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Dear all,
I've been married for 10 years already. My husband is a good person, but he has a problem with an alcohol. I used to have it too...when there we no kids we used to drink and have fun and didn't see a problem at all...after the first one was born it became worse and worse...he started drinking more and more, just after work, one pint, then another and...I started joining him too...I even don't know how it happened, i started putting weight, become more and more unhappier but didn't know how to deal with it. I abandoned my community and sunday services because when i was closer to God it felt like going away from my husband. Then I knew the only solution to stop drinking was to have another child. I got pregnant the very first time and stopped drinking immediately. Then my second one was born and after a while I saw how temporal solution this was. I realized how bad the situation was when a total stranger started asking me strange questions and trying to cheer me up. And I knew I need to change something. Alcohol does not bring me and my husband closer, it makes me unhappy. So I left for christian campus to be closer to God and to face those hard situations. Being there I realized that this problem has been in our family for years. So when I got back I decided not to join my husband in drinking any more. He drinks 6 pints every day and sees no problem. I don't know how to deal with this. I grew up with my father drinking and don't want my girls to grow up in similar environment. I got married cause I could see myself with this men ageing together but I don't anymore. The only idea in my mind is to separate because I need to look after myself and my kids. My husband doesn't admit that there is a problem and I'm not 18 anymore...don't see why I should persuade him to change his lifestyle if he loves it. But I don't wanna be a part of it anymore. I didn't expect it to be so difficult.
Yesterday I confronted him, he got mad, started blaming me for not supporting him, being mad recently a lot, and that he doesn't see a problem concerning alcohol. I don't want to start talking about divorce but if he doesn't see a problem here I have no idea what else I can do. I asked my friend to pray for our family constantly and try to be as close to God as I can but still feel that this problem has to be solve either way. I don't want my girls see their father drinking every day and imagine that it's the way their future husbands have to be....Please pray for me and my family. And share your ideas on this. Thank you. God Bless.
I've been married for 10 years already. My husband is a good person, but he has a problem with an alcohol. I used to have it too...when there we no kids we used to drink and have fun and didn't see a problem at all...after the first one was born it became worse and worse...he started drinking more and more, just after work, one pint, then another and...I started joining him too...I even don't know how it happened, i started putting weight, become more and more unhappier but didn't know how to deal with it. I abandoned my community and sunday services because when i was closer to God it felt like going away from my husband. Then I knew the only solution to stop drinking was to have another child. I got pregnant the very first time and stopped drinking immediately. Then my second one was born and after a while I saw how temporal solution this was. I realized how bad the situation was when a total stranger started asking me strange questions and trying to cheer me up. And I knew I need to change something. Alcohol does not bring me and my husband closer, it makes me unhappy. So I left for christian campus to be closer to God and to face those hard situations. Being there I realized that this problem has been in our family for years. So when I got back I decided not to join my husband in drinking any more. He drinks 6 pints every day and sees no problem. I don't know how to deal with this. I grew up with my father drinking and don't want my girls to grow up in similar environment. I got married cause I could see myself with this men ageing together but I don't anymore. The only idea in my mind is to separate because I need to look after myself and my kids. My husband doesn't admit that there is a problem and I'm not 18 anymore...don't see why I should persuade him to change his lifestyle if he loves it. But I don't wanna be a part of it anymore. I didn't expect it to be so difficult.
Yesterday I confronted him, he got mad, started blaming me for not supporting him, being mad recently a lot, and that he doesn't see a problem concerning alcohol. I don't want to start talking about divorce but if he doesn't see a problem here I have no idea what else I can do. I asked my friend to pray for our family constantly and try to be as close to God as I can but still feel that this problem has to be solve either way. I don't want my girls see their father drinking every day and imagine that it's the way their future husbands have to be....Please pray for me and my family. And share your ideas on this. Thank you. God Bless.