The issue is not whether or not anyone, with any belief can gather passages of scripture(Or facts, data ...) that they can "use" to support their beliefs, and whether or not they can gather passages of scripture(Or facts, data ...) that they can "use" to refute opposing beliefs. Everyone can. The problem is that no one using this method wants the truth. As a matter of fact, their eyes and ears are firmly closed lest they see or hear the truth. Their beliefs are far more important than the truth is.
So who's on which side, are the Calvinists wrong or the Armenians? Yes. The problem is with what is loved, ... the beliefs, and not truth. The problem is that both will ignore context, flow of thought, flow of discussion and arguments, consistent meaning of words/root words as they are used throughout scripture... both will throw out logic and reason and accept contradictions, just to hold fast to their beliefs. Many will ignore clear interpretations of easy passages to interpret them instead in accordance with a muddy passage that they can make "appear" to support their beliefs.
If you want truth, then you must gather every passage that might apply to the topic at hand, and not just the passages that you and your opponents "select out" to prove your beliefs true. You must hold to the context, flow of thought, flow of discussion, consistent meaning of words as they are used throughout scripture, EVEN WHEN YOU MUST DISCARD THEM AS IRRELEVANT TO THE BELIEFS YOU WULD LIKE TO SEE SUPORTED. You must interpret the fuzzy passages in the light of the clear passages on the exact same topics, not the other way around because you can make them support your beliefs.
That which you love least will always be altered, and forced to conform, to that which you love most. Everyone loves the truth, or their beliefs more.
Ok, but on losing your salvation, where do I stand? I stand on the fact that most people who believe themselves to be Christians aren't. "Many will say to Me, Lord, Lord ... and I will say to them, depart from Me ye who work iniquity for I knew you and you chose to leave Me." "They went out from us for ... while they were from us, they lost their salvation." "I have decided to deliver such a one(Who is in the church and is sleeping with his mother, and is non-repentant) over to Satan for the destruction of His flesh that his soul might burn in hell for his non-repentant sin."
I understand the "need" for some to change the scriptures to conform to their beliefs. I understand that there are still many of my beliefs that might still be wrong, because I have yet to even recognize my own inconsistencies. This is an issue that, first off, I couldn't care less which belief is true or not, other than I want to get to the truth and put it all together so that everything fits with everything else, with EVERYTHING "Cut-straight".
There are dozens of passages of scripture that "VERY CLEARLY" state that while there is a big group that never were Christians (Many on the broad path that leads to destruction, and, who went out because they were never of us.), that there is another big group that is TRULY Christian, and who refuse to judge themselves correctly, and thus receive the judgment of God, and thus were "sick", or "slept"(Physical death)(See the Lord's supper incident), because they did not want to recognize their sins and repent.
This is not a loss of "sonship", resulting in being un-adopted into the kingdom of heaven. This is proof that, while unrepentant, and sinning, that they remain children of God, even to the point where their stiff necks are broken (Destruction of the flesh). If they lose sonship, then they no longer receive judgment now. Making this passage non-sensical, as well as others.
1Co 11:27 Therefore whoever eats the bread or drinks the cup of the Lord in an unworthy manner, shall be guilty of the body and the blood of the Lord. 28 But a man must examine himself, and in so doing he is to eat of the bread and drink of the cup. 29 For he who eats and drinks, eats and drinks judgment to himself if he does not judge the body rightly. 30 For this reason many among you are weak and sick, and a number sleep. 31 But if we judged ourselves rightly, we would not be judged. 32 But when we are judged, we are disciplined by the Lord so that we will not be condemned along with the world.
oh yes, I understand that those who differ in opinion can readily state that I am guilty of the same thing, picking out passages and verses to readily support my beliefs and to refute all opposing beliefs. Due to the limited nature of a forum, the ability to go over each and every passage here, along with context, an examination of every place each and every key word / root word that is found in every passage is used and holding to a meaning that fully fits in EVERY place, is beyond the scope of the medium. Who would read such a post?
Yes, there are such issues as "close to being cursed and it ends up being burned". where "Close to being" is ESSENTIAL, and looking up other passages where burning is described after salvation, and after death, where, because of loss of rewards, due to burning, people end up walking into heaven with no rewards whatsoever, are key. Be careful on how you build on your foundation.
Again, the "clear" passages are the foundation. The more difficult require work beyond the scope of the capabilities here.