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Jaxx

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Hi I'm Jaxx, and I have a lot of serious things on my mind...


Well first off, I've been trying SOOO hard to give up this masturbation addiction I've been having for years...it seems like I'll give it up for a week, then it'll happen again...it's gotten to the point where I do it so often that I start to have back problems...I really need help and guidance, I dont know how to defeat this...


Another thing is that I have a girlfriend, and I love her SOOO much, but the thing is, I think she might secretly like girls instead of guys. She's not as into me as she was before, not as sensitive either. She told me that she had a past homosexual relationship, but she said God has freed her from that lifestyle and doesnt desire women like that anymore, but Im having trouble believing her, because she's always commenting on how pretty other girls like, she calls her best friend her "spouse", and I look at her a lot and she's ALWAYS staring at other pretty girls, like REALLY staring. I brought it up before but she has denied it like crazy, I dont know what else to do...

We stumbled and fell into sexual acts together, but recently we've rededicated our lives back to Jesus, but I'm worried that our sexual sins have reawakened her past homosexual desires, which makes me feel SOOO guilty...

I need help...please help me.

Jaxx.
 
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estherliewan

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Hey Jaxx,

I know sometimes is hard to give up,but do pray to God and talk to God about your problems and fasting a also good.For tour girlfriend why don't you spend more time with her in church and having bible study together and pray for her.Non of us are perfect.


regards ,

Esther.
 
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dianna

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Look up Galatians, and learn the spirits of this world. Read Romans too. This will give you a better understanding of what it is your going through.
 
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louiseelis

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Hi jaxx , the best way to beat the enemy when he keeps bombarding us with things is to use the word of god even if its two or even one verse that you know dont underestimate its power like i have in the past, i have come to realize that when god says something will work it will work its just up to me to believe and pray my faith grows stronger and stronger and apply his word eg:

I can do all things through christ which strengthens me phillipians 4v13
And when he was at the place Jesus said unto them: pray that you enter not into temptation

I know how it feels to be tempted we all do no matter what it might be each individual faces tests and struggles especially those that are called by god the most important thing my brother is that you DONT GIVE UP (= and remmember Gods word always wins in the end do not be dissmayed and dont let the enemy place guilt or lonliness on you.

Look to jesus the verses i have mentioned are really good so dont hesitate to rub them in satans face stay in the word so your always ready to fight with his word, oh and by the way there is no if's but's or maybe's you WILL WIN if you keep involving god (= dont ever try to do it alone we fail before we have even started if we think we can do things in our own strength.


Remmember the devil tempted jesus and jesus just told him what? the truth of gods word that man cannot live by bread alone but by every word that comes out of the mouth of god the enemy kept coming back tempting jesus but jesus kept quoting scripture and what happened THE DEVIL LEFT!

Please read- matthew 4 v 1-11 when you feel like you cant beat this

godbless and much love sister becy
 
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louiseelis

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Oh i forgot pray that you enter not into temptation is taken from- st Luke 22v40 just incase you may not have known.

And remmember god loves you very very much he is just waiting with arms open wide to extend to us his forgiveness when we ask for it so dont let the devil lie to you and tell you: youve made another mistake/try to guilt trip you cos that just lies, remmember god is the epitome of love he is LOVE ITSELF how great is that: love itself is on our side and if thats the case then we definately are more that conqurers- Romans 8v37
 
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Jaxx

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Thank you so much Sister Becy, I definitely needed that...I know God has something big for me, so I figure Satan just wants to keep me down so I wont fulfill God's will...Thank you very much! :)
 

pickles

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I will pray for both of you.
God bless, pickles
 
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igh

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Hi I'm Jaxx, and I have a lot of serious things on my mind...


Well first off, I've been trying SOOO hard to give up this masturbation addiction I've been having for years...it seems like I'll give it up for a week, then it'll happen again...it's gotten to the point where I do it so often that I start to have back problems...I really need help and guidance, I dont know how to defeat this...


Another thing is that I have a girlfriend, and I love her SOOO much, but the thing is, I think she might secretly like girls instead of guys. She's not as into me as she was before, not as sensitive either. She told me that she had a past homosexual relationship, but she said God has freed her from that lifestyle and doesnt desire women like that anymore, but Im having trouble believing her, because she's always commenting on how pretty other girls like, she calls her best friend her "spouse", and I look at her a lot and she's ALWAYS staring at other pretty girls, like REALLY staring. I brought it up before but she has denied it like crazy, I dont know what else to do...

