I don't know that your seeing exactly why im trying to express but you seem to have the heart of it.. and I think a true bible student should have a understanding of all scripture and be able to rightly divide its truth in regards the Cross of the Lord. And what I said was exactly what the bible teaches, that the Holy Spirit sheds the love of God abroad in our hearts and that love fulfills all the law. In effect that is the true law of God, not the written code, but the Spirit of God.
Legalism is best described as those who try to obey God by the "letter" and not by the "Spirit"... the "letter" meaning the legal code or dogma of the law. But that could extend unto any religious work to justify oneself apart from faith.
I'm likely not understanding exactly what you're trying to express, but I'm asking questions to try to get a better understanding of your view, so I thank you for taking the time to answer them.
I try to use the full counsel of God to guide my life -- that being the Scriptures (cover to cover), the example of the Messiah, and the Holy Spirit. I also believe, like you, that love fulfills the Law. But I'm using "fulfill" in the sense that love brings forth the full intended meaning and goal of the Law and it completes the Law in the sense that it is an integral component of the Law. In this sense, I'm trying to depict a unity between the "letter of the Law" (the legal code, as you call it -- what God handed down to us in writing through the prophets) and the "spirit of the Law."
I might be misunderstanding your definition of legalism. Are you saying that a legalist keeps
only the "letter of the Law" and not the "spirit of the Law," while a non-legalist keeps
both the "letter of the Law" and the "spirit of the Law"? Or are you saying the non-legalist keeps
only the "spirit of the Law" and not the "letter of the Law"?
To give a practical example, the "letter of the Law" says not to commit adultery. The Messiah expounds on this, teaching about the "spirit of the Law" (if you want to call it such), and says that to even look at someone with lust is committing adultery in the heart. In this case, wouldn't it make sense to teach that we should be keeping both the letter and the spirit? As the Messiah is certainly implying, I would teach someone to both not commit physical adultery or lust after another. This is generally how I approach a life serving God in the Messiah: it's not just about outward appearances and actions, but the inside of the cup must also be cleansed, which is through the blood of the Messiah and continually renewed by guidance of the Holy Spirit, which leads us away from works of iniquity/unrighteousness and toward works of obedience in love. Are there cases where keeping the "spirit of the Law" does away with the need to keep the "letter of Law"? There may be some but I wouldn't say this is the general case. In practice, I would personally default toward needing to follow both and would need to single out the cases where some spiritual sense of the Law takes away the need to keep the physical or letter sense of the Law, and even some of those are probably debatable.
I believe that keeping the "letter of the Law" without the "spirit of the Law" produces dead works, with which you may agree, but I'm not sure I would say this is the full Biblical theological definition of legalism. I would refine the definition to say that legalism is attempting to earn salvation through obedience to the Law. Thus, it's
not legalistic to teach people to keep the command to not physically commit adultery because this should be the response of someone who is guided by the Holy Spirit to abide in God's will by love. I would say it
is legalistic to tell someone they are not saved by grace through faith in the Messiah but instead must first prove themselves by keeping this or other commands and that salvation is made manifest at some later point once we have demonstrated we are worthy. That's not good news at all, but it is good news that God will save us through faith
not as a result of our works or actions, and His Spirit will transform us and enable us to live out His will as communicated in the instructions He has provided for us through His Word, the example of the Messiah, and the guidance of the Holy Spirit.
I get a sense that many people employ a more conventional definition of the word "legalism," -- they are against someone who would compel another believer to keep a certain command that is not generally practiced by the wider body of believers today. For example, they are alright with one teaching someone else to not commit adultery, but as soon as one teaches another not to eat unclean meats, they will quickly call them a legalist. In this sense, the two definitions of legalism that I presented (the theological one, and the conventional one) are not the same.
Looking forward to your response.