a huge opertation and whether she should cancel the surgery.
She sleeps in a recliner because she can't handle laying on the bed and is frustrated that her husband is distant and flaky and doesn't even ask how her day was or what the outcome of doctors visits have been even when he knows she has had cancer scans done. Her most recent hospital visit for analysis has resulted in a decision by doctors that the only good option is an operation to cut off all the excess body mass.
She has something they call orange peel syndrome which is to do with retaining water between the layers of fat and ... something about protein and affecting the skin... I have a terrible attention span for absorbing information that is new and foreign to me, but that's another story. S
Lisa is concerned about some other relatives and whether they will have the emotional support that they need for their own situations if she doesn't survive. So this is a big decision for her. She coughs and vomits most nights because this house can get a little cold and unsanitary (I do my best to pitch in and keep it clean but I have some serious health issues of my own that affect that side of things too).
Lisa is allergic to anesthetic, which further complicates things, and her body does not cope with being sick in general. She has told me before that she can not afford to get the flu because it puts her in hospital. She is trying to quit smoking at the same time as run a business and cope emotionally with a bad marriage and 3 boarders, myself included, and one of whom is moving in today. The reality for her now, is that if she doesn't have this surgery she will almost certainly just continue to slowly die. If she does have it and she survives, a whole new host of possibilities open up to her for a new life, but not without some remaining significant hurdles. I think what she told me is that the chance of surviving the surgery is less than fifty percent, but the chance of surviving without it, though more drawn out, is much worse.
I don't even know what to ask for here, this is all too much for my brain to deal with. I've been on the verge of suicide myself over my own issues, and Lisa said she was telling me about all this in case she needs someone to talk to about it, so I gather she does not have another place to offload.
So if you're a pray-er and you care, please pray. I don't even know what to think because I'm having so many perspective-challenging dilemmas on my own world view and God-view at the moment. Even asking for prayer is a confusing and emotional choice for me right now.
Thanks
My housemate Lisa is morbidly obese and suffering a myriad of other related or co-existing health issues. She has been back and forth to doctors and hospitals exploring possibilities of cancer and enficemer (I have no idea how that is really spelled) trying to work out exactly why she has so much trouble breathing amongst other things. She has been on a waiting list or something I think for lapband surgery? or something? but her marriage is in such bad shape that she has been agonising over whether she will have the support to recover from such a huge opertation and whether she should cancel the surgery.
She sleeps in a recliner because she can't handle laying on the bed and is frustrated that her husband is distant and flaky and doesn't even ask how her day was or what the outcome of doctors visits have been even when he knows she has had cancer scans done. Her most recent hospital visit for analysis has resulted in a decision by doctors that the only good option is an operation to cut off all the excess body mass.
She has something they call orange peel syndrome which is to do with retaining water between the layers of fat and ... something about protein and affecting the skin... I have a terrible attention span for absorbing information that is new and foreign to me, but that's another story. S
Lisa is concerned about some other relatives and whether they will have the emotional support that they need for their own situations if she doesn't survive. So this is a big decision for her. She coughs and vomits most nights because this house can get a little cold and unsanitary (I do my best to pitch in and keep it clean but I have some serious health issues of my own that affect that side of things too).
Lisa is allergic to anesthetic, which further complicates things, and her body does not cope with being sick in general. She has told me before that she can not afford to get the flu because it puts her in hospital. She is trying to quit smoking at the same time as run a business and cope emotionally with a bad marriage and 3 boarders, myself included, and one of whom is moving in today. The reality for her now, is that if she doesn't have this surgery she will almost certainly just continue to slowly die. If she does have it and she survives, a whole new host of possibilities open up to her for a new life, but not without some remaining significant hurdles. I think what she told me is that the chance of surviving the surgery is less than fifty percent, but the chance of surviving without it, though more drawn out, is much worse.
I don't even know what to ask for here, this is all too much for my brain to deal with. I've been on the verge of suicide myself over my own issues, and Lisa said she was telling me about all this in case she needs someone to talk to about it, so I gather she does not have another place to offload.
So if you're a pray-er and you care, please pray. I don't even know what to think because I'm having so many perspective-challenging dilemmas on my own world view and God-view at the moment. Even asking for prayer is a confusing and emotional choice for me right now.
Thanks