We live in different states. I moved afterwards to Florida, and he's in Chicago. He's lived his whole life here in the states, why would he up his life and move to Austrailia, when he's sending money to his wife from here? I CHOSE TO LEAVE MY HOME OF OVER 23 YEARS TO AVOID HIM. Our feelings are not right when he is married. I agree. In the five times we've seen each other since his marriage, we've gotten coffee, and our conversation eventually leads to talking about prayers. And every dang time, we end up talking about not having feelings for each other anymore. Its sinful that he has feelings for me, and we both acknowledge it. That is what is not chaste about our discussion. Our feelings that exist cannot be chaste because they should not exist. Having mutual feelings is definitely terrible when he is married. However, that does not make me a side chick. Being honest and having honest conversation about whe we need to pray for each other is not making me a side chick.
Okay, so let's take out the orchid. Let's say that the orchid blooming for the first time in years after the prayer isn't a sign from God, and we're supposed to part ways. Then instead of condemning us, actually provide constructive advice and prayer like a brother or sister instead of insults.