I have been married for 6 months now. My husband works in the oil field and is gone most of the time. I just recently found out he was arrested for soliciting prostitution. His truck was impounded and he lied and said that he double parked in the wrong spot. Then he later confessed and said that he was arrested. He also confessed to wanting to cheat on me with 5 different women. He swears that he has never physically cheated on me but I don't know if I can believe that. He has lied before. I'm just lost right now I need advice. I love him but I feel like once a cheater will always be a cheater. Everyone is telling me to get a divorce while I'm still early in the marriage. He is not the man I thought I married. I feel like such a fool to put my trust in him. He has confessed that he has wanted to step out on me since we first started dating. I have been faithful to this man from day one. What did I do wrong?
He never showed any signs of cheating when we were dating. He just confessed about everything a few days ago.
You didn't notice any signs... you have been faithful since day one... you feel like a fool... because the eyes of your heart were pure toward him and he has betrayed that pure love.
You said in your previous thread (over a month ago) that a woman messaged you on Facebook that your husband was giving her money and she sent you proof of it. You also said you felt in your spirit something was going on between this woman and your husband but added, “There is no way of me knowing what he is doing.” Well, now you have undeniable proof because he was arrested for soliciting a prostitute.
Do you suppose the woman who messaged you on FB was a prostitute? I mean, your husband said the woman was “trash”, so perhaps he picked her up at a truck stop & did business with her there. Maybe she wanted to break up your marriage so she could have your husband as a sugar daddy.
Married only 6 months and all this corruption already in your marriage. And on top of that, he tells you he’s always been tempted to cheat on you. Dear young woman, I seriously hope you find a Christian counselor ASAP. This is not something to play around with any longer as your husband is putting you at risk of disease and trouble and brokenness. I believe separation would benefit you but again, you need to talk to a professional counselor and consider their godly advice with prayer. I hope you didn’t delete the screen shots of proof that you said you had in your phone.
Nothing is impossible with God. God can fix a marriage if your husband repents. And God can help you move on without him if he doesn’t. If you were my daughter, he’d be moved out of your house already. But I’m not God. I’m just a mom and grandmommy. So listen to the Lord in your heart.
Blessings of peace and grace to you, dear. Love in Christ Jesus, Auntie