We stumbled and fell into sexual acts together, but recently we've rededicated our lives back to Jesus, but I'm worried that our sexual sins have reawakened her past homosexual desires, which makes me feel SOOO guilty...

I need help...please help me.

Jaxx.
Doesnt sound like your girlfriend is into you, have you discussed getting engaged and marriage? How about children? If her mind is lost in imagining sex acts with girls , she has given herself over to demonic lusting. It is an abomination even to lust in your mind on such things. This isnt adultery, it is an abomination a perversion of what is normal and Righteous unto God, man with woman is normal , woman with woman is not.

If she wont give you an answer on egagement and marrigage then you have a deep problem with having a relationship with her. She will cause you nothing but trouble, break up with her now. And you have to get your lusting under control too. Just remember and Pray that you want to Serve Jesus and give a Righteous witness to all much more than masturbation. It will sober you up. Praying for you.
 
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songster

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Hello Jaxx,

You're not alone. Many guys, including myself, have struggled in the past, with similar sexually related habits. You didn't mention whether a pornography addiction accompanied your masturbatory addiction, but I suspect it might. The battle you're fighting is both a physical dependency resulting from continually stimulating the pleasure center in your brain, much in the same way certain drugs would, and opening a door for spiritual oppression resulting from sin, as dianna already mentioned.

You may not be aware of it, but there are triggers, or certain circumstances which produce the need to do this. For some, it's isolation and boredom. For others it's stress, anxiety, and depression, or a combination of each of those. You are conditioned to respond to these triggers by seeking a release, or an outlet. Because the pleasure received is very brief, the act is often repeated, sometimes 2 or 3 times within the same day, and many times you realize it wasn't worth it.

One of the differences between a man and a woman is, women usually require emotional stimulation before engaging in sexual activity, while men typically do not. Men are very visually and mentally stimulated. The desire to be sexual is a natural desire which develops in men, but an uncontrollable dependency can be a direct result of not being able to fulfill the often ignored need for intimacy. Intimacy is not always fulfilled in men, by engaging in sex with a partner. For men this is often the confusion of lust versus love.

The key to lasting freedom is by establishing a support system, preferably believing christians, who are concerned for your wellbeing and will pray for you, and whom you will be able to call and interact with on a regular basis. Attending a loving, bible teaching church and finding a place within that church where you can serve, is also helpful in staying connected. Isolation and inactivity can be a hinderance. Put away the feelings of guilt, remorse, and feelings of unworthiness which often accompany uncontrollable compulsive behaviors. Believe and know, that God forgives you completely, but also know that repentance means to change, not simply to pray.

I do not doubt your girlfriends sincerety, but keep in mind that both of your struggles may resurface, should you decide to marry. If it is not possible for you to abstain from sexual activity with your girlfriend, it is better to marry than to increase your struggle by adding premarital sex acts to both of your lives. Sexual sins are insatiable, and becuase of this, you must find the maturity, strength in the Lord, and the self discipline to make the choice to stop. You may feel this is difficult or impossible, but it isn't.

I also encourage you to begin to notice how your life changes, everytime you fall into your masturbatory habit. There is a certain amount of self-inflicted discipline that we endure each time we fall into sin. Let it teach you, remember it, and make a better choice the next time you're tempted. Don't be afraid to become vulnerable with other believing men, who can support you. Your support system will have to extend further than those available within this chat site, if you want your efforts to be successful. Chat members cannot hold you accountable the way that people in your area can. You will have a better life, and a greater sense of control over your body. Your mind will also be clearer, once the spiritual oppression has stopped. It isn't your relationship with God that is being affected, but your sense of that relationship, it is difficult for you to feel His love, His peace and to know His voice, because of the clutter which sexual immorality produces.

I trust that some of this has helped and I sincerely hope that your life, and your relationship with God will be greatly improved.

Matthew 11:28

"Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. ... "
 
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Jaxx

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Hello Jaxx,

You're not alone. Many guys, including myself, have struggled in the past, with similar sexually related habits. You didn't mention whether a pornography addiction accompanied your masturbatory addiction, but I suspect it might. The battle you're fighting is both a physical dependency resulting from continually stimulating the pleasure center in your brain, much in the same way certain drugs would, and opening a door for spiritual oppression resulting from sin, as dianna already mentioned.

You may not be aware of it, but there are triggers, or certain circumstances which produce the need to do this. For some, it's isolation and boredom. For others it's stress, anxiety, and depression, or a combination of each of those. You are conditioned to respond to these triggers by seeking a release, or an outlet. Because the pleasure received is very brief, the act is often repeated, sometimes 2 or 3 times within the same day, and many times you realize it wasn't worth it.

