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Lovelygirl7

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Hi members of Christian chat, I am very happy to have joined this site, it is great. I would like prayer or anyone advice. I am 28yrs old female and I believe in Jesus Christ as lord and savior. I have been single most of my adult life, I would date and it would not work out because the guy wants sex. I have not had a sexual relationship, I am still a virgin. My loneliness is getting the best of me. Some friends and family of mine say its a good thing that I waited. Other friends have said that at my age I should have sexual relations and enjoy myself., or waiting is no big deal. Some of the people in my circle have said that ill be waiting forever for a husband because in todays society, in order to have a relationship with a man, sex must be a good part of it. I feel depressed and lonely that I will never have someone to love me. I trust Jesus plan for my life but I have a great desire for a husband and to have children one day. To be honest, although I desire these things apart of me feel that I am not ready and that it will happen in time. Sometimes I feel that I am being selfish and impatient. Mostly I feel that I want to be hugged and loved like other females my age. Other times inappropriate thoughts come to my mind. I go back into sinning, falling away from Christ. A strong hold of lust and desire to be with a man. What should I do? I am embarrass to talk to anyone about it from the church. I stay depressed and have to force myself to stay positive. I want to serve god and not halfway or backsliding.
Thank you for any advice
 
JoeyB

JoeyB

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Hello Lovelygirl7, the emotions you are feeling show that you are human. When God's plan for you has worked out, the impatience and difficult times will seem so far away and you will be so glad you kept your values and remained true to yourself and the lord :) I'm afraid I am not in any position to offer you (good) advice but I can understand your longing and desire for that companionship. You're not alone :)
 
Liamson

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If a person wants to get to know you and date you or court you or whatever, they should respect you.


Pigs are creatures driven by the urge to take what they can and consume as much as possible until its spent. If you find that you are only attracting pigs, you might be sending mixed signals and not realize it.


When Children "fall in love" its never about sex. Its about simply being around the other person, pulling their hair, teasing them, playing games, and doing stupid stuff together. Thats how it should be.


We complicate things when we make relationships an Adult Oriented environment. Don't have sex, don't stay up too late, don't go anywhere alone and don't do this or that or the other thing.


Love should be innocent to begin with. We should expect the best of each other and hold each other up to that standard of conduct, not suspecting that the other person has some evil or selfish intentions. If selfishness shows up, its probably because there is no respect. This applies to women too.
 
JimJimmers

JimJimmers

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Lovelygirl7 said:
Some of the people in my circle have said that ill be waiting forever for a husband because in todays society, in order to have a relationship with a man, sex must be a good part of it.
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I'll tell you right now that that's false. There is no temptation that is not common to man, and people have had sexual urges since there have been people. "Today's society" has nothing to do with it. People will always find an excuse to do something, often saying "In this day and age..." or a similar phrase.
 
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