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I figured I'd share these figures in their own thread because I spent entirely too much time compiling them. They are a rough sketch of what my online dating experience looked like before I found the woman I intend to marry (and she intends to marry me as well I may add).
I suppose she could always change her mind, but when I've been introduced to her family, her extended family, both of her church families (yeah she has two churches), and her parents and my parents all know and everyone is happy (especially her), I'm pretty dang sure it's set in stone.
I attempted contact with over 400 women across two sites (300 on one and 100 on the other). For this I ended up having somewhat serious conversations with a small handful, and getting only two phone numbers.
The one phone number belonged to a woman who had been raped by her own father. I was actually willing to give that a shot, but she was too damaged, and I'm glad God told me to bail in a spectacular fashion. We never met in person.
The other phone number bore a lot of fruit, but only because I prayed a lot at every stage of the way. This relationship has been a wonderful way to grow in Christ as we share scripture together constantly and our prayer life is very important to us. A lukewarm man would not have won her over.
But here are some funny stories (or scary ones) from the other 399
- I had women ask me to meet at a firing range for a first date (creepy, and this is strike talking here)
- I had a woman get angry and demand to be the mother of my children (super creepy)
- I had the aforementioned father-issue woman
- I met a woman who was probably just going to be a friend, and before seeing her the train I would have taken was derailed, killing several people
- And then I ended up meeting the woman I'm with now, who's inner beauty and servant's heart is so beautiful, not a single person who has ever met her doesn't immediately fall in love with her (myself included). For some reason she feels the same way about me.
So my advice to people is to never give up, even when you're paying to be ignored, you might just find what you were looking for if it's on God's timing. And please be careful! Do not give out phone numbers quickly, meet in public places, etc!
And if you find success, be prayerful and ever vigilant. The relationship is more work even when you both communicate well about literally everything. Sacrifices will be made, hearts will be molded, and bonds will be forged. And you might get hurt - that's the risk you run. It's one that you have to be willing to take or you'll never succeed.
I'm currently laid up with the flu, so hopefully this post made sense.
I suppose she could always change her mind, but when I've been introduced to her family, her extended family, both of her church families (yeah she has two churches), and her parents and my parents all know and everyone is happy (especially her), I'm pretty dang sure it's set in stone.
I attempted contact with over 400 women across two sites (300 on one and 100 on the other). For this I ended up having somewhat serious conversations with a small handful, and getting only two phone numbers.
The one phone number belonged to a woman who had been raped by her own father. I was actually willing to give that a shot, but she was too damaged, and I'm glad God told me to bail in a spectacular fashion. We never met in person.
The other phone number bore a lot of fruit, but only because I prayed a lot at every stage of the way. This relationship has been a wonderful way to grow in Christ as we share scripture together constantly and our prayer life is very important to us. A lukewarm man would not have won her over.
But here are some funny stories (or scary ones) from the other 399
- I had women ask me to meet at a firing range for a first date (creepy, and this is strike talking here)
- I had a woman get angry and demand to be the mother of my children (super creepy)
- I had the aforementioned father-issue woman
- I met a woman who was probably just going to be a friend, and before seeing her the train I would have taken was derailed, killing several people
- And then I ended up meeting the woman I'm with now, who's inner beauty and servant's heart is so beautiful, not a single person who has ever met her doesn't immediately fall in love with her (myself included). For some reason she feels the same way about me.
So my advice to people is to never give up, even when you're paying to be ignored, you might just find what you were looking for if it's on God's timing. And please be careful! Do not give out phone numbers quickly, meet in public places, etc!
And if you find success, be prayerful and ever vigilant. The relationship is more work even when you both communicate well about literally everything. Sacrifices will be made, hearts will be molded, and bonds will be forged. And you might get hurt - that's the risk you run. It's one that you have to be willing to take or you'll never succeed.
I'm currently laid up with the flu, so hopefully this post made sense.