One of the differences between a man and a woman is, women usually require emotional stimulation before engaging in sexual activity, while men typically do not. Men are very visually and mentally stimulated. The desire to be sexual is a natural desire which develops in men, but an uncontrollable dependency can be a direct result of not being able to fulfill the often ignored need for intimacy. Intimacy is not always fulfilled in men, by engaging in sex with a partner. For men this is often the confusion of lust versus love.

The key to lasting freedom is by establishing a support system, preferably believing christians, who are concerned for your wellbeing and will pray for you, and whom you will be able to call and interact with on a regular basis. Attending a loving, bible teaching church and finding a place within that church where you can serve, is also helpful in staying connected. Isolation and inactivity can be a hinderance. Put away the feelings of guilt, remorse, and feelings of unworthiness which often accompany uncontrollable compulsive behaviors. Believe and know, that God forgives you completely, but also know that repentance means to change, not simply to pray.

I do not doubt your girlfriends sincerety, but keep in mind that both of your struggles may resurface, should you decide to marry. If it is not possible for you to abstain from sexual activity with your girlfriend, it is better to marry than to increase your struggle by adding premarital sex acts to both of your lives. Sexual sins are insatiable, and becuase of this, you must find the maturity, strength in the Lord, and the self discipline to make the choice to stop. You may feel this is difficult or impossible, but it isn't.

I also encourage you to begin to notice how your life changes, everytime you fall into your masturbatory habit. There is a certain amount of self-inflicted discipline that we endure each time we fall into sin. Let it teach you, remember it, and make a better choice the next time you're tempted. Don't be afraid to become vulnerable with other believing men, who can support you. Your support system will have to extend further than those available within this chat site, if you want your efforts to be successful. Chat members cannot hold you accountable the way that people in your area can. You will have a better life, and a greater sense of control over your body. Your mind will also be clearer, once the spiritual oppression has stopped. It isn't your relationship with God that is being affected, but your sense of that relationship, it is difficult for you to feel His love, His peace and to know His voice, because of the clutter which sexual immorality produces.

I trust that some of this has helped and I sincerely hope that your life, and your relationship with God will be greatly improved.

Matthew 11:28

"Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. ... "



Songster, it's like you know me, or you've had a hidden camera in my room this WHOLE time! lol thats exactly it! I would get so stressed over my girlfriend over whether she still loves me or not, and from that I would try to get some kind of relief from those worries, then masturbate. Anxiety for sure!!! Because she just isnt into me like she was before, but she says she still loves me, but she may not notice it, but she acts a LOT differently now a days (we've been together for over 10 months)...and I'd get worried that she just doesn't like men anymore, than I masturbate to take my mind off of her, and you're SOOO right about it being brief, it's so quick, then I'm not fully satisfied with it, so I'll try it 3 or 4 more times to see if the pleasure will be greater, but all I end up with is a headache, guilt, shame, and messy hands, repent, next day, do it ALL over again! And now that I think of it, being isolated and inactive DOES have a lot to do with this, because if I'm not doing anything, then all I do is sit here and think, and think, and think, with nothing else to occupy my mind or time...man, I love you! lol And as for having other men to hold me accountable, i dont know about that lol because i dont want them blabbing out my business or start thinking less of me, ya know? People do that. Thank you SOOO much! I know we dont know each other, but i really DO need SOMEone to hold me accountable, and i cant trust anyone here, so can you do that for me? I'd really appreciate it. :)
 
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songster

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I'm so glad I was able to help, but the real work will be yours from this point. The most I can do is to pray for you and to give advice, and I will be happy to do that at any time. Please feel free to continue sharing, but It may be helpful for you, and perhaps for others, if we conduct our communications openly, such as in this thread. You have an advantage of anonymity, so you can be as open as you feel comfortable being. My email is instantly alerted when a new message appears on this thread. At the very least, I will check in daily. This will also give others, both men and women, a chance to encourage you and give helpful input as we continue.

If you don't mind, I would like to know your first name. If you don't feel comfortable giving it here, perhaps you would want to send it in a private message, and then return to this thread for future commincation. Others may benefit from our conversation. There are thousands going through this same thing.

Will you tell me about your relationship with God?
 
