Eh? Bible thumper? Maybe it means something different where you live...
I appreciate everyone else's thoughts and comments. And the diversity thereof seems to remind me why I have this question, but that may help me realize that nailing down an exact answer isn't so important either. In the meantime, I plan to do some bible digging over situation 2 and situation 1 there's not a lot I can do now except pray and see what happens. I just don't particularly like being in such a position. And perhaps all the advice to turn to the Bible will inspire me to start a thread about verses that seem to contradict each other and how to apply "the whole counsel of scripture" to a situation that seems between those verses. (Example: Gal 6:1 vs. 1 Cor 5:11-13 issue: dealing with fellow believers who sin repeatedly)
The only other thing I would say is that God is not a God of confusion, so I believe that if you are really feeling led by Him to do something and you see that leading confirmed in Scripture and by other believers, it is almost without a doubt from Him.