Work Issues...How far do I take it?

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Bridget_Left_China

Bridget_Left_China

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So.. I posed this question on Facebook earlier:

What do you call it when your boss allows some employees to do as they please while the rest are subjected to a strict adherence to rules/policies?
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For example: One co-worker can leave her classroom unattended for long periods of time (a major no-no) and nothing is said or done though the management is aware of this habit, I haven't seen a few other employees come to work in uniform ever, and they get nothing said to them. Meanwhile, my other co-worker came in to work not in uniform ONCE and was told off.

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I got a few interesting answers, and some cynical garbage as well. I know not all jobs are like this. But what would you do?

After you've pondered your response, chew on this:

The boss is of a particular race, and the employees she allows to do as they please are of the same particular race, while those who must follow the rules to the nuance...are of a different race.

Disclaimer: My goal isn't to start an angerfest/race war/etc on CC. I am just in the middle of this situation right now, and I am not sure where to go. If I turn the boss in, I will likely be subjecting myself to an hostile work environment.. (Even more hostile than it is already...) If I let it go, the boss will continue unabated in her perceived favoritism. Help!
 
Toska

Toska

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Pray, pray, pray.

I had something kind of similar happen not too long ago. I am a teacher and we had a department meeting. The meeting basically consisted of all of us getting chewed out for not doing our jobs (we are one of the hardest working departments in the school--not my words, it is what many others have said), because we have too many students with F's (40-45%), because we are not following the gazillion standards that have been put in place in only the math department. We were talked to very rudely, I felt so degraded. I was in tears by the time I got back to my class because I was so angry. And, of course, I had to teach a class right then and try to hide from the kids that I was upset.

I waited two weeks and then had a meeting with the principal. I made sure that I was calm, not angry. I discussed the things that were said in the meeting that I disagreed with (for example I have less than 20% F's and most of those are students that are in constant trouble and miss more class than they attend). I won't go into a ton of details but, waiting until I was calm and talking to him as an adult did a lot of good. He listened to what I had to say and also listened to my ideas. I did not go in just to complain. I went in with his list of issues and had answers for them or questions of my own about how he would like me to handle the situation.

How you approach a person that you disagree with is a huge thing. If you go in on the offensive, you are not going to get very far. If you try to be reasonable and discuss the issues, you should get better results. This is just my opinion based on my life experiences.

God Bless and I hope you are able to come to some sort of resolution about these problems.
 
Elizabeth619

Elizabeth619

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Bridget_Left_China said:
So.. I posed this question on Facebook earlier:

For example: One co-worker can leave her classroom unattended for long periods of time (a major no-no) and nothing is said or done though the management is aware of this habit, I haven't seen a few other employees come to work in uniform ever, and they get nothing said to them. Meanwhile, my other co-worker came in to work not in uniform ONCE and was told off.

​
I got a few interesting answers, and some cynical garbage as well. I know not all jobs are like this. But what would you do?

After you've pondered your response, chew on this:

The boss is of a particular race, and the employees she allows to do as they please are of the same particular race, while those who must follow the rules to the nuance...are of a different race.

Disclaimer: My goal isn't to start an angerfest/race war/etc on CC. I am just in the middle of this situation right now, and I am not sure where to go. If I turn the boss in, I will likely be subjecting myself to an hostile work environment.. (Even more hostile than it is already...) If I let it go, the boss will continue unabated in her perceived favoritism. Help!
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I'll turn your boss in. :)
Who do I contact?

Seriously, people are being treated unfairly, and that is a form of discrimmination. IF one doesn't put a stop to it then it could spiral out of control. You do what you feel is best. It could be best not to "meddle" in it if it doesn't directly involved you, and then again doing nothing could also be damaging.
 
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Legally you might be able to call it ''hostile work environment'' or out and out discrimination. Only a lawyer could tell you if either or both is the situation.
 
Toska

Toska

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If you are going to contact a lawyer, make sure you have documented proof.

God Bless, I pray this all turns out for the best for you.
 
Bridget_Left_China

Bridget_Left_China

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I talked to the boss today because one of her favorite employees has a habit of yelling at/embarrassing/"Going off" on other employees in public ways (In front of fellow coworkers), and has been the reason for a few employees giving their two-week notice and quitting. This is the second time I have talked to the boss about this teacher in a rational, calm way. It is brushed-off, or ignored when this woman is complained about. She is too close to the boss. She is untouchable as far as I can see.

So, my quandary is about whether or not to go above the Boss' head to Corporate. I have one other worker who will corroborate my story, but the other workers are most likely going to be too afraid to stick their necks out.
 
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Elizabeth619

Elizabeth619

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Bridget_Left_China said:
I talked to the boss today because one of her favorite employees has a habit of yelling at/embarrassing/"Going off" on other employees in public ways (In front of fellow coworkers), and has been the reason for a few employees giving their two-week notice and quitting. This is the second time I have talked to the boss about this teacher in a rational, calm way. It is brushed-off, or ignored when this woman is complained about. She is too close to the boss. She is untouchable as far as I can see.

So, my quandary is about whether or not to go above the Boss' head to Corporate. I have one other worker who will corroborate my story, but the other workers are most likely going to be too afraid to stick their neck's out.
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If it was ME, I would go to the higher ups, but thats just me.
 
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