Ephesians 4:32 King James Version (KJV)
32 And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ's sake hath forgiven you.
Colossians 3:13 King James Version (KJV)
13 Forbearing one another, and forgiving one another, if any man have a quarrel against any: even as Christ forgave you, so also do ye.
Notice that God "hath" forgiven us, and therefore we forgive others. It is not something we do in order to obtain God's forgiveness, because His forgiveness has been given already. He is our example, and we emulate that forgiveness, not being hypocrites. In revelation of His mercy and grace, we who are made into Christ's image, also give forgiveness. A good tree bears good fruit.
People see the words of Christ and from a self-righteous perspective see it as a law to be obeyed or else. I better forgive, or God won't forgive me, but then what forgiveness can truly be expressed from the heart? It is sourced in fear and not love. The law told us to do things in order to obtain, a ministry of condemnation (for when you fell short, you were condemned). Likewise, to forgive or God won't forgive you, sets a standard for some that is unattainable and they would be condemned.
Yet there is hope. God sanctifies us, and as believers in Christ we are transformed. We are new creations. So it is not that we forgive in order to be forgiven, it is that God has forgiven us and through such forgiveness are we able to forgive others. It is by His grace and mercy, a revelation of His love and who we become once in Christ, that gives us the ability to forgive. Scripture tells us that a good tree bears good fruit, and so a believer will forgive others, as a consequence of the new birth, God's sanctification, and in growing in the grace and knowledge of Jesus Christ.
One thing to keep in mind is the conditional nature of forgiveness through repentance. This forgiveness isn't unconditional in the sense of forgiving all people who have offended thee but didn't repent (Luke 17:3-4). Even God's forgiveness to humanity is through repentance (and not universally applied). Now I am not saying we should hold bitterness and resentment towards those who are unrepentant. We have an attitude of forgiveness towards them as well ("love your enemies"), and if they should repent, you would express such forgiveness for their sake.
This is like someone coming to you remorseful and in sorrow, being apologetic for their wrongs and asking you to forgive them. How can you resist and withhold from them forgiveness? Especially you who are forgiven of all sin? It would be hypocritical and where is your love? It keeps no record of wrongs. Forgive them as God for Christ's sake has forgiven you.
God made it so that we could love. It is who we now are in Christ.
I don't know if you know it or not, but we have more than one tree and one kind of tree in each of us, even as there was more than one tree and one kind of tree in the garden of Eden.
The earth or ground always represents the heart, whether it be of man or God, and plants have represented the varying types of spirits planted within said ground/heart.
God did not remove the old man/corrupt tree, with corrupt spirits within it, which causes man to act like the dominate spirit within it.
But He did give us a new man/good tree, with good spirits within it, which causes man to act like the dominate spirit within it.
Which also means there is also more than one kind or type of spirit.
Luk 9:54 And when his disciples
James and John saw this, they said, Lord, wilt thou that we command fire to come down from heaven, and consume them, even as Elias did?
Luk 9:55 But
he turned, and
rebuked them, and said,
Ye know not what manner of spirit ye are of.
Luk 9:56 For the Son of man is not come to destroy men's lives, but to save them. And they went to another village.
At that moment, James and John had another spirit that got hold of them, even as it happened to Peter.
Mar 8:33 But when he had turned about and looked on his disciples,
he rebuked Peter, saying,
Get thee behind me, Satan: for thou savourest not the things that be of God, but the things that be of men.
Point being, we are suppose to be dead to sin and alive unto righteousness, but the truth is most of us give in to the old man and it's ways, hence, one of the battles within.
Which brings me to the other point. That being that there is more than one kind of forgiveness as there is more than one kind of sin.
In Romans 8:2 we learn that there is a law of sin and a law of death.
One affects our eternal destiny and the other affects our quality of life on earth.
Those who are born again, have received forgiveness of sins for salvation and from curses of the law of sin, at the moment of conversion, but not when they sin afterwards.
One is still born again when they sin again after conversion, but the law of sin is not over ruled by the law of grace.
Again I say that God does not punish, rebuke, chastise, or judged the guiltless, forgiven, sinless, righteous, obedient, and the just, but the guilty, unforgiven, sinful, unrighteous, disobedient, and the wicked. If He did chastise those who are righteous in His eyes, then He would be and unjust God.
God did not have the devil attack Job because he was righteous, but because he was sinning. He was righteous in his own heart, and did everything he thought he was suppose to do, and therefore he was a law unto himself, in that, his heart did not condemn anything he did.
When one of God's children sins, He punishes them in the natural, as scripture clearly shows repeatedly. That should not be contested. There are consequences to those who sin and to their families.
So if the born again child of God is chastised, it is because they were not forgiven of the sin they are being chastised for. Otherwise, God would not be just.
You don't wipe a persons slate clean, as though they never sinned, only to punish them for the sin you cleared them of. Think about that.
It also goes against the other laws of God such as sowing and reaping.
Why do you think so many people are weak and sickly? Even as they were with those who took communion unworthily?
Paul said if we were to judge ourselves, we should not be judged.
That means, the sin remains until one repents and confesses it, as it states in 1 John.
You are ignoring so many scriptures to make your doctrine work, while ignoring the realities of life.
As far as your salvation goes, for the most part, it remains untouched when we sin. But when it comes to the natural part, we are subject to the law of sin, and the consequences of it, when we sin.
The law of grace comes into effect AGAIN WHEN we repent of those sins, and the blood of Jesus, once again, cleanses us from all sin, through the same sacrifice that God used to forgive us the first time we came to Christ in faith.
We are not of the law but we are to fulfill it, through faith in Christ. If we are commissioned to fulfill the law, wouldn't He be a hypocrite if He did any different?
And we are to forgive even those who do not repent or ask for our forgiveness. I have done so, many times. If you forgive those who have forgiven you, what reward have you?
Mat 6:14 For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you:
Mat 6:15 But if ye forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.
Mat 18:33 Shouldest not thou also have had compassion on thy fellowservant, even as I had pity on thee?
Mat 18:34
And his lord was wroth, and delivered him to the tormentors, till he should pay all that was due unto him.
Mat 18:35
So likewise shall my heavenly Father do also unto you, if ye from your hearts forgive not every one his brother their trespasses.
These laws/promises do not get overwritten or ignored just because one is born again.
They might not lose their salvation, but they most certainly can lose out on God's favor and grace when it comes to healing or other answered prayers.
The very reason John the Baptist was sent ahead of Jesus was to get the people of God to repent SO THAT JESUS COULD BOTH HEAL AND DELIVER THEM.
God is the same today as He was back then, and He will do the same today for those who repent, as He did for them back then.
FORGIVENESS OF ONE'S SINS, IS CONDITIONAL. In order for one not to be judged or chastised, they must judge themselves and repent, and then they will not be judged, AS IT IS WRITTEN.