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Thousands Aimee ?!?! 
Aint nobody got time for that !
Aint nobody got time for that !
People seem to forget... The Bible itself says that Solomon had 300 wives and 700 concubines. He was probably with many others besides those. If you just include the thousand, even if he visited one per day, it would have taken him nearly 4 years to make even one "round".
Many of the guys I've discussed this with around my age have a "number" of around 40. "Thousands" might be extreme but, crazy as it sounds, 100 these days doesn't seem like an all that uncommon number.
As Aimee said, one can only speak for their own life. And as Nautilus has said several times... interestingly enough (and due to a biased culture), men don't want women with a "high" number but don't seem to have a problem with it for themselves.
What if women aren't attracted to men with a high number? I'm not, and that's just my own personal preference. Why is abstinence and virginity so often marketed towards women and not men? To me, the thought of having to wait and see if your future spouse passes numerous STD tests over time (because many of these infections can lie dormant for years and appear later on) is definitely NOT attractive.
Men want virgins--not only in the Christian circle, but society still puts a pedestal up for the act of marrying a virgin woman. Funny how the thought of marrying a virgin man is often swept under the rug and not discussed. Women hope to find men who haven't given themselves to every woman who ever walked in the room. The man who's had 30 partners doesn't want the woman who's had 10. The woman who's had 10 partners is afraid she can't find any man to accept her.
Once again... no wonder we're all single.
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These were the quotes I was referring to, Nautilus--nothing towards your own personal history, but the fact that as you've said, most guys don't want women with histories.
Or at least, what they see as being "too much" of a history.
Yet anyone, history or not, hopes to find someone to love and accept them.
All we can hope for is that they will be willing to let God open their heart to the right person. That includes me as well, because if God wanted me to marry someone with, let's say, a 40-person history... He'd have to do A LOT of work on me. I would be picturing him with all these other women and would figure he has nothing left for me. I'd feel like just another notch and number... A Kleenex... used and discarded.
But that's just me.
Or at least, what they see as being "too much" of a history.
Yet anyone, history or not, hopes to find someone to love and accept them.
All we can hope for is that they will be willing to let God open their heart to the right person. That includes me as well, because if God wanted me to marry someone with, let's say, a 40-person history... He'd have to do A LOT of work on me. I would be picturing him with all these other women and would figure he has nothing left for me. I'd feel like just another notch and number... A Kleenex... used and discarded.
But that's just me.
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A question, would things change if the man was celibate since becoming a Christian? Not sort of thinking he is a Christian the entire time?
Just wondering... Because for me I think it would. If someone called themselves a Christian yet had several sexual partners during this period I would be extremely wary, where someone who slept around before becoming a Christian would be different for me I think.
Just wondering... Because for me I think it would. If someone called themselves a Christian yet had several sexual partners during this period I would be extremely wary, where someone who slept around before becoming a Christian would be different for me I think.