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lizzie224

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Hi I met this guy online about 6 months ago. He seems really nice but from an other country and culture
He is a Christian and we share many of the same veiws
We talked all the time for the first month then I stopped because Im scared, I dont really know him and he is half way around the world
A life with him would be completely different from what i am use to.
We have talked a few times over tge past 4 months but not alot
How do I know if God wants me to pressue this ?
 
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blessed323

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Hello Lizzie,

I believe that you can answer this question for yourself. What do you really want? Could you date someone online living miles and miles away that you will not be able to see on a regular basis. You need to find out what you would like when dating someone. Do you like going out to dinner, walks in the park, or talking with someone via skype? These are questions that you can answer yourself. I hope I've helped in some way.

God Bless...
 
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lizzie224

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Blessed323
Its still a hard decistion to make I would like someone here (Canada) but what if this is the man God has instore for me
He lives in Pakistan in a small Christian village and would like to open up an orphanage
Im just trying to figure out if I should continue to get to know him or not
 
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maxwel

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OceanGrl said:
This! A bunch of red flags are going off with this, I would not pursue this if I were you. But, that's just me.
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Oceangrl, you worry too much.

What could possibly be wrong with running off to an unknown village somewhere in war-torn pakistan, to open an orphanage with no apparent money or support, with a strange man you've never actually met?

Geesh.
 
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OceanGrl

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maxwel said:
Oceangrl, you worry too much.

What could possibly be wrong with running off to an unknown village somewhere in war-torn pakistan, to open an orphanage with no apparent money or support, with a strange man you've never actually met?

Geesh.
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I love the smell of sarcasm in the morning... eh, night.
 
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Ugly

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This may sound bad, but i would consider what country he is from, first and foremost. Men from some countries, they are just generally more questionable. And sometimes the situation could be dangerous in the long term. If he comes from a Muslim country, for example, even if he's a Christian, there is a lot of culture bound up in living there.
 
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lizzie224

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Hi thank you for all of your imput. I understand all of your conserns
As with any man there can be issue. I am not about to jump on a plane an move in with a man I hardly know.
And i would not just willy nilly opwn up an orphanege without any support.
From what I know of him so far (which I do understans is difficult over the internet) is that he is a kind loving man who loves Jesus and want with all of his heart to be able to care for the poor children in his country
He is a very compationate man.
And yes i know what men from his country can be like and so far he has not given me any indication he is like that but ofcourse I would meet him in person and get to know him before I coyld truly know his true character
I am simply asking advice or for past experence on how people have known that God is calling them to something or to someone

Thank you
 
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Ugly

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I know there are stories of women who married men, in the US, that came from Muslim countries. And the men did a 180 after the marriage and become very strict in a way they hadn't displayed before marriage. And some women have even gone with their husbands to visit his family back home, and he then refuses to leave, and won't allow her to either. And the laws in these countries help the guys to force these women to stay, and fall into muslim customs for women. So he may be a good guy, or he may know how to look like a good guy.
And hopefully you wouldn't be moving in with a guy, no matter where he was from.
 
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And seriously, please be careful.

None of us have time to fly to Pakistan and rescue a girl from the forum that's just been kidnapped.

I guess we could do it... but it really is a lot of trouble.
 
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lizzie224

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Oh man i never said i was fly off to pakistan
 
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Boncos5680

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You are not worrying too much. Even Christian men and women need checked out thoroughly between each
other. For Instance we can be Christian full of GOD but are we marriage material? Do we really know how to
be something to each other, how do we find out about each other. Do not be unwise and do not think Christian
means OK....... Some people have never dealt with their personal lives and may not but wear the title Christian
or........... Wisdom, good sense, observations, across or around the world, be very very careful I suggest.

I care -

Boncos
 
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agirlandherguitar

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My first reaction to this story is skepticism. He just wants a VISA, don't do it, blah blah. I don't like throwing men from Pakistan all into the same bag. That's not fair. Unfortunately there have been plenty of instances where something like that happens and that's why we think that way. The only thing I can suggest is to pray for him but limit your contact with him. Remain friends and keep it super casual. You don't want to develop feelings for somebody you'll probably never meet. But really, sit down and have a hard talk with God about this. You'll find out pretty soon what He wants you to do. The fact that this guy is from a different culture, lives halfway across the world and you've never met him is a pretty clear indicator in my books. You don't know if he's talking to other girls. Just because he say's he's a Christian and seems nice online doesn't tell you anything about who he really is. I know a girl who experienced something similar to this (though the Muslim guy she met lives in Canada) and it really pulled her family apart. It also pulled her away from God.
 
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CC_Bride

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If you're scared, don't do it plain and simple...
 
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