"Adult" threads

[wwjd_kilden]

This isn't as much a suggestion as it is asking what you guys think


We have seen several "adult themed" threads lately.

Now I am a bit drawn in two directions here:

- In one way I feel this shouldn't be a topic in a christian forum at all
- And yet I feel that someone has to be a counterweight to some of the practices that society displays

... but still, even if we are to do be counterweights i feel that one should be able to browse a christian forum without reading thread titles involving sex all the time.

I guess what I am asking is: Could we have a clearer policy of what is OK, what isn't, and where it is OK?

 

[kaylagrl]

This isn't as much a suggestion as it is asking what you guys think


We have seen several "adult themed" threads lately.

Now I am a bit drawn in two directions here:

- In one way I feel this shouldn't be a topic in a christian forum at all
- And yet I feel that someone has to be a counterweight to some of the practices that society displays

... but still, even if we are to do be counterweights i feel that one should be able to browse a christian forum without reading thread titles involving sex all the time.

I guess what I am asking is: Could we have a clearer policy of what is OK, what isn't, and where it is OK?

From what Ive seen,one person is starting these threads. I wont be surprised if they are soon banned.

 

[Oncefallen]

This isn't as much a suggestion as it is asking what you guys think


We have seen several "adult themed" threads lately.

Now I am a bit drawn in two directions here:

- In one way I feel this shouldn't be a topic in a christian forum at all
- And yet I feel that someone has to be a counterweight to some of the practices that society displays

... but still, even if we are to do be counterweights i feel that one should be able to browse a christian forum without reading thread titles involving sex all the time.

I guess what I am asking is: Could we have a clearer policy of what is OK, what isn't, and where it is OK?

As a former Admin I can give guidance in this area.

I think that these subjects ranging from porn addiction to masturbation to the most recent "sex toys in marriage" threads are always going to be on CC for a handful of reasons.

First and foremost, a large percentage of churches completely sidestep the subject of Christian sexuality other than to say "don't have sex outside of marriage" and in many churches the subject is almost taboo. We have a generation of young people growing up in society where human sexuality is being thrown at them from all directions yet the church is doing nothing to counter the information they are buried in other than to say "don't do it".

Polls done in recent years show that teens growing up in the church have the prevailing view that anything goes sexually as long as they are still "technical virgins" when they get married. What this shows is that the Church (and their parents) are doing a horrible job at teaching our teens about Biblical sexuality.

I think many people end up posting these threads because they don't feel comfortable bringing the subject up within their church family (if they have one).

As far as CC's policy goes:

Discussions need to be kept PG since we do have users as young as 13. It is possible to discuss human sexuality without being profane or graphic.

Proper forums would be:

Family, Young Adults (young adult OP), Teens (teen OP), Singles, or Bible Study (Yes, human sexuality is a biblical subject. Read the Song of Solomon).

 

[Willie-T]

As a former Admin I can give guidance in this area.

I think that these subjects ranging from porn addiction to masturbation to the most recent "sex toys in marriage" threads are always going to be on CC for a handful of reasons.

First and foremost, a large percentage of churches completely sidestep the subject of Christian sexuality other than to say "don't have sex outside of marriage" and in many churches the subject is almost taboo. We have a generation of young people growing up in society where human sexuality is being thrown at them from all directions yet the church is doing nothing to counter the information they are buried in other than to say "don't do it".

Polls done in recent years show that teens growing up in the church have the prevailing view that anything goes sexually as long as they are still "technical virgins" when they get married. What this shows is that the Church (and their parents) are doing a horrible job at teaching our teens about Biblical sexuality.

I think many people end up posting these threads because they don't feel comfortable bringing the subject up within their church family (if they have one).

As far as CC's policy goes:

Discussions need to be kept PG since we do have users as young as 13. It is possible to discuss human sexuality without being profane or graphic.

Proper forums would be:

Family, Young Adults (young adult OP), Teens (teen OP), Singles, or Bible Study (Yes, human sexuality is a biblical subject. Read the Song of Solomon).

A ton of wisdom in that post *Once*. If I have learned anything in 70 years it is that being an "effective" Christian is often messy, and for most "church goers", not to be allowed to get too close to "real" Christians.

 

[resurrection33]

It seems to me the majority of churches don’t address this issue at all, or worse, they give their blessing to sexual unchastity. (I suspect this is because some church leaders think they will be more popular if they give their blessing to sexual unchastity.)

Some people are struggling with lust and want to know if it’s okay to give in to immoral sexual temptation. The answer, of course, is no.

Like you, Astrid, these questions can make me uncomfortable. If the person appears to honestly want an answer, I might offer one. If the question is asked in a graphic, indecent way, I’ll ignore it.

Thank you for the post, Astrid.

 

[Lost_sheep]

I think the threads have a use though - they certainly sort out the people who cannot reply in an adult and civilized manner and need to be sorted out into the ignore lists. They do a nice job of proving that a whole LOT of "men" are really overgrown 8-year olds who still giggle at fart jokes.

 

[Tintin]

I understand the question and its relevance, but honestly, many teenagers know more about sex and sexuality than I do. Most probably this isn't in a godly light or even anything beyond the physical acts, but they still know far more than me. Should we explore this stuff in light of our biblically Christian beliefs and offer truth for young people (from the Word) as opposed to the lies society throws at them daily? Absolutely. Should we entertain trolls masking as Christians who start stupidly obvious sexual threads and write posts? Heck, no! They just want to cause strife and be inappropriate little buggers. Kick them back under the bridge and be done with them.

 

[HeRoseFromTheDead]

I really got tired of seeing that thread title about Mister Bator constantly bumped to the top. Something I never think about (or even want to), yet my mind was constantly forced to process that word. Ack!