How important is looks when seeking a mate?

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Tintin

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#22
Chasten, I don't understand how people can choose to work so much that they have no time for friends (they're incredibly important) but yes, as you said earlier, that's your prerogative.
 
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Ugly

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#23
Perfect, the next time I see someone wrapped up like psycho serial killer, I'll just invite them out for Tea, does that suite you just fine? FYI its really none of your business who I talk to, or what I do. And for that one point alone I probably wouldnt talk to you, with no regard to what you were wearing.
P.S. I'm going to politely refuse to publicly state what city and state I live in, but I live in a v3ery big, very well-known city, with a high crime rate. I dont feel badly about keeping myelf at arms length, for the reason of safety, as I previously stated at the very BEGINNING of my post, nor would I advise ANY other young woman to participate in talking to strangers. Especially if she were alone. And if you would, then point proved. :D
P.S.S- logically, unless your going to online dating sites, someones appearance is the FIRST thing you notice, and one of the ONLY things that someone has time to judge you on, chances are, unless your desperate for friends, or a mate, your not going to be making random stops at McDonalds for the sole purpose of 'getting to know someone better'
Catch my drift? FYI. I'm not talking to you anymore, because you made me feel uncomfortable, and I dont have time to listen to you put words in my mouth. You dont think you dress well? Do something about it, but dont blame me.
I'm off to the chatroom, shutting down the forums. So dont waste your time. xoxox, -Jessi-
Hey, i have an idea, why don't you get all uppity and snotty and twist my words while you're at it.
And if you go on a PUBLIC FORUM and tell everyone your business, guess what, you MAKE it their business. if you don't want to hear responses then don't post.
 
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Catlynn

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#24
i could not kiss somebody who i found gross looking
Hahaha you either, huh? Pffthaha.

I definitely think it's important for someone to be attracted to the person they are with. Obviously there should be way more than physical attraction as the foundation of the relationship but yeah I want someone I'm attracted to!
Like Liamson, for me it has a lot to do with health. I feel like if a person is on the healthier, more disciplined end physically then they are more likely (not always) to be healthy spiritually and emotionally as well and that's attractive to me. :)
 
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Jullianna

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#25
I know a lot of very pretty ladies who don't date much and some who might not appear to be all that attractive to others who date quite a bit, so I don't really know how much it matters. Guys say they are more attracted to the pretty ones, but most are afraid/hesitant to ask them out for whatever reason, so it really doesn't make much sense to me.

That said, I would hate to think that a guy was asking me out solely for the way I look anyway, wouldn't you? :(
 
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Ugly

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#26
I know a lot of very pretty ladies who don't date much and some who might not appear to be all that attractive to others who date quite a bit, so I don't really know how much it matters. Guys say they are more attracted to the pretty ones, but most are afraid/hesitant to ask them out for whatever reason, so it really doesn't make much sense to me.

That said, I would hate to think that a guy was asking me out solely for the way I look anyway, wouldn't you? :(
Guys don't ask the prettier women out because they assume the woman is self centered since shes attractive.
Or perhaps they assume she must already have someone.
They may feel she is 'out of their league' and she would never be interested.

These are some of the common reasons why.
 

Fenner

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Jan 26, 2013
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Being initially attracted to someone is great but if you have nothing in common that attraction can fade fast.
 
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NodMyHeadLikeYeah

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#28
However, I did clearly state at the bottom of my message, I do not have time for friends, or anyone but God in my life right now. I just meant, someone would need to be seriously up to par in all areas, for me to give them time out of my day. My dads always telling me to notice the women in our subdivision when I leave the house for excercise, and I always tell him, I dont have time for friends. That doesnt make me a bad person, it just makes me busy. :/ And some people may think thats mean of me, but whatever, regardless its the way things are for me right now. And being civil to people in public,doesnt mean that Im going to hold a conversation with them, or even want. But chances are if I'm out in public Im not gonna be stopping for Joe/Jen Smoe on the parkbench.
Ain't nobody got time for that!
 
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Chrissy77

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#29
I know a lot of very pretty ladies who don't date much and some who might not appear to be all that attractive to others who date quite a bit, so I don't really know how much it matters. Guys say they are more attracted to the pretty ones, but most are afraid/hesitant to ask them out for whatever reason, so it really doesn't make much sense to me.

That said, I would hate to think that a guy was asking me out solely for the way I look anyway, wouldn't you? :(
Guys don't ask the prettier women out because they assume the woman is self centered since shes attractive.
Or perhaps they assume she must already have someone.
They may feel she is 'out of their league' and she would never be interested.

These are some of the common reasons why.
lol wait so does that mean that the reason men DO ask me out is because I am not
one of the pretty ones and they don't feel intimidated or that they aren't good enough
for me?

How much that statement could be twisted.lol Just messing with you, Ugly.
 
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Jullianna

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#30
Guys don't ask the prettier women out because they assume the woman is self centered since shes attractive.
Or perhaps they assume she must already have someone.
They may feel she is 'out of their league' and she would never be interested.

These are some of the common reasons why.
Yep...You are so right. Have heard that stuff more than once, though I can't think of many things that annoy me more than that "out of their league" thing. :)

Being initially attracted to someone is great but if you have nothing in common that attraction can fade fast.
AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAMEN!

Proverbs 31:30 Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.
 
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iTOREtheSKY

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#31
Ugly is right...we,as men know when we are out of our league. You women know it too. Yer' thinking "omg..does this dude really think he has a shot with me?" Christian women want a christian version of George Clooney or Brad Pitt. Period. lol
 
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MissCris

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#32
Ugly is right...we,as men know when we are out of our league. You women know it too. Yer' thinking "omg..does this dude really think he has a shot with me?" Christian women want a christian version of George Clooney or Brad Pitt. Period. lol
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MissCris

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#34
LOL..you can act all perplexed Miss Cris...you have a good looking Hubby.lol
'Course I do...I put a lot of work into making him look good...

Just kidding!
Mostly...

 
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iTOREtheSKY

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#35
Now you make me think of a song by King's-X called "Lost in Germany" MissCris lol
 
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MissCris

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#36
Uh...sorry about that...?

Yep, no idea what you're talking about.
 

DuchessAimee

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Apr 27, 2011
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In another thread I mentioned laughing at inappropriate times. I have laughed more than once at the comments in this thread. Not in a mean way, but if we were all sitting in a room together, y'all would have heard me laugh, then apologize. Laugh, then apologize.


I've been up for almost 24 hours. I should sleep. Or keep posting. Or play words with friends. It's a toss up, really. Or read! I love to read.
 
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Jullianna

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#40
No worries, Aimee :) I have a doctorate in inappropriate laughter :)