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Jaxx

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I'm so glad I was able to help, but the real work will be yours from this point. The most I can do is to pray for you and to give advice, and I will be happy to do that at any time. Please feel free to continue sharing, but It may be helpful for you, and perhaps for others, if we conduct our communications openly, such as in this thread. You have an advantage of anonymity, so you can be as open as you feel comfortable being. My email is instantly alerted when a new message appears on this thread. At the very least, I will check in daily. This will also give others, both men and women, a chance to encourage you and give helpful input as we continue.

If you don't mind, I would like to know your first name. If you don't feel comfortable giving it here, perhaps you would want to send it in a private message, and then return to this thread for future commincation. Others may benefit from our conversation. There are thousands going through this same thing.

Will you tell me about your relationship with God?

I understand, you're right :) I'm sorry, but at this time I dont feel too cool with sharing my name, I know its just a first name, but still, maybe someday...lol Thats true, hopefully others are reading too and can be encouraged by our conversation...:)


Another thing though, I've been praying and fasting to get this paranoia out of my spirit, because I'm always so worried that my girlfriend is lying and cheating on me. The thing is, I was unfaithful in my last relationship, but that was BEFORE Christ was in my life, and I was dating an athiest on top of that. So ever since then, I've been so scared that I'm gonna reap what I sowed, like, I'll get cheated on because I cheated...sometimes she's things that I said when I was lying to my ex, and I think "oh gosh, i wonder if she's lying like I did"...she hasnt given me any real reason to NOT trust her, besides the fact that she tells 'white lies' every now and then, then I'm like "If she'd lie to me about SMALL things, then maybe she's lying to me about BIG things too" ...I'm a wreck..., there's this dude, I'm his friend, but he looks like this black Fabio, and he and my girlfriend are really good friends, and I guess its the devil, because she always sounds so flirty and giddy around him. She says he's like her brother, but I've been having SUCH a tough time believing her. I had to delete my facebook, myspace AND twitter just to keep from seeing her leave comments on his page, and she'd always leave more on his page than mine, and that might sound really petty and stupid, but Facebook can be a lot more serious than people take it for...or i dont know, maybe satan is just having a party in my mind...I'm sorry man, I've never really been able to unleash all these thoughts on anyone but Jesus, it feels good to get it out...
 
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Jaxx

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I understand, you're right :) I'm sorry, but at this time I dont feel too cool with sharing my name, I know its just a first name, but still, maybe someday...lol Thats true, hopefully others are reading too and can be encouraged by our conversation...:)


Another thing though, I've been praying and fasting to get this paranoia out of my spirit, because I'm always so worried that my girlfriend is lying and cheating on me. The thing is, I was unfaithful in my last relationship, but that was BEFORE Christ was in my life, and I was dating an athiest on top of that. So ever since then, I've been so scared that I'm gonna reap what I sowed, like, I'll get cheated on because I cheated...sometimes she's things that I said when I was lying to my ex, and I think "oh gosh, i wonder if she's lying like I did"...she hasnt given me any real reason to NOT trust her, besides the fact that she tells 'white lies' every now and then, then I'm like "If she'd lie to me about SMALL things, then maybe she's lying to me about BIG things too" ...I'm a wreck..., there's this dude, I'm his friend, but he looks like this black Fabio, and he and my girlfriend are really good friends, and I guess its the devil, because she always sounds so flirty and giddy around him. She says he's like her brother, but I've been having SUCH a tough time believing her. I had to delete my facebook, myspace AND twitter just to keep from seeing her leave comments on his page, and she'd always leave more on his page than mine, and that might sound really petty and stupid, but Facebook can be a lot more serious than people take it for...or i dont know, maybe satan is just having a party in my mind...I'm sorry man, I've never really been able to unleash all these thoughts on anyone but Jesus, it feels good to get it out...


Oh and as far as my relationship with God, I re-rededicated my life to Jesus recently, and I've been trying so hard to get closer to God, but gosh, is it HARD! I've been fasting since yesterday, and I almost gave in today because I've been so stressed from job-hunting. I want a job SOOO bad, and it seems like these people prepare themselves to say 'no' to me before I even walk in the door lol but my relationship with Jesus is getting better, I'm tryna get more into the Word and Christian music, and just praising Him on my own, and actually STUDYING the bible
 
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songster

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Something you may have already realized, is that some of your feelings of paranoia are directly tied to your perception of yourself. With what you've been experiencing, you may not be capable of seeing yourself the way that God sees you. Believing that others think, act and perceive things the same way that you do, is not uncommon. It isn't easy realizing that we won't always see, and can't always expect to see, ourselves in others. We're all unique. Also remember that women relate to people on a very different level than men do. Simply because there is a close friendship between a man and a woman, this is not an instant indicaton of physical attraction or reason for suspicion.

This is where trust plays an important part. Questioning and showing distrust, unnecessarily, can reveal insecurities. Remember, pornography and masturbatory activity places you in complete control, with no chance of being rejected, criticized, or judged, and with no vulnerability. Dealing with real people in real relationships, is very different, and we are constantly vulnerable to unexpected changes in those relationships.

Trusting takes practice. Settle it in your heart that you believe that God has your future in mind and that He causes all things to work together for your good. Re-committing your life to Christ means that you are making a fresh start as you allow Him to lead you, but keep in mind that the plans He has for you, may not include your current girlfriend. I encourage you to allow her to be who she is, and to do your best not to project insecurities. I also want to enourage you to begin to pray about your relationship. I firmly believe that before we pursue a relationship with any degree of seriousness, we should express that desire to the Lord. If she is the one God is giving to you, you will both flow almost effortlessly toward each other and eventually toward marriage.

For now, I suggest verbally giving the relationship to God in your prayer time. You've already begun to put God first through fasting, praying and seeking Him with a seriousness that may have been lacking in past years. Put him first in your relationship with your girlfriend, and be secure enough in Christ, to accept the outcome. This is a time for allowing God to heal you, and to change your way of perceiving the world around you and perceiving yourself. Loathing yourself, hating life and pondering the meaninglessness of each day, is counter productive.

Tell me about the church you attend.
 
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Jaxx

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Now I KNOW you have cameras following me! lol yes, all so true, and about what you said about my girlfriend, sometimes she drifts in and out of secular and Christian music and movies and television, which bothers me sometimes, but I'll just do what you said and just let her be her and pray for her. I really do love her and I'm IN love with her, so I really hope that she's the one.

I go to a good church, my dad is the pastor (yeah, I dont give preacher's kids such a good name), its a good bible based church, teaching the straight up truth about Jesus, but as you can see, its still a big struggle for me. I love my church, and they teach against the things I have done, but its been so hard for me not to do them. Its a deliverance church, its awesome.

But yeah, my girlfriend has been kinda double-minded, one foot in the world, and the other in Jesus. And it hate when she sings those stupid ridiculous secular songs and dances like she's at the club, egh, i hate it. And in the past i addressed it but all that happened was us getting into an argument, so i let go and just prayed that God would take her desire away from that music, and He has, cuz she calledme one day and said she threw out ALL her secular CD's, but lately, she seems to be drifting back into it, and idk what to do.
 
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songster

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It's good to know that you're attending a bible believing church. Deliverance is wonderful, and worshipping in an environment which supports a genuine belief in the power of God, and the operations of the gifts of the Holy Spirit, is a blessing. However, there are times when those who have been prayed for, continue to struggle with the very thing everyone believed they were delivered from.

For some, this means that they are now forced to pretend to be whole. Singing the right songs, using the right christian phrases, and being expressive in worship, even emotional, but all the while, fighting a secret battle which no one will ever know about, because they were supposed to have been delivered. Some may never volunteer information about their struggles because they would be looked upon as a backslider, disobedient, or possibly even unsaved.This is one of the pitfalls of having an understanding of 'religion' as opposed to having an understanding of 'relationship'.

I'd like to give you a slightly different perspective. Instead of thinking of yourself as someone searching for the 'once and done', miracle of deliverance, begin to think of yourself as a 'work in progress', meaning. Jesus doesn't simply throw in the towel, considering you one of His problem children, everytime you mess up. He develops a way, or a plan. God's word was sown into your heart and God will bring the increase. The process may be a painstaking one, as we sometimes suffer the consequences and discipline which results from our choices and mistakes, but we have an advocate, an intercessor, who welcomes us back and tells us that we're forgiven and that tomorrow is a new day.

From the screen name I've chosen, you might have guessed that I like music. I have written, sang and even recorded a little, (on an amateur level). Musical ability is certainly a gift which many appreciate. Like your girlfriend, when in my 20's, I gathered every secular recording I owned, and placed them in a large plastic bag and they went out with the trash. I have since then developed a very different perspective on music. Granted, some modern songs are filled with suggestive lyrics and offensive language, but I"ve grown to appreciate the songs that are not. God has never led me to feel convicted about this.

I've learned to become less rigid and less legalistic about these things, which seem to focus on an outward holiness. God changes a man from the inside out. If a person is drawn away from Christ, to be closer to the world, it usually isn't because of their taste in music, it's because the road of a christian tends to appear too narrow, and they begin searching for more freedom. By being less legalistic, christianity seems less like a list of do's and don't's.

Does your girlfriend go with you to your church?
 
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Jaxx

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No, she goes to another church. And yeah, its a stuggle, and its just the fact that Im a pastor's son that kinda makesme feel like I have to be perfect. Of course I wont just come out and say what I'm struggling with, but I hate that sometimes people just assume that I'm this super Christian, when really I'm like 'if they only knew', and thats what I love about Jesus, no matter how many times I fall, He'll be there to catch me, which I could never say about anyone else.

Plus, she has this friend, the one i mentioned before, she calls her 'spousey', and yea, this friend is QUITE a handful. She can be hot-headed and bad-tempered, and I refer to that scripture in Proverbs 22: 24-25 "Dont befriend angry people, or associate with hot-tempered people, or you will learn to be like them and endanger your soul" NLT, which is EXACTLY whats been going on, my girlfriend is starting to act JUST like her, and its annoying sometimes, but they are REALLY good friends, so I dont know how to approach this to her.
 
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songster

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I'm getting a clearer picture of what you're experiencing with your girlfriend, and that has to be quite a struggle, but it's beginning to seem as though you're the one who's genuinely interested in drawing closer to God. I dated a woman who was somewhat of a new christian. She was attractive and very affectionate. She had a very carefree spirit. I admired this about her, but I also learned that she had a very casual attitude toward sexual sin. I attributed this to her lack of understanding. Though we never engaged in anything beyond kisses and hugs, her casual attitude began to extend into her relationship with God.

We had an agreement that if we were together, (dating), for one more year, we would consider marriage. The constant fluctuations and changes in her personality, being extremely pleasant and loving at one time, and surprisingly and angrily assertive at other times, convinced me that I was well on my way to being unequally yoked. The primary component of what I believed a relationship should consist of, was simply not there. For me, that primary component was, having an ever increasing desire to grow in the Lord and to progress toward being Christ like.

She had been in lesbian relationships before coming to Christ, and maintained a close friendship with one particular young woman who she claimed was not someone she was attracted to. We ended the relationship as she began to drift further and further away from having a hunger for God, drifting closer to the people who were in her life before coming to Christ. Her views became more and more philisophical and less biblical. You can understand how this became frustrating for me, especially being thoroughly acquainted with scripture and how we should live as christians.

Compatibility is important in our relationships with women, and even with friends. We don't always have to have common interests, but, the influence of someones 'casual faith', luke warmness and philisophical views on life, can be a hinderance to any believer. I know it was for me.

How's it going with avoiding masturbatory activities?
 
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Barthalomew

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Hey Jaxx, masturbation is not sin, nor is the act of sex sin, but when one sins he does not know who is he feeding, the devil or the God in the body. If you pay much heed to sex like the body sends sexual desire and tendencys to act or have sex no one can stop it. It is the desire of the flesh where good thoughts and bad thoughts come and go just as a good sunny weather and dull day. So when temptaion comes all you do is concentrate on the good things, like forgivness, repenatation, confession to the Lord, prayer. So you see that when you come to a certain stage in life you will see that you were battling the devil inside and not sticking to the fleshy desires. So dont be guilty, but understand that your body is made like that and it will slowly graudally move into holiness, keep praying, try to be with good company most of the time, dont associate with anything that is choatic and confusing, try changing you place, the room where you stay. and last and not least dont forget that Jesus too suffered these type of tempatation but hte only thing he slipped past Satan because he was the Lamb of the world who took away all our blam in him, and he washed us by his blood everytime, now just sprinkle the blood of Christ on your self and say that by his promise and by his blood I am healed although I have sinned..hurray...be very very happy and dont think of Satan that you sinned ..OK

bye,
enjoy your life,
Bro Bartholomew
 

Hansa

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as a man thinks in his heart so is he..proverbs 23:7 ...you are what u think therefore change ur thinking..transform ur self by renewing ur mind for the rest of ur life(romans 12) get scriptures that relate to sexaul sin study,dwell,renew ur mind with it,(ps119 etc) dude with care n love as a bro i'm saying we all had those issues i overcame it jus easily(not arrogant) ..come on its ur hand its not like the hand is controlling u? u have authority over ur own body n not the devil he cant make u do anything he only gives suggestions n thoughts relateing to it...u might get angry at me for saying this but i'd rather c u angry n saved from it than fall n give way to some demon, so grow up.its jus ur hand u can do